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This thought has been on my mind for months now and when I read what Calmheartseek on Kal's ' Weird ' blog wrote, I knew I have to put a blog up regarding this matter.

If I may, Calmheartseek, borrow your comment,

" Isn't it kinda sad how we read on here how some CS members find someone, even blog or post about it, then a little time goes by, and the relationship breaks up or they are back on CS once again."


What I was thinking, say, someone like me who talks nothing but my relationship with Art all the time on the blogs and forums, much to the horror of fellow Csers

You'd hear how, against your wish, how we met, visit each other, get to know each other more and finally one of us decides to join the other in her/his respective country.

We then decide to no longer be active on CS. Well-wishers and congratulations abound.

Now, I also wonder, would it be better if I just slowly sneak right back into the blogs/forums again without telling fellow CSers about my doomed relationship.

OR

Do you think it's better to put a whole blog up announcing my comeback after my failed relationship just to make sure no awkwardness or uncertainty ensued?

OR

Do you think it's nobody business anyhow!






P.S Art and I are not in Troubleland just in case some of you are wondering

we found lot of materials on internet about it. i am curious that, really mature women like young guys?

Yes, I am

Well, it’s a scary word. For so many reasons, most of us are afraid to commit in a relationship. It would take a load of craps, guts and courage to commit…only those who are courageously in love will give a relationship their best shot – commitment. Those who feel vulnerable, those who seek for something better, those who dwell in the past, those who have unrealistic expectations will always have difficulty in committing themselves in a relationship even if they found that “perfect partner”…the same people who will more likely end up as lonely bitter old men/women.

No-string attached relationships works for many. Most of us have temporarily fixes for our loneliness: jobs, ONS, LDR, alcohol drugs, “dating”, chatting, flirting, playing – they’re just that…temporary! There’ll come a time when one realizes that they have simply wasted those precious time and opportunity to be happier and the opportunity to live a more fulfilling life till the end.

How long have you been blogging here? How many have you met online and in real life but didn’t take that chance to start a good relationship ? ? I bet my bums it’s not because they’re not good enough for us…it’s because we have other options…better ones…or so we thought!

Most of us regular bloggers here are simply bullshitting…we’re not here to look for a love or for a life partner…we’re too “smart” for that. Sadly, CS became a hunting ground for scammers , wankers and players. Many here profess their expertise when it comes to life , love, sex and relationships… but how fulfilling is your love life ? How far would you go for love ? Would you commit ?...or cut and run before you could get hurt again?

Shortly after I joined CS, somebody ask me to be her online lover. The idea sounded great and not knowing what it entails, I agreed.

I thought on-line loving was an opportunity to get to know somebody with the idea to meet each other eventually, but I was wrong. Apparently it consisted of ten minutes of dirty talking while fantasizing about somebody you have never met. I could foresee that the exchange of funny photos would be the next thing.

I have heard of this sort of thing happening over a telephone line but it has never been my scene. Of course it could not last and it died a sudden death. I fail to see how people can get a kick out of this. My on-line lover disappeared without trace - undoubtedly to resurface under another name.

But the incident was not forgotten. I still wonder how often this happens. Is it a common practice behind the scenes or was this an isolated case? Have you had any such proposals? Am I just prudent or is this the in thing?

Have a whale of a day.

I guess a lot of people will differ from me on this but I think it is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

Okay, you’re sitting with a broken heart. That is not the end of the world. The human heart is very resilient. It will heal. How fast will only depend on how quickly you will snap out of your misery to get back into circulation; to start living again

The other casualty is your ego. You may feel rejected, unwanted, unworthy and maybe even guilty, but your ego too will restore itself. The heart won’t heal while the ego is hurt.

Think about it this way. The only thing you lost was a lover who may not have been worthy of your love in the first place. But in the process you have loved and you had a lot of fun. And most importantly, you have learned. Every time you will come out a little stronger and a bit wiser. You will cope better next time.

And just for good measure; if the break-up came to you as a surprise, you have been snoozing for there are always telltales. Love with your one eye open

Relax, it is Friday.

Gathered here and there are a bunch of diverse intelligent and not so intelligent beings, some are good looking most are not, some are just an outline of a presumed gender.

I’ve been here a while and have seen a glut of prospects, met quite a few and exchanged bodily fluids with a fair few, I’ve seen the tumbleweeds blowing through this place like a deserted town too.

I know that many people who used to grace our blogs do visit incognito, maybe just to laugh at us or perhaps check out a crush, who knows.

I’ve talked to many, most seem to fade away after a few messages, some have stood the test of time and chats are daily occurrences.

So what’s the problem? Apart from a few lucky souls most of us remain in stasis, not moving forward at all, Is it age barriers?, Is it geographical anomalies?, or is it lack of commitment?

I’d say that most here don’t want someone, they need someone, but their needs are very different to what others need, some may just want a bloke with money, some men just need a cleaner or mommy figure, but each one of us has something special to offer a potential mate, I don’t think that we probably know what we do have that will appeal to a mate, only by messaging and talking will we find out.

So we are undateables on paper but in real life we probably are very datable, most of us have been on our own for many years and have our quirks, so only by messaging, talking and actually being proactive will we make progress, sitting back and waiting for someone to message us is a waste of time.

Message someone, talk to your crush, time's limited, none of us will live forever.

Best Joke Ever a Girl Said Trust Me

Whats wrong with you guys. What are you looking for?
After being married most of my life and now single, I find men are ugly, inside and out. OK I am not expecting men to look better than they did than in younger years, but just letting yourselves go does not help either. Who likes an enormous pot belly in front of you?
Forgetting the looks, now to your character, did I just have a great husband and forgot that all the other guys are just not nice, or am I just meeting up with the wrong ones? How do I difference between someone who wants to try them all the available ones out and those that really want a relationship?
Also to finances, some, mostly divorced, find themseves with a very low pension and now expect the woman to keep them, while keeping their meager income to themselves.
Have I tried all sorts that are available, or there those that are really ready, just to be happy in a comfortable relationship, where each puts in the best they can. I think men are afraid of commitment.
One day it will be too late for you, and you will be sitting there slobbering.
My biggest problem, there are not a lot of suitable men near me, so I am very limited .

that you are not exactly attracted to, but they just threw themselves at you?

Let's set some parameters. You are hitting an older age where you know you are not getting exactly younger.

The person, seems to be very mature and well grounded.

You are very good friends.

You have been single for over 10 years and the idea of adding someone to your life is a bit scary.

Their mom and dad is younger than you.



There are so many more. I think the best response, especially after having a couple of drinks was to say, I am flattered...and give her a hug.



Another parameter...you know there are some other people interested in you...but they are in a relationship, married...and have never come out and said anything...but you know their behavior around you speaks volumes. They are people you are attracted to....

So...how do you do the dance here

Is it true what they say about love ,that it knows no age ? How many years younger or older is acceptable ?