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There are 3 entrances to my community, 2 main ones with a guardhouse and one private gate (no guard) that requires a resident sticker I.D. for access. The private gate is closest to my travels so I use it most often. Like a mini border checkpoint, there are two arms spaced only for a single car. The scanner detects a car and the first arm lifts allowing you to drive in. It drops and the second one opens. Behind all that is a security gate that opens as the first arm rises. Usually it's fully opened as the second arm rises. If not, you have to wait a second or two to proceed into the intersection of a 3-way stop.
The problem is cars on one side wanting to exit ignore the stop sign and charge into the intersection. With the gate open, my vision is blocked. I can see the stop sign but not the approaching cars.
To avoid a collision, I have to crawl into the intersection to allow ample time to stop when someone runs the stop sign.
My association president told me that gate handles more traffic than the other two combined. I'm thinking to compose a letter asking them to put a second stop sign and possibly a flashing light similar to the non-resident access on the other side of the community.
That would keep those who are Octagonally Impaired on alert!



Yeah, I know Octagonally isn't in the dictionary.

Reflecting back a little, when I was much younger, I once did odd jobs around our small town to make a few extra bucks...cut grass, shovel snow, etc. I think I was around 10 years old...give or take. There was this one older man. Since our town was small, everyone knew everyone and this older man had a reputation of being crazy.

I didn't care. I would stop at his place to see if any work needed to be done. There were times where he had odd jobs for me. Helping him with roofing, cutting grass, and helping out in his garden. Now don't get me wrong. When I was younger, there were some pretty unusual words that came from his mouth and he seemed to have an anger problem. He lived an isolated life.

I remember hearing countless times how he would say the world was against him. There were only a very small handful of people who would visit with him, mostly family. However, his family was not the most upstanding characters of society. From what I know of them, they disrespected him and stole from him.

When I was younger, I always thought, how could he say the world was against him? The world is huge with many people in it. How can that many people be against him? At that age, I just thought that maybe everyone is right, maybe he is crazy.

Today, after talking with somebody who lives a fairly isolated life himself, a lot of what he was talking about, I have never really heard too many people talking about in day to day life. He actually had me sort of stumped as to what to think.

But just pondering I started to think. In reference to the older guy I did work for when I was younger, well, if he lives an isolated lifestyle, he only knows a small handful of people who disrespected him. So, his world only consists of this small population. Maybe he wasn't so crazy after all.



Just a thought I recently had.

Also....I think as we all become more and more depended on our technology, we will all become more and more isolated from real life interactions. Who knows where that will lead us.

Your perception is a reflection of who you are.

We're all capable of love as well as hate.

I hate terrorism and I wish peace reigns.

Be yourself quotes

Non-smokers who are bothered by smoke – you know how far away you need to be from someone smoking before it doesn’t bother you. Stay that far from others. And we all know how long the smell of smoke hangs in an enclosed space.

Non-garlic-eaters who are bothered by the smell of it on someone’s breath (or their garlicky lasting body-odour) ditto.

Shouting REALLY loads the air with particles. Stay away from protesters. Except from polite ones. First comment refers.

We are all on this planet because we were born from another human. If you do not already know, to naturally have a child/family, it takes two people of the opposite sex to procreate.

I do not know how norms, culture, and society works across the globe, so I can only reference the country I live in and how it operates.

It has been always the man's duty to approach the woman and take the initiative on creating the harmonious bond, where the couple eventually make a family in many cases (average family size 2 1/2 kids).

The man brought home the bacon and the woman fried it up in the pan.

The woman, man, and children lived a life under one roof and given our human nature, they bonded.

In some cases, that did not happen. There were tensions, but not in all cases. At worse, the man knew he was a father and the mother knew she was a mother....very rarely did it happen that the parents did not recognize themselves as parents.

Fast forward to today with feminism....and in many cases life is not like it was 20+ years ago. The man has become less valuable to some feminist women. I do not know the numbers or percentages on this...but they have become less valuable.

Our human nature, both men and women, are to procreate...otherwise our s*xual urges would not exist. These urges are beyond our control...they are innate. So with that said, it is our nature, both men and women, to produce offspring.

Now in traditional days...I would argue even today (because some women like to have their cake and eat it too) the female gender was at an advantage for having the opportunity to have offspring. Because of the tradition of men approaching women, they had ample more opportunity to engage in practices to produce offspring. Does that make sense? If she is getting approached by men and she is feeling her natural urges at a particular time, she then chooses to "engage." Some women got approached by men hundreds of times a week...some maybe ten times a week. In everyone of these cases, if she wanted to "engage", she could simply oblige.

With men, they didn't have that luxury. They might approach hundreds of different women per week, or some men maybe ten per week...and not get any female takers. The bottom line is, women decide. He had to prove his worth to the woman. She needed to know that the man was going to be there for her and not leave her high and dry...fending for the care of the family on her own. In addition, if the woman was not in the mood..no go. In addition, if the woman was not attracted to him...no go. In addition, if her friends gave the thumbs down...no go. Most men had it fairly tough...that is even in traditional days.

Today we have feminism. Even in traditional days, a man had to get "lucky" to get a woman in his life. The feminist days are going to require even more luck.

Now what about abortion? Say there is a man and woman couple together in today's society and they engage in their nature given urges and procreate. The man wants a child but the woman does not. She has a right to end the pregnancy.

With more difficulty of man finding a mate and the female having a right to abort....

When coming to genders, does that give the female more power over life than the male?

If so, is it fair?

I don't know myself...but a question to ponder...I think anyway.

The place I used to call a safe haven has been invaded by sickos. That night I posted the surrogate blog, I got attacked right in front of my door at around 3 am. The sicko followed me, I felt I was being followed on he stairs but every time I paused and observed he stayed quiet and hid. I reached the 3rd floor and I was about to unlock my door when he suddenly came from behind and covered my mouth. I immediately took out the key from my door and hold tightly to it, thinking I would be defenseless and hopeless if he manage to get inside my place. I struggled and pushed to reach my neighbors door, I couldn't scream but managed to knocked hard on their doors, my knuckles are still raw! I scratched, elbowed him, bit him, kicked him, twisted till we were wrestling on the floor. When he held my jaw and tilted my head , I thought he was going to slit my throat, for a moment there, I thought that was my end I let out loud screams and luckily he let go and run away. It was no robbery, he didn't take anything, I was holding my phone and had my computer bag .

Got inside my apartment and locked door, called relatives and friends who are still working in the office. They immediately came, went around to check the area and called the police men who came quickly. I just want the whole thing to go away quietly but police procedures are seem to be very complicated and mysterious, something that I don't want to go through again. Even in the middle of the night they come to get more info and investigate.

Camera from neighborhood were checked, neighbors mentioned that they noticed a strange car parking near my apartment between 1-3 am for few nights so police are doing surveillance late at night here trying to find that car, I'll doubt they'll come back here but I'm staying home till I feel good enough to go out.

I'm a toughie but listening to my neighbors admitting they heard the commotion and me screaming outside their door but too scared to help makes me feel so down. I opened my door to my neighbors late at night a few times...I would still do that if they would need my help.

Well, the interesting stuff started happening about a few weeks ago. A few weeks ago I was at the club. Why does weird shit happen in the bathrooms at those places? Anyway, I am in the bathroom and there are about four college age guys in there. I am at the sink washing my hands when all four of them started talking about performing gay sex with each other. Not sure if they were being serious or not, I kinda said something in a joking matter. They responded by saying something about that is how we are....in other words, they were being serious. I told them to have at it and left.

As I mentioned before, I have nothing against gay people. As long as they don't bother me, I am okay.

So a couple of days ago, I am on my walk...about 9pm. There is a party on the opposite side of the street at somebody's home. There are about 20 or so people outside. As I am walking by, I hear some guy yell out, hey big guy...I am going to stick my d*ck in your corn hole. Okay....I just continue walking....thinking to myself, he sure is not talking to me (at least I am hoping he is not).

I never mentioned any of these stories to anybody. I felt they might be just some fluke isolated events.

So yesterday, my brother and I are going to the restaurant. He starts telling me a story about the night before at the bar. Just to give a little detail here, we go to bars in the same town. lol...no, I do not consider us alcoholics. He usually drinks only one beer when he is out.....anyway...back to the story. He starts telling me about these guys who kept on coming up to him and putting their arms around him and getting really close. He told me that he felt very uncomfortable and thought they might be some sort of s*xual advances. Shocked, I told him about my two encounters.

Before I could elaborate any further...he went on to say that he was starting to question if it was going to be safe for men to go out by themselves anymore. Funny thing, I kinda felt the same way.

We both agreed it was only toward the middle of this year we noticed this sort of behavior from the men.

Has anyone else noticed this sort of behavior increasing with guys? Do you feel a single guy can safely go out on the town by themselves?

We both felt that these men were not outright gay...maybe bi-s*xual....or just sex crazed.

My brother mentioned it could be due to the fact that same sex marriages has been legalized and now that sort of behavior is more socially acceptable. Also, he pointed out, there are a lot of "real" tv shows that promote this sort of stuff.

What are your thoughts....

Again, I mean no offense to anyone who is gay. This is actually a blog concerning the potential loss of safety to society.

I am not sure what I think of this. Let's say you run across this hot guy or woman and he/she is married. He/She expresses that their spouse and them are in an open relationship and there is no doubt about that. Would you partake in a s*xual fling with them?