Age differences have become more common in relationships, and someone being significantly older or younger than their partner is no longer the taboo it once was. However this doesn't mean that having a large age gap in a relationship is not without its difficulties.
One of the biggest issues faced by couples who have a large age gap in their relationship is that they will often have different plans for the future of the relationship. In many cases the older partner in the relationship will be looking to settle down and start a family, while the younger partner is not always ready for such a commitment. In some cases the older partner already has family commitments from a previous relationship, which can cause friction with their current partner. On a similar note, the possibility of starting a family may lead to tension where the younger person would like to have children but their older partner has a family from a previous relationship, and doesn't want to have any more children.
Partners in relationships with large age gaps often find it difficult to relate to their partner's friends, sometimes finding their older partner's friends boring or their younger partner's friends immature. Even if this is not the case, their partner's friends often leave them out of the group, either consciously or subconsciously. Similarly, partners may have different ideas of fun places for dates.
As with any relationship, insecurity is one of the main issues which can destroy a happy couple. When in relationships with an age gap, partners often find themselves worrying that their other half will run off with someone their own age.
Honesty and communication are important factors in any relationship, but even more so when there is a large age gap between partners. If the relationship is meant to be then the partner will understand any issues, and be willing to work towards resolving them. Many people in these relationships, particularly the older partner, make the mistake of bottling up their feelings, assuming that their partner will not understand due to the age difference, or is too immature to want to change. Communication is of particular importance with regards to future plans for marriage and family.
Some relationships with age gaps simply won't work, as with any relationships, however by talking things through and making the effort to respect your partner's needs you can increase the chances of making the relationship work in the longer term.
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