Speed dating

Hi Suzie,

Yes and in Spain when I lived there.We used to go to Benalmadena on a roof top terrace Hotel.It was fun and interesting to start with but the novelty soon wore off to be honest as I began to wonder what some of the men were actually there for. Must say most were British though

Still plucking up the courage but if I go, I'll report back!

Does sound like a meetup, and I'm told the Irish contingent of CS had a few of those - I heard good things about them but yup, doesn't really rock my boat! Although I think better organised, profile nametags and all

Nope, not through a website, through a local group on Facebook which I wouldn't have heard about as it isn't my local area, but word is spreading.

I was talking to a bloke online who said he'd been to both, I slightly got the impression he'd ticked 'like' on every woman there haha. Two women 'liked' him back at the first, three at the second, and the deal was the organizer then gave them each other's email addresses to go on from there. He did say all four leads (one woman had been at both, they 'liked' each other both times) fizzled out but as he's one of those who pushes too far too fast, maybe that's why they fizzled out? Even a 5 minute date won't filter those out. But I'm tempted. So many expats in Spain wondering how the hell to meet people as places like POF are, of course, predominantly Spanish. You can put I AM ENGLISH as your profile name and will still get swamped in Spanish messages, lol. This is a little more - focused.

That sounds quite fun! So you're saying give it a go ...

But I don't want to meet teenage mormons?















(thank you urban dictionary teen mormons say if you put your middle foot in but don't move, it isn't sex, just soaking - the jump man, (or humper?) is the one wanting the soaking)
(just to save anyone else looking it up)

You've nothing to lose Susie as long as you are careful. I didn't go on my own and it was more of a singles night than speed dating.

I too was in my 60's and able to sort the wheat from the chaff thankfully, and to be honest not desperate just curious.

Oh great just one more place I can find absolutely no connection with men at…no thanks. Lol sorry. I’m just saying what I think. Good luck at one of those. I just prefer no pressure settings. Like a game night. You can see who really gets their underwear in a bunch when they lose.

Well, exactly why I blogged about it and didn't just book and go along

I do know within seconds if I think someone is attractive. I know within minutes whether that first assessment was right or wrong. So in THEORY it is a way of spending literally 5 minutes across a table with a single bloke looking for a single woman, both of us on our best behaviour and trying to impress, before a little bell dings and you speed on to the next encounter. You have a little list and if you liked him, you tick his name. At the end the organizer collects all the lists and where the like is mutual, sends you each other's contact details. Not mutual, oh well.

What could possibly go wrong ...

The best-looking bloke in the room could be ticked on every list and not tick a single woman there. His loss. You could have a brilliant 5 minutes laughing, convinced you've made a hit, and - nothing. The bloke who told me about it probably ticked every woman just for being single and available. The first woman who ticked back said on their first date he was scruffy and hadn't spruced up enough for their date. The second said she had family coming to stay for six weeks so they wouldn't be able to meet again, and good luck with his search. The third has so far cancelled every plan they've set up (four!) so am I expecting Cupid hovering over the table, arrows lined up? No!

But - you know - like the lottery, never going to win if you don't even buy a ticket even though the odds are millions to one -



And you are so right about seeing what a man is like when he loses. Hmmmm maybe make it a backgammon game rather than just 5 minutes of talking ...

Yeah, it's probably not a good idea to meet a bunch of strangers and announce you're now walking back to your car on your own...and then repeat that action several weeks running.

Otherwise, it sounds like fun.

Oh I think curious is usually the motivation - I will have to go on my own, the only other single woman I know here is decidedly anti men and I suspect husbands would frown on their wives coming along for a giggle / support

At this point all moot as the organizer hasn't replied to my email ...

Too far for me to consider going regularly and I think it's monthly anyway but yes good point well made.

Haha I've met over a dozen people from CS, male and female, with both friendly or romantic intentions, but that was pre-Trump, happier times when there were lots of single people who wanted to connect other single people. Some are now in good relationships (one couple even via CS!) and some have given up trying to blog or even log in because what's the point and of course some were simply weird.

Bit like my premium bonds - never got a life-changing win, but occasionally a pay-out

Almost scary to think of meeting people in real life without any idea whether they can even, you know, spell?

If the organiser does get back to you, perhaps they could put women who have expressed an interest in touch with each other.

That way you could meet up first, park next to each other and have someone to debrief with afterwards.

Talking about the experience surely has to be half the fun of it.

That's a brilliant idea!

That's the advantage of speed dating, I imagine.

You've only got time to reveal your name and rank.

You utter snob, Ninurta.

I can't spell for toffee.

Even scarier that the mods have asked the political nutters to cut out the politics but by the time they did the loons were pretty much running the nuthouse and ignored them, and most of the sane - or bonkers-but-fun-with-it - had gone. But there are a few non-politicals left

Meeting in Spain - yup real meetings. Spain has a LOT of expats because the climate is reliably good, the cost of living better than most other European countries, standard of living much higher. It's also a seriously popular tourist destination, edging the US into 3rd spot, so anyone travelling from inside AND outside Europe gets a holiday and, if it works out, a new friend to show them round? No brainer.

Okay half my tally was bloggers meeting up where 3 lived here within an hour or two drive of Salobreña and 2 were on holiday, and a second trip featured an American blogger and his Malaysian wife, who met on CS, and chose southern Spain for a holiday for the same reason. There were 3 active popular and funny bloggers back then in Spain who have all given up in the face of the humourless dreary blogs which everyone now seems to prefer. Spain is still sunny and still the second most popular holiday destination in the world.

As for the other meets, expats will drive further to meet someone halfway than perhaps the average Joe would. Catch me, when I still lived in Scotland, driving more than half an hour for coffee??? but here it's a chance to see more of my new country, speak English, and if it works out (that giant if) weekends spent back and forth. Got a good buddy here who is in a longterm relationship, 2 years so far, with a woman who lives nearly an hour's drive away, that works out REALLY well for mature couples delighted to have together time but also used to lots of private time and keeping up with their local friends. In fact that's the dream, for many of us. Well, me. I like my down time. They'll end up fulltime together in the long run but for now are both very happy with the deal.

I am NOT a homewrecker.

and 5 minutes ain't long, you're going to want to compare notes ('didja notice number 4 snorts like a pig when he laughs?' or, 'that's odd, he told ME he was the youngest of 3, told you he's an only child, LIAR ALERT.)

Talking of liar, a joke doing the FB rounds, if a liar's pants really did go on fire, watching the news would be a lot more fun

You know FULL WELL what I mean

Picture it, you've been dating 3 months, and he leaves a note one day in wonky capitals saying 'theirs a dellivery cumming at 11' and you think uhoh -

I have never tried speed dating or any kind of dating for that matter because it doesn't interest me but hey give it a go & see if it's for you or not for you Keep your purse in your hand

There must be two kinds of speed dating because I know a woman who met her husband through speed dating but not what is being described on this blog

Her speed dating was all about having so many phone numbers to ring not knowing what they looked like

You chose your date by the sound of their voice He was the first she spoke to and whom she ended up marrying

I made a mistake when I said you choose your date by the sound of their voice

You ring whatever number takes your fancy without knowing what they look like

You chat & if you feel he's the one you would like to meet up with you then meet

My girlfriend told me it was the sound of his voice that captured her attention Happily married now

Voices are super-important to me too - must be said though, I rang a window-cleaner to book his services and OMG his voice was fantastic I couldn't wait for him to pitch up. Put it this way, turned out to have a face absolutely made for radio, once I'd seen him I didn't even find the voice so good any more.

However still think that sounds a good way of meeting. Good voice, good conversation, I would so meet up. The downside is that my own voice - well, put it this way, most marketing calls from real human beings assume I am the man of the house, can't see that being a turn-on lol

As for this speed-dating malarkey, there are lots of women interested, not enough men. At this point the next meet is being pencilled in for mid May and she asked if I could rope in any blokes to help that happen. Well, if all the women are being asked to sign up all the men they personally don't want -

Speed dating is about first impressions. Which isn’t all bad since a lot of men are just about sex right off the bat. I would sit down and ask do you just want sex? He would lean in and say to be honest…yeah. Then I would say okay. This speed date is over. NEXT! You know maybe it just would work for me after all.