is this okay?
Is this still okay to pay for yourself when you go out with somebody 15-20 years older than you?This happened to me not too long ago when I went on a date with a litterately sugar-daddy, but who after all pleasant things dinner-desert-coffee looked very upset to say good bye to me instead of getting me in his suit. He claimed as it was every man and woman truth that when a lady allows to pay for herself it always means that she's ready for more.
He got me just speachless, I coudnt even confront such an outrageous statement!
How this works with you?
Any opinions are very welcome.
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Btw it's Sweden not Dutch
she can buy a drink if she likes but thats about it.
its the decent thing to do
Back to your blog, I'm saying especially If I enjoy her company(no romance yet or feelings involved ) I would do anything to try another date with the person, not coming off desperate , a sure gratitude for the company
i hope you give him no second look or thought.
I say he was going to say what he did no matter what you did. Forget him. You deserve better!
drunk women can get very emotional Aisha...certainly no more than 5 , but am a good listener
was his name Virgo
I mean, I also encounter this sort of situation first time in my life, but was just wondering maybe men don't tell this at my face but mean this? And I'm trully happy to know that they dont, at least some of them
but yeah, you right, life goes on and we dont stay same place either.
But you right, you are a very good listener, very patient but very interrogative on the other hand, let your lady drink 5 drinks huh! what a smart way!
I really feel sorry, when somebody seeks attention in that way.
Sometimes it's very healing to stay alone together with yourself only and try to figure out whats wrong with yourself and what should be done about this.
I'm sure, when he's back in peace with himself, balanced and polite, everyone will be very happy to see him.back.
"it always means that she's ready for more." ??
More food or more Lovin
its just that time of the month for the other Dan.
after he gets over his little fit he'll be a nice boy again.
Yes there will be a man out there that wants to care of you Ashia,don't doubt it.
thank you Angel...its only natural for the man to pay(its just a thank you gesture really).
Almost same sure about the second, but only with a right man.
How are you, Still on the right side of the wall I see.
Good to see you
just keeping the head down and working my way through the torment...but yeah keeping on the right side of the law(for now)...i'll strike later.
anyway hope alls good your side
I truly am sorry for my out bust on the other Daniel , he didn't deserve it , but you were the 20th person he done that to! Maybe when things cool down with him, I'll make my peace with him, but he has to show he over this attention seeking persona !
is this okay?
Is this still okay to pay for yourself when you go out with somebody 15-20 years older than you?
This happened to me not too long ago when I went on a date with a litterately sugar-daddy, but who after all pleasant things dinner-desert-coffee looked very upset to say good bye to me instead of getting me in his suit. He claimed as it was every man and woman truth that when a lady allows to pay for herself it always means that she's ready for more.dunno
He got me just speachless, I coudnt even confront such an outrageous statement!
How this works with you?
Any opinions are very welcome
Oh dear, you do not wanna hear my opinion...
My point is this...it is either or and not both....you cannot demand to be treated equally when it suits you and then basically call a guy a lout for not wanting to pay for your meal....his age is totally irrelevant or is there another book of etiquette that I am not aware of ? I wish the women of the world would make up their minds as I am totally confused as to what they really want ??? Has it perhaps occurred to you that he could not afford to pay the meal and does it make him any less of a person because of this ??? unless you have walked a step in his shoes, don't judge the guy.
I have gotten careful, because there are guys out there who think with paying for a meal they buy a bit more (and there are women out there who will use a guy for getting a nice meal and nothing else).
If I meet someone in RL, get a good feeling about him and we go for a meal, it is ok if he insists on paying if I think there will be another date where I could pay or invite him for a home cooked dinner. If I get the feeling it will be the first and only date, I would insist paying.
When I met someone in the past through internet dating, I made some things clear beforehand.
It seems to me that he was expecting something in return. That said, it is quite difficult these days to know if you go "dutch" or if the man picks up the tab. I think I would rather pay for my meal and say good day!!I think the age part is irrelevant, thats my opinion but maybe it could have been made clear from the start or maybe it is better to know the man before accepting a night out!?
Getting back to the point of the blog, I would normally offer to pay the bill, but for no other reason other than what I feel it is the appropriate response of a gentleman....