It's the big 40 for an old friend soon and I'm wondering if I'm on the right track gift wise. The shortlist
A sea fishing trip Special edition of his fave single malt Tickets for Glastonbury (if I get them ) Book a cottage and stock the fridge for a boozy boys weekend with his mates (afraid this could go wrong and it be left in a state)
any other ideas? Have a week to decide before Glasto tickets go on sale.
It's a reflection on our society that we saw this happen all over the inner cities in UK and Ireland during the early 80's. A supposed war was waged against the scourge of heroin - all of a sudden we all had a few bob and we were all too busy to notice whether we won the war or not. 25 years on and it's like nothing changed.
I shared a house with a guy when I was 18 that was a neat freak. He wouldn't let us use the hoover for fear we might break it and so hoovered my bedroom every Saturday at noon. weird.
The culture of the supposed designer drugs was born of an entirely different set of circumstances to heroin. While the results and implications are similar for the people and families involved, the circumstances were entirely different and came about from an excess rather than dire hardship. Also better educated and better income families will find more and greater resources than those on the lower socio-economic scale to help with rehabilitation.
Like the guys above said - you start with yourself. See this as you time and take care of yourself - lie in bed and read trash, browse the web and chat on forums think up a challenge for yourself, try something new. Think of it is as nurturing time - not deserted time.
I like writing letters but have got out of the habit recently - I used to send a lot of cards too. I have a Parker fountain especially for letter writing and I'd love a Mont Blanc pen but I have never quite had the nerve to spend that much on a pen. I agree - letters are great but have not had one for ages, my mum used to write now and again but once she got a mobile that was the end of it . Only bills for me.
So I decided to restore my karmic medians by having my thought - perhaps I can't see things straight cos my fringe is too long. Discovered my hairdresser is a one haircut kinda guy, I took in a pic that was totally different to the last time he "styled" it and came out with exactly the same haircut - although this time in a rather bizarre shade of ginger blonde. Think marmalade cat meets randy hedgehog and that is what appears to be on top of my head and like a randy hedgehog can do nothing with it. As far as haircuts go it as at least on par with the Vinnie Jones shaved tramlines I used to wear when he was a Wimbledon demi god ... 'Fess up who had a mohawk (tried that to) or a mullet, or still has ? I am off to buy a hat .
where to start.... I have done everything I can to keep things civil with the ex, when we split he begged me not to take the kids and move, so despite having a desire at the time to run home to mummy, I did stay. He wants to come around and see the kids 3/4 times a week but when he does, it's when it suits him - he eats whatever he likes (and always eats the biscuits, sweets, fruit etc - I don't buy much of it but it infuriates me to offer the kids a biscuit only to find an empty packet), stays for as long as suits him and gets such a pissy face on if I ask him to watch them for an hour (I have 3 times in 10 months). When he his here all he does is moan and criticise the girls until I just want him to go and they've reached the stage where they don't want to talk to him in the evening. he does take the girls on a Sunday but it is literally to his mothers (using my car - leaving me stuck at home) and then he goes off and does his own thing. I asked him if he'd take dd1 swimming and all she gets is a "we'll see" and that she wouldn't swim in the sea in summer so what's the point of going swimming - she was 3, why would she want to swim in the sea ? He uses my car 3/4 times a week and I have gone to do the school run and had no petrol When I put it down, it seems like such little petty things but I feel that it all equates to disregard for his kids an me as their mother and I just want to give him a wake up call.
I tried an i-phone cos I specifically wanted to use the Skype app, swapped from PAYG to contract but could not get Skype to work at all (or the radio most of the time, or net most of the time). Anyone using Skype on their mobile and what kind of package should I be looking at .... willing to change providers. It's all Greek to me and I always end up buying what the sales person wants me to buy I also would like to add music, use E-mail and internet ....
yes I think all single mums do have a chance and I think sometimes it's us as single mums that put excess pressure on ourselves. I know single mums who seem to choose the wrong men continually cos they simply think they have to be grateful that any man will take them and their kids on. Personally my life is better now as a single mum than it was in a poor relationship. I know it's hard to be on your own but there's a huge difference between being on your own and feeling lonely. Cliched but true - concentrate on giving you and your kids the best of life and some guy will see that and want to be part of it.
So a good walk shook off my hangover - DD1 is at nana's, DD2 hving a nap and I get to eat a low fat Tikka straight out of the microwave still in its plastic tub. No cooking. No washing up. Oh the joy. I'm not hard to please.
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to you and your new hubby.
birthday gift advice
thanks!He's into food in a big way - was a chef and loves out door sports and music - old stuff mostly (60, 70, 80s).
I'd like to come up with soemthing a bit out of the ordinary but still relevant to him iykwim.
Quirky is good too.