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Can a man be in love with two women?

I love my new girlfriend and she loves me… But I am also in love with the mother of her son and she is in love with me too. I don’t want to lose either of them.

Should I tell them about each other?

Or should I wait until they discover about each other?

Maybe I can marry both. These things happen in Africa.

It is not that I'm greedy; I just like a lot while I enjoy the variety.

Why, WHY, go looking for more frogs to kiss when you already met someone? Don’t we join singles website to meet someone special, to buy a ticket in the love lottery and hope to hit the jackpot? Okay, not every ticket pays out, not every date rings the bell, and a lot of princes and princesses are depressingly slimy and croaky in the flesh.

But if you’ve met someone and you’re seeing them regularly, it’s looking good, and more to the point, they trust you, STOP FCUKING AROUND.

There ARE people here who are openly in relationships, enjoy the blogs, and are utterly trustworthy. There are others who simply cannot resist temptation, and if you are one of those, remove it altogether. GO. Leave CS, leave singles websites altogether, tell the truth when others flirt with you, give your relationship a proper chance.

I do, we all do, wish you all the best luck in the world if you do

Oi. This is not about me!!!! I am single heart-free and very available

And yes have a tendency to interfere and give advice. But no other major faults. Cross my heart

I met these people, and for all I know they met on CS although that would be a fantastic coincidence and, if they read this blog, a little embarrassing. So I shall say nice things. They ARE nice.

He is, I don't know, middle-aged, very fit and bronzed, good-looking, with a drop-dead-gorgeous French accent for the perhaps 2 dozen English words he knows. Which is about as many French words as I know. He does also speak a little Spanish. About as much as I do. That's really not a lot of Spanish.

She is a little younger, mid to late forties? extremely attractive, Spanish, lives a few hours up the coast from here. She speaks no French and no English.

They are staying a week. Would you go away on holiday with someone you basically couldn't understand or speak to except in the most general of terms? For a week?

Many dating sites use mathematical algorithms to match people. And charge a lot of money for this service.

However, according to an article I recently read in the Washington Post, they are no better than random choice.

Why? Because they match basically on personality.
But studies have shown that people of similar personalities in long term relationships only make up 0.5% of the total, so basing a match on similar personalities is doomed to failure.

Relationship success basically depends on three things:
1. Individual characteristics - like whether you’re smart or what kinds of hang-ups you have around relationships
2. Quality of interaction - how you hit it off in-person;
3. Surrounding circumstances — stuff like your race or health or financial status.
(Finkel et al)


I was watching a series recently called Married at First Sight, where couples are matched scientifically by a panel.

4 couples were matched. They met for the first time at the altar. One couple had an obvious instant attraction to each other. All couples liked each other. They were well matched.

Fast forward 6 months. The only couple still together was the one who were instantly attracted to each other. The rest liked each other as friends only.

Maths and science can do so much, but nothing can account for that 'je ne sais quoi' or chemistry between people

I'm here to help you in anything you want help with, I've been told by many that I'm good with giving advice and I'm a good person to have a conversation with... With that said you can ask me anything... This blog is about what ever you want to talk about be it, relationship or casual talk...

Let's talk ? ?

I have blogged on this before, but I never got an answer that made sense to me so bear with me. To get the right answer, you have to ask the right question, so I’m trying. (I know, very )

I’m picky, okay, and there haven’t been many men in my life. When it reached decision time, commit to sharing lives or call it a day, I have in the past tried to commit, and felt so claustrophobic the relationship crashed, or I’ve backed out, and felt mainly relief - along with loneliness and regret, of course. But always, relief.

I asked a friend if I was doomed to be single for the rest of my life and he said yes. Bugger. Okay, well I've probably run out of time now anyway, but I do wonder what I’ve missed out on. See, I’ve blamed myself for not being able to fall in love but – what is love? Was I waiting for a Hollywood emotion that doesn’t exist? What IS it?

If my memory serves me right I have been with CS exactly one year today. It had been an eventful year and a lot of things had happened.

Back on the home front life was colorful and interesting; with a few downs and many more ups but today I’d rather talk about the time spent here on CS.

I made some great friends, both male and female. I am not going to single out anybody. It will only offend the friends I am bound to leave off the list accidentally. In addition I also gathered a few enemies. But they were few and most had departed for better things to do.

During the year I posted 180 blogs, 21 polls, 5 articles, 4 tests and 3 poems. In the same period I have deleted approximately 10,800 (unconfirmed ) emails from scammers and if I subtract that number from the views received in total, we are left with more or less 68 real women.

So in all a very productive, if not interesting, year. But most of all, a year in which CS introduced me to the woman I believe I can spend the rest of my life with.


Ps
If the hands of an old fashioned alarm clock are exactly on top of each other; how long does it take for this to happen again?

The last few years of my marriage were bad, the last couple were horrendous. Would things have turned out differently if I’d been a better partner? Probably, but I’ll never know for sure. Much of what went wrong was my fault, but how much of it that wasn’t is impossible to say.

I wasn’t meant to share a life with anyone, I think that much is fair to say. Now, living alone, there is certainly something about that that feels right; it seems to be in keeping with what, or who, I am. But there is also something about it that really doesn’t feel right, and, despite much self analysis, I can’t put my finger on what it is. Obviously, it has a lot to do with people, most probably of the opposite sex, but that’s about as much as I can say.

I don’t want to live with someone as half of a couple again; I do know that much, or at least I think I know it. The idea of being part of a couple on a more casual basis, not living together, and maintaining a separate life, wouldn’t seem like a bad option were it not for the fact that I can well see how it might be the thin end of a wedge with a rather dangerous thick end.

I doubt if finding a friend with benefits would be a much less risky option, and, anyway, I don’t think I could be that casual; besides, why take the risk when the benefits aren’t as compelling as they used to be? So, a friend, or friends, without problematic benefits could be the answer, although even getting the dynamics of that right is proving more complicated than I would have imagined.

Is it really that difficult? How many long-term relationships have formed due to this site? I have been here a few years now and I know of maybe 2 relationships that have formed. My friend who introduced me to this site found his wife on this site. And, Daniel. I didn't know him, he was sorta of leaving as I was getting on. But, I remember him posting a blog about becoming involved in a relationship. How many other do you know of?

How can one improve their chances?



My number one and two improvements seem to be a better profile and pictures of just me...and no females.


Maybe I should write a profile with a bunch of demands? For example, don't tell me I need a different profile. Or, shut your face about my pictures. Okay, a little dramatic here at the end.

Just a little bored here tonight....isn't that something, as soon as I get done working for like 12 hours...the moment after I eat, I am bored. Sounds like I need a woman. :)

When somebody knocks on my front door, I open it. I think the majority of people do. Especially here in South Africa because most of us have safety gates to prevent surprises when we open the door. Something that was not necessary when I was a child.

The average person doesn’t hide behind a closed door and doesn’t scamper to write down registration numbers. Unless - of course - if we expect trouble.

We open the door and if it is a friend, we let him in. We cannot just let a stranger in but we should listen to what brought the stranger to our doorstep. Then, after checking his credentials, we can decide if there is need for any action or not.

Why is it then that we act differently when love comes knocking at our heart’s door? We follow the extreme options. We either hide behind a closed door of we let the stranger in and give him a free run of the place without knowing his bona fides.

Why don’t we first listen to a stranger’s story before we decide what to do? Should we not get to know the strangers bona fides before we give him the full run of our hearts?

Your heart is a sacred as your home; treat it as such.