How to Cure a Broken Heart

How to Cure a Broken Heart

Has your lover broken your heart? Here are a number of ways to help cure it and bounce back. You don't have to silently suffer.

1. Just like learning to ride a bicycle, if you fall off, get back on and try again. Of course, your goal should not be to fall in love with the first person that is interested in you, but get back into the dating scene as soon as you can. You won't be home crying yourself to sleep, and you will be having a good time instead.

2. Join a support group with others who have had a similar break-up experience and see if you find them compatible to talk to. You might gain a lot of insight through them.

3. Curl up and read a good book. Not necessarily a romance novel, but a book that will teach you something. Make it non-fiction.

4. Accept the good memories you've had with your mate and don't dwell on the bad times or the recent separation. Negative thoughts of the past will be unpleasant and only make you unhappy. Work on letting go of the past so that you can start looking forward to the future.

5. Don't keep your love letters or any trinkets or reminders that your ex gave you. Store them away instead of throwing them away, in case there may be reconciliation in the future. But try not to hold onto that hope.

6. Playing beautiful music will soothe your soul and make you feel better, but don't play the music you and your loved one enjoyed together, or that were your songs. Try a different type of music that you normally don't like.

7. Stay in touch with a trusted friend and confide in that person. If he or she is a true friend, they will listen to you and not make judgments, or talk about you behind your back.

8. Write down your angst in a private journal and write in it every day. See how much better you feel with each passing day. Time will heal your broken heart if you let it.

9. Forgiving that person and letting go of your anger will help you to cure your own broken heart. But don't expect too much of yourself. Accept that forgiveness will take time.

10. Don't think just because you have been hurt once, you will be hurt again and especially, don't make the next person suffer because you are suffering now. That doesn't help anything and probably will only make you feel worse in the long run.

11. If you have a spiritual belief, prayer for help with your broken heart will help in the healing process. It is common to feel betrayed in your time of need. But this is not the case and your faith will make you feel stronger and more able to handle what you are going through.

Following the above tips, will hopefully help you cure your broken heart. Know that in time, you won't feel so devastated and you will be able to move on.

Comments (25)

liberty_trust
What a load of bullshit heartbreak is real physical pain go ask your doctor.The latest research shows chemicals are released into the heart and cause pain and this can cause heart problems and if ya do not believe it go ask a biologist.So the best medicine is actually pain killers, so treat a heart break the same as any headache is the medical advise darling, not reading a book or spiritual fantasies.
DISCOVERY1
Good advice prayer will help for sure. Find a lesson in this situation. Remember you cannot change the past, and you can't make someone love you.
Hinze
yeah,Move on with your life instead off hanging other in there as
Woman43
I will be trying this...thanks!
redroses80
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redroses80
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manroe23
Thanks for the tips i will my friend then
ANNAPATAT
I HAVE TRIED MOST OF THE ABOVE AND YES IT WORKS WELL. PLEASE DON NOT ENTER INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT KEEPING AN OPEN MIND. THERE ARE A LOT OF EVIL PEOPLE OUT THERE. MAKE SURE YOU GIVE YOUS=RSELF ENOUGH TIME TO HEAL. NEVER NEVER START A RELATIONSHIP WHILE ON THE REBOUND.
perplexe
Thank you very much...merci! Yes it helps to read theses advices...and remember you are not guilty of what happened.
TysenJakob86
OK but whats going to help my son grow up never knowing his mom whats going to take away my feelings of failing him because he has to live that pain because i let another one trick me. completely blind sided until the moment came and she left at 3 in the morning to move in with her 38 year old instructor who is 15 years older then she and i. what do i tell rather then the truth, that she left and the only thing she didn't try to take was our 10 month old son. is there a cure for that. and why is it i that needs a cure. when its them that chronically screw us over. maybe they are the ones who are truly broken.
looking4bride
Prevention is better than cure. Spare your heart right from the beginning proportional to what have been spared to you. It is just like any other business, if you invest a lot, it means you are taking a big risk. Again, you got to take risk, no way. So take it, just remain little careful to know how much to take and when. Once you have incurred a loss, then also, think about a losing businessman/woman. Just like him/her, be calculative, slowly recover and then invest again. Another important thing is to keep faith upon yourself. In military also, it is taught that for survival for a pilot ejecting or crash landing in the enemy territory (means with all possible hostilities), the most important thing is the "will to survive".

Thanks.
Zobair
SAXONNUMBER1
Broken hearts happen with your first two major loves.From then on you're bitter and twisted and in no mood for the trappings of love.You can easily brush off any cheats and liars like dust on your furniture then. Synical approach is the answer! Go into new relationships with the belief that its bound not to work. Then when the inevitable comes,you just get back on with your life and enjoy youself. Take my word as veteran heartbroken guy. Or drink some superglue,thats bound to work!!!
vitman1955
thanks im sure most of us know this and yes it does get easier but we are all different and feel the hurt in our own way we just have to deal with it
shootingstar77
Love the journaling, been doing it for years and it is the greatet healing tool.

Thought I was in love, thought I had a broken heart, until I journaled and realized it was more of an attraction, then a love.

Saw him today and had no feelings for him , except relief. Relief that I realized what a idiot he was and did not follow my feelings, but the truth.

Self realization, is very liberating.

Prayer heals the hurt, for when I was hurting, I had someome to talk too, that made me realize the truth of my heart .
maybe_baby
very useful hints and tips :) :) :)
civiy
wow wish id read this earlier!!!!
music is a big help!!
baliparadise
One think that you should do "praying to God" and ask the holy spirit to healing the hurts ... I have done and this is amazing...
phoenixrising1
thank you very much for this ..crying
CowboyJosh1980
Thank you this will realy help
broncos
Good advice maybe, but everyone heals differently and some never do!
ann_81
hmmm....i will try this tips. hope it works! thank u!
lkennylady
I take this advice with appreciation, healing takes such a long time.
blueeyes50
thanks for advice hope it will help me
pretty79
Wow,Thanx,it will help.
michaelcouck
Indeed this is a help. Little else is...
Thanks.

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