Jealousy - what is it good for?
Even animals get jealous - for attention, or competing for the same thing - and Nature doesn't build in pointless emotions, so what is jealousy good for?Anger gives us the strength and adrenalin rush to fight
Fear lends us wings to run away
Happiness rebuilds our strength to live another day
Love inspires us to build towards a future
etc
Jealousy seems such a destructive emotion but is it? I'm including things like
Envy of the achievements of others
Jealousy when a loved one seems to be making a connection with another and we feel threatened
Resentment when someone else is being praised
Benefits?
Comments (153)
I have fun when a jealous woman picks on me.
To all you highly evolved people that don't ever get jealous/envious , then feel good about being highly evolved creatures.
Also, Bless your delusional little hearts.
Personally I find myself boiling with envy about 20 times a day.
Hello Still_notaDoctor,
delusional never in your life.
I actually might sing it as I think the lyric is 'I'm just a jealous guy'.
Though I'm too jealous of his success to sing his songs. Should have been me.
Our college band 'Noise Pollution' were way better but the world wasn't ready for us.
Though he IS dead, so I get the last laugh.
I'm sure you're not. I was just being silly.
( ps. I don't REALLY hate John Lennon either , just predisposed to being contrarian on the blogs.
Anyways, how much do you charge for a consultation?
You must be cheap seeing that you are not qualified
But hey, the placebo effect works in lots of cases anyway
If I can't cure you, the autopsy is free.
When I'm dead
Now where are my stirrups ...
Note to self: Work on stirrup-side manner
Won't need to poke around as I can read lips. Wink.
The old girl will feel ten years younger when I'm done.
That's exactly what I thought as I passed quietly through the room.
Snap!
Maybe jealousy is just your gut instinct talking to you
(And I mean this for a normal sane individual with a good gut instinct )
Maybe if you feel jealousy, it is your gut telling you that not all is right in the relationship. That you have a reason to be jealous?
ps. I'm 35 years old.
Over the last few years I've been trusting my other instincts more and more, seems a shame to keep this one chained in the dark if it could be useful ...
I may sound very slightly loony. What's the moon doing?
If I felt jealous, I would feel I was jealous for a reason
I would question that in the broader context of the relationship
Not feeling it doesn't mean not caring.
It just means there is no reason to feel it
We were just having a laugh together
Maybe we should make more use of emoticons
Which one donates dry cynical humour
I will be PG13 all the way from now on.
(though that begs the questions what the eff else i have left to talk about).
How about checking out the book 'Linda Goodman's Sun Signs'? It's easy to read and you can learn a lot.
bloodyawfull mentioned female jealousy... It scares me more than hurt male ego.
I'm trying to help with the imagery
I don't feel jealous!
Identify what it is to you, what it really is
And then use it as a positive
That'll be E50 please
Cash only
And this if not the 200th comment will be the 201th (sic) and I can go to bed now
He is not a doctor and I am not a shrink
We do it cheaply for the betterment of society
You should adopt my mom's approach to jealousy (she's a Scorpio, by the way
'I'm a Scorpio and we - Scorpios - are very jealous'.
And that's it.
No 'good' or 'bad' or this or that - just the fact.
My mom simply accepts herself and her emotional intensity. She would like to be different sometimes, it would be definitely easier for her and the others, but she is who she is and - that's it.
I think that this is a much healthier approach than pretending that she is 'mature', 'adult', 'not affected', when that's simply not true. And - men know what they are getting into from the start, so - no unpleasant surprises later.