Tell me truly, is it me?
Friend A – conversational bridge – always a competition. Worse, better, always the need to take the trick. Example – idle comment – “I’ve just done (insert neutral topic here) it was okay. Response - I did that once, it was rubbish / fantastic. Long involved details follow. You win.Friend B - attention span issues. Example – Yesterday I tried adding lime pepper to my pasta and – ooh I saw something on cooking the other day, let me show you, and out comes the phone tap tap tap here see that. Well okay but what I meant was – did I tell you about the shoes I just bought? I took a photo, tap tap tap, look. So I give up but friend is waiting expectantly for the next topic to interrupt . . .
Friend C – the persistent grouch. I walked the dog for over an hour, I’m absolutely knackered. That must be nice. It’s hard for me to walk since the pain started in my foot. Have you seen a doctor about that yet? What’s the point there’s nothing they can do just a waste of time and money doctors are so expensive and all they do is give you the pills the pharma companies want them to promote
Friend D – the partner fixation – what did you think of the (insert situation here) I’ll have to come back to you on that, partner has not yet told me how we feel about that.
I think I need a few new friends, I've used these ones up. But if it's me ...
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Maybe, maybe, some are asking their partners what they can say they think.
Anyone know where I can buy a personality?
I no longer communicate with friends I went to school with. When they call it's all about them, then the conversation is done. They don't even ask how I'm doing.
Now I don't answer my phone when they call. Thank goodness for caller ID.
Good friends are very hard to find...I have two that I consider friends...many who I consider an acquaintance...
Interestingly enough...the two who are close friends..are complete opposites in most ways.
Lime pepper with pasta? Yah godda be jokin, summat wrong wiv yah taste buds maybe?
Walking the dog? Did I tell you about my weird Achilles tendonitis, just jumped on me like a drop-bear so to speak, couldna climb the stairs, but the legend of Achilles and getting shot in the ankle, well it was kinda like that. Read about Odysseus and Scylla and Charybdis didya?
Planted some flame trees doing just great but she who must be obeyed deemed they interfered with her herbs and already 3m high out they came; considered moving but finally shrugged. Oh what were you saying?
I no longer communicate with friends I went to school with. When they call it's all about them, then the conversation is done. They don't even ask how I'm doing.
Now I don't answer my phone when they call. Thank goodness for caller ID.
I guess if they are happy with their lives that's bully for them, I sometimes get the impression people like that, talking only about themselves, are trying to convince themselves they're happy and are terrified if they let you speak you might not be envious enough?
Good friends are very hard to find...I have two that I consider friends...many who I consider an acquaintance...
Interestingly enough...the two who are close friends..are complete opposites in most ways.
Good friends - yes, friendships evolve, people change, and even old friendships fizzle out. Out of interest, do your very different friends like each other? I'm sometimes surprised by the friends my friends have
Don’t think it’s you at all. Not everyone is for you and vice versa. Just like here on the blogs, some you like some you don’t.
Your life has changed a LOT, go Track!
Don’t think it’s you at all. Not everyone is for you and vice versa. Just like here on the blogs, some you like some you don’t.
Ah but these are all people I have been friends with for ages and they've changed
Lime pepper with pasta? Yah godda be jokin, summat wrong wiv yah taste buds maybe?
Walking the dog? Did I tell you about my weird Achilles tendonitis, just jumped on me like a drop-bear so to speak, couldna climb the stairs, but the legend of Achilles and getting shot in the ankle, well it was kinda like that. Read about Odysseus and Scylla and Charybdis didya?
Planted some flame trees doing just great but she who must be obeyed deemed they interfered with her herbs and already 3m high out they came; considered moving but finally shrugged. Oh what were you saying?
Lordy the other night I played bridge for the first time in yonks. I said firmly that I play SOCIAL bridge - you know, keeps your hands busy while you chat - and they said fine, fine, come along we need a fourth. OMG it was serious stuff. The only permitted chat was the post-mortem after every hand. They said kindly that I played very well, considering, same time next week?
NO
And lime pepper is AMAZING. Just saying.
Reaching the age where most of my friends are retired or retiring and anxiously filling in time and that's I think part of the problem. But now I must log out as the butterfly friend is collecting me in half an hour for what promises to be an exhausting day in Nerja - unless I can confiscate her phone
Ah but these are all people I have been friends with for ages and they've changed
Have a fun day . My pal had a bar in Nerja in the days when we all lived in Spain.
So if you want to keep your friends,is it possible to be more tolerant. Otherwise they will drive you nuts. Could you talk to your friends about those issues? I am just wondering how they gonna handle those conversations. lol
It is quite hard to find real friends nowadays.
p.s. I like your writing skills. Beautiful English.
Hi Suzie.