Time to say goodbye?
I am really thinking about saying goodbye. It's been brewing for some time now, and yesterday evening was just the last drop that made it all fall apart.As most of you know, I have been talking a lot about a person I simply called R, because I wanted to keep her somewhat anonymous. We met in person at a Shania Twain concert, after talking together online for the past 15 years. From my side, it was love at first sight. I wanted to spend as much time with her as possible. At first, I was only smitten. But slowly, I fell in love with her. I wanted to be hers. The time I knew, that I was in love, was when she spent two months at my place, in my bed next to me. One morning, I told her what I felt. She was glad I told her, but she was unable to express the same feelings towards me. So I endured. I tried my very best to keep it friendly. It failed. I went to a festival in July, and at that time, she got extremely angry with me. Most of you know why, so I won't waste letters writing it. But know this - it was bad. Very bad. To the point, where I really doubted that her and I would ever see each other again. But we did. She spent a weekend here, but it wasn't the same. Something had broken between us. I knew the trust was gone, but I did my very best to not repeat the same things I did before. It worked. I was able to not do the same things. But still, it felt broken, in some way. On top of that, she told me that she was loosely dating someone, which floored me. It made me feel dizzy. The last time I felt that, was when my father was admitted to the hospital shortly before his death. Whenever I get told something, that I wasn't expecting, I get rubber-like legs, and I have to sit down. I decided to hold my head up high, and tell her that I was okay with it, when in reality, I wasn't. That was the last time I saw her in person. I told her, that I needed some time to think. To sort out some feelings, that I was struggling with. She told me, that it was fine. That I should take all the time I needed, and then write her when I felt like it.
Yesterday evening, I saw something that made me write her a message. What I saw, was that she was in relationship with someone. I was done thinking. I needed to get it out, so I wrote her a message. In that message, I told her that her and I wouldn't be able to spend any more nights together. It wouldn't be fair to her boyfriend. Her and I can still meet up, but it would have to be somewhere in Copenhagen, and not at my place.
She has read the message, but haven't replied to it. Yet.
I am still thinking. Maybe it's time to say goodbye? At least, for a while. A few months, perhaps. Enough time to make me completely get over her. I think it's the best thing to do.
What do you think, I should do? Do you agree with my message to R? Keep the comments civil, though
Comments (8)
She's sleeping with someone else. Do you really want someone like that in your life?
Don't lose respect for yourself.
And if she says she wants to come back to you............Think Very Carefully About It
People don't change their spots.
You won't get over her in a couple weeks. It might take a year or longer but you will get over her when you realize that she doesn't deserve you.
If it stops you meeting other women, walk away.
Practise self respect.
Try to make some male friends instead of all these female 'friends'.
With male friends, especially single ones, you can go out and start chatting up real-life women who may actually want to be with you, as a girlfriend.
Jmo.
Actually, I like your message to her the way it is. No need for any explanations.
Almost anything is possible. If you give her a chance to, she might even miss you,
which might work out in your favor. No guarantees of that though.
However, she is currently seeing someone else and you should too.
Invest yourself where it is reciprocated. You owe that to yourself
and you are the one person you will always live with.
"The greatest thing, you can ever learn,
is just to love, and be loved in return."