Theybies
Slugs and snails and puppy dog tails -
Sugar and spice and all things nice -
On one hand, I've never believed girls should be dressed in pretty little dresses, given dolls and housekeeping toys, or that little boys should only wear tuff clothes and play with cars and never ever cry.
On the other hand - theybies can be quite extreme. Kids who are raised so neutrally that friends, family, even the kids themselves, aren't told whether they are boys or girls. Of course it isn't a taboo, "we don't speak of these things", it is just to avoid gender stereotypes bombarding them from the day they were assigned pink or blue booties in the lottery of life. It's a growing trend, with a LOT of critics.
Wish you'd been a theybie? Or raised a theybie? Or good grief this is political correctness gone mad!
First comment is a copy / paste from parents of theybie twins.
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“We read about how from when they’re 20-week fetuses, they’re already starting to be gendered, and people are calling the little girls ‘princesses,’ and buying certain things for different children,” Julia explained. “We wanted to prevent that, so that’s how it started. And then about a couple weeks before they were born, Nate just said, ‘What if we didn’t tell people ever?’”
Now 3 years old, Zyler and Kadyn still have little concept of the terms “he” or “she” outside of the fact that they can be used as pronouns. Their rooms are filled with toys targeted at both genders, and the kids play with what they want and how they want to without any notion of whether doing so is girly or boyish. At some point in the near future, however, the Sharpe’s know that their children will have to enter a world where the way in which one’s gender is perceived has a significant impact on one’s life.
(above is an excerpt from this link
I think this is stupid. I do agree kids are forced into stereotypes but I also think "theybies" is too much!
However the movement is growing, and I only read a slightly scoffing report, could be a whole other side to it I'm missing, hence the blog.
This could be either.
It sounds strange to me now, but I can also see us looking back on the hard gendering of children
with boys and girls clothing and toy aisles as a little strange.
It makes more sense in a "life close to the bone" society to be very focused on gender, and gender training from an early age. You need the boys to be very good at the boy things, and the girls to be very good at the girls things when life is very hard, and survival is a matter of optimal performance and not just having sense enough not to run headlong down flight of stairs with pointy grown up scissors in one hand, and de-pinned hand grenade in the other, and a THC lolli in your mouth.
Accenting their gender to them is silly, for they are aware of it themselves.
Referring to them as 'he' or 'she' is a matter of grammar to me.
Thanks to this so-called ‘new parenting’
I think it is good to question everything either way. If we accept things just because the last few generations did, there will never be progress
Square wheels didn't really work that well.
I was told after my last scan I was having a son and a lot of the lovely things we were given were blue and they WERE lovely and my daughter wore them but even back then I was taken aback to be ticked off by some people for putting her into blue and "confusing" her. Um, her first six months? And she is happily married now (even better, to a bloke) so luckily the terrible damage I did wasn't lasting
But she was never told there were things she couldn't do, and things she should. And that's the bit about hard gender stereotyping that gets up my nose
From what I remember of childhood, we just did what we were told. Nobody was dressed in the other genders' clothes... it was mostly accepted that boys were boys and girls were girls!
Nobody told anyone what to do (if they did it would be rebelled against), we just did what we felt like
regardless of gender!
No pressure.
The blog also asked if we'd feel differently if raised as theybies but it looks like so far most of us were allowed to be pretty much what we wanted as kids
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I hope you're having an A+ week.
Curled ringlets, little petticoats, and if I tried to play with my brother's cars they were gently but firmly taken away
All together now - awwww.
But give mom credit, I was never, ever told I "couldn't" be something because I was a girl. I wanted to be a doctor, and operated on my poor dolls, and both parents were both fine with that. Insufficient brains, in the end, but not lack of support.
And yes a good week, and hope the same for you, I have to scuttle off and teach now
over and out, later gators
I know from being a kid (yes i can remember) and watching kids they always will experiment and then will get over the phase (most of the time) but the foundations laid not just by parents but by everyday life around them.
Now if kids going through a phase, parents (trying to be liberal minded) poof----- force stuff on kids, (yes that is okay) and kid then is frightened to back track.
Kids should just be kids growing up---experimenting with this and that, then when adult can go there own way.
Yeah yeah i do know there are exceptions and they have to be treated with understanding but it looks like these days kids are forced into this and that.
So glad my parenting days are over, we live in a mixed up world methinks-----I AM THE ONLY SANE ONE i still believe in Santa xx
Yep they got those two flying drones, it has cost unhappiness, misery, canccelled holidays and air[orts thousands to compensate folk. Thosr two if proven guilty should be made to pay for the rest of the lives i reckon. Jail term first, they are both old enough to know what has happened. they could see on the news everynight!!!!!
Yep insane world