BerrySmoothie Forum Posts (4,733)

RE: …Do women want to be judged on their looks?

I like to present well when out and about, but wear minimal cosmetics.

I exercise regularly, eat healthy and look after myself.

Round home, it's hair down, ol jeans, no make-up, T-shirt....sometimes nip down to the supermarket in that garb.

Of course, we like to feel good and we do what we have to do to impress.

...but....bottom line....he must like ME(inner me).

RE: Post you're current mood/emotion below.....!!

Chilled as in relaxed....

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 30 - 11

Ginny Blackmore.....Sing For Me

RE: HAKA Wedding

To the uninitiated, the haka does seem strange, but it is long held tradition only.

We don't all run round in grass skirts, jumping up and down, poking out our tongues....

The men, traditionally, used the haka before battle....so soft looks and handshakes wouldn't have gone down well at the time.

In modern times, aside from international rugby matches, the haka is primarily performed to greet/honour people. Women do get involved in the haka too, but, traditionally they were more prominent with the poi and stick and wiata....and are much more pleasing on the eye. Not scary at all....

RE: HAKA Wedding

E haere mai koe

Honouring or intimidation.....depends on the occasion. Before an All Blacks match, definitely the latter....

RE: HAKA Wedding

The haka has deep spiritual significance for the Maori, so it is very emotive for all(performers and spectators).

Happy New Year to U2 Gal....

RE: Why r people so Nosy ?

RE: HAKA Wedding

RE: HAKA Wedding

Hi Gal,

The haka (plural haka, in both Maori and English) is a traditional war cry, war dance, or challenge in Maori culture. It is a posture dance performed by a group, with vigorous movements and stamping of the feet with rhythmically shouted accompaniment.

War haka were originally performed by warriors before a battle, proclaiming their strength and prowess in order to intimidate the opposition, but haka are also performed to welcome distinguished guests, or to acknowledge great achievements, occasions or funerals, and kapa haka (performing arts) groups are very common in schools.

New Zealand sports teams' practice of performing a haka before their international matches has made the haka more widely known around the world

Excerpt above taken from Wikipedia.

It's considered a great honour for a haka to be performed/bestowed on someone.

Yes, it's traditional and I have a lot of respect for this cultural dance when performed correctly.

RE: Your experience or opinion......

...and that's probably the reason WHY I never got married....

RE: Old Words

Hmmmm.....not so much old words....more old proverbs.

My Dad was a beaut with them....his timing was brilliant....and it would usually sum things up nicely.

Yanno the ones:

"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink"

"Never look a gift-horse in the mouth"

"Birds of a feather......flock together"

"Too many cooks spoil the broth"....etc.

I hear myself repeating them to my children now.

RE: What do u think of a psychologist ?

Snooks,

You mention your ex a lot, a sure sign you're not actually over what occurred between the two of you.

It's time you put it behind you.

Block all his current attempts to contact you and your sons.

When your sons are older, they may wish to contact their father on their own bat.....which will be out of your control. The meeting may be beneficial for them.

....but for now....move on with your life, busy yourself and look ahead, not back.

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 30 - 11

Gin Wigmore.....Devil In Me

RE: Astrology

My apologies....

I misinterpreted your initial comment.

As you were....

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 30 - 11

Halestorm.....All I Wanna Do Is Make Love To You

RE: Can u be swayed by a expensive gift ?

Nope.

RE: Do u want to get married ?

No....probably not.

I don't feel there's a need to.

RE: Do we really have choice?

I find a break between relationships helps.

There are those that are known to roll from bed to bed.....never really dealing with issues and their responsibility towards the previous breakdown.

RE: Do we really have choice?

I think you're being too analytical.....sometimes we just got to relax with it all.

Most people our age have rid themselves of exes or have a reasonably good understanding between themselves.

The newly separated with young children probably have the most issues with ex-partners, as emotions are still running high.

The first thing is to find compatability.....and everything else will instinctively fall into place.....or that's the theory.....

RE: Do we really have choice?

Hmmm.....I've never looked at children as "baggage"

...and as Serene has already pointed out, most women around your own age, assuming that's the age group you're interested in, will be independent of their children....or almost.

"Baggage" to me is unresolved issues pertaining to one's past....and at our age....there are plenty who have amassed a bucket load of crap. They need to be "ready" for a relationship, having dealt with their demons....and available emotionally.

Finding THAT person, I agree, is difficult.

RE: If u look back on ur life - Was it Boring / Interesting in ur book ?

Never a dull moment.

Much too personal to share...

RE: Astrology

Cally

... @ your apparent inference that I may be being dogmatic..... tis just my POV.

I've investigated astrology enough to know it doesn't work for me.

Hey, whatever spins ya wheels.

As I said ...."each to their own"

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

*difficult time*

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

Yes, a difficult for you and family.....

My Christmas? We're experiencing soaring high temps over here at the mo....making things a little uncomfortable, especially yesterday.

Despite that we all happily stuffed our faces....and will, no doubt, suffer for days now, for it.

We got some rain today which was a huge relief.

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

Hi John,

How was your Christmas?

What is it now?.....close to lunchtime Boxing Day?

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

I go in with great gusto too....but I'm no spring chicken anymore....by the end of the day I was cast on the couch, my usually favourite "Joy to the World" Christmas earrings thrown to the floor in disgust cos I'd stuffed my face with too much of Mum's cheesecake.....basically a corpse....

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

Thanks Serene...

Had a nice day with family....quiet....just the way I like it.....though wilted a little with the heat.....i think I'd much prefer the snow at Christmas time....

Hope you had a good day yourself...

RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

Phone him.

RE: Astrology

I'm not a follower/believer in astrology.

I don't allow a zodiac sign to dictate my movements. In fact, it has zilch effect on any decisions I make concerning people.

....but each to their own.