There are many online dating success stories, but also some horror stories. Everyone wants to believe they are smart enough to spot the red flags. Unfortunately it's easy to see what you want to see and ignore the warning signs. Here are four signs that you are naive when it comes to online dating.
This is a common mistake women who online date make. It's understandable that you want to believe someone loves you, but the person saying it doesn't even know you, so it can't be a true statement. There could be a number of reasons he says he loves you. He could feel a connection and think it's love. He might be insecure and afraid of all the competition in the online dating world. It doesn't mater what the reason is. What's important is that you don't believe men who say they love you when they haven't met you yet.
If he tells you that his grandmother just passed away and has no money to fly to her funeral and you don't believe anyone would ever lie about something like that, you are a naive online dater. The internet is full of scam artists who will work their way into your heart to get what they want from you. People will lie about being horribly sick, being stuck in another country with no way out, and even having been arrested in order to scam you out of money. If you not only believe his stories, but send him money to help him out of his jams, you are dangerously naive. By being this naive you could find yourself in serious financial trouble one day because once a man realizes you are willing to give him money, he will continue trying to get more.
This is another trait of naive women who date online. The chances that a man you meet online will actually leave his wife and family for you are slim to none. There is a reason he is online dating. It's because he doesn't have to invest more than his free time, and when he does, he gets to enjoy himself. He can complain about his wife or girlfriend and have a sympathetic ear, or he can hide the fact he is married and enjoy feeling totally free to be anyone he pretends to be. He can have his emotional and sexual needs filled online and remain with his wife. Remember that a man who is married (or has a serious girlfriend) but goes online to have a good time is getting the best of both worlds.
It's a nice thought that you'll connect with someone right away; you'll meet and things will work out perfectly. Unfortunately that's not how things work when online dating. People do successfully meet online, but don't rush things and don't assume that once you connect with someone, you've met your match and can stop looking. The more time you spend online meeting people, the more you'll realize that you can connect with a variety of people, and they won't all be romantic relationships. Some of the connections you have will be false connections, like someone trying to scam you. You don't want to be naive and delete your profile or update your relationship status too quickly.
If you are a naive woman when it comes to online dating, you don't have to give up. You can hone your online dating skills and become a savvier online dater, which will lead to an increased chance of success.
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Comments (4)
Thanks God for the cyber world to help us not wasting time and income with them in the real life.
Since I've been on here, it seems that every place I look or click is some article, blog, or some post that is actually discouraging.
Call me an optimist, but I still believe that there are legitimate, honest men out there who want to meet real women. I also believe that there are people out there who still believe in love and romance. I'm one of them.
Granted, a large percentage of those people on this site are probably just looking for one night stands or casual relationships and generally write this whole site of as an entertaining joke. But, there are a few who are looking for a long term committed relationship. Yes, the marriage word. I'm one of those people.
Those of us who are legitimate, honest people looking for love on here
deserve a little bit more respect. Quit talking down to us. We are not idiots. We are intelligent adults capable of making our own decisions about people.
Love can and does happen. Who's to say it can't happen on here?