A 50 year old can be as immature as an 18 year old, and a 30 year old an be as mature as a 50 year old.
Good case in point.
My friend Thomas. (The reason I came to Switzerland)
He is being pursued by a woman who is 14 years younger than him. He has been single for a little over 2 months, and he has been telling her that it would not work out and the age difference is too great and ... and ... and ... Lots of reasons why not. But still she pursues.
They have the same interests in sport, music, concerts and literature, and still he says no.
so, last night he popped in for his usual evening cup of coffee (one fo the two I am allowed ) and we had a very long chat about this.
His reasoning is that it would never work. The age difference is so great that there is always going to be something that the age difference will bring up. But, I argued, (I have met this girl) she is on the same mental level as him. They talk about their common interests and although she doesnt want a full time relationship (it is impractical, as she works nights and he works days) she does want to do stuff with him. The weekends are all they have, and although it is not every weekend, she still says lets do it. But he is still reticent about it. The age thing is still in his mind.
But it is interesting to see how my normal (have-a-good-time-kinda-guy) friend is wary of a, even part time relationship, with this girl.
She is 28, and he is nearly 43.
I reckon they should go for it, and I told him, that what does he have to lose? Every now and again, someone (Who he likes a lot BTW) will drop a pebble in the pond of his life and then after the ripple has subsided life continues on as if nothing had happened.
1) Get some soft relaxing music. Normally something about 10 minutes long with no words. I use Samual Becker's Adagio for strings (pm with an email me and I will send it to you)
2) You need a comfortable sitting or lying position. I use a normal chair and just get a good seating position. I used to sit in the middle of the floor with my legs crossed, but my knees sound like cracking walnuts after I do this now.
3) Turn off all the lights, or close the curtains, and close your eyes
4) Take a slooooow big breath in, and count to 5 in your mind.
5) Breathe out really slowly whilst counting 5 in your mind
6) Just repeat this for a little while until you can feel your heart slowing down. You must concentrate on controlling your breathing to slow things down
7) Now whilst continuing to breathe slowly in and out, imagine that you are in a place of deep relaxation. It could be a field or the beach, or on a mountain. But it has to be a place where you are alone, and you can see the flowers and the trees and the birds.
8) Then allow the music to seep back into your thoughts and imagine the music playing, and gently follow the tone of the music. Follow its rises and falls, its higs and its lows.
9) Now return to the place of relaxation, and further enjoy the feelings around you. The fresh breeze coming off the mountains, or the smell of heather in your nostrils .. use your imagination to bring you breathing under control so that it is rythmical, slow and deep.
10) after 7 minutes of the music, it will reach a crescendo, this will be your awakening
VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU DO NOT OPEN YOUR EYES HERE!!!!
11) after about 15 seconds the music will resume and you must continue to listen to the music to allow it to bring you out of the relaxed state you are in. If you open your eyes here, then the complete state of relaxation will be lost.
12) Ride the tone of the music to your awakening, and all the time you will be breathing deeply.
13) the music will finish slowly and whenit has finished,and you can no longer hear it, take one more deep breath in and out,and then open your eyes.
This works for me ... I awake ready to kill dead things .. really mellow
I like beer. It makes me a jolly good fellow I like beer. It helps me unwind And sometimes it makes me feel mellow (Makes him feel mellow) Whiskey's too rough, Champagne costs too much, And vodka puts my mouth in gear Aw, this little refrain Should help me explain As a matter of fact I love beer (Yes, he likes beer).
Yep going to do that now as well ... Going to be doing my teacher training course soon
Before ...
Owned a pub Managed hotels and night clubs in the UK County Court Bailiff (collecting unpaid court money in the East End of London) Motorcycle courier Diving Instructor - Malaysia/Thailand/Australia/Egypt First Aid instructor Children's entertainer/Juggler - S. Coast UK Computer programmer Personal Security ¦ ¦ ¦ A period of non-disclosure ¦ ¦ V Picked grapes in the Loire valley, oranges in the Peloponnese Packed Lettuces, Tulips & Hyacinth Bulbs in Den Haag Cleaned the inside of ocean-going Oil Tankers in Rotterdam Been a barman in Greece, a car "exporter" in Poland and been thrown out of four different countries for being an illegal immigrant!
Oh, and got refused entry into Turkey for having the wrong stamp in my passport!
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) and we had a very long chat about this.
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