Would you date somebody that is less than half your age...
that you are not exactly attracted to, but they just threw themselves at you?Let's set some parameters. You are hitting an older age where you know you are not getting exactly younger.
The person, seems to be very mature and well grounded.
You are very good friends.
You have been single for over 10 years and the idea of adding someone to your life is a bit scary.
Their mom and dad is younger than you.
There are so many more. I think the best response, especially after having a couple of drinks was to say, I am flattered...and give her a hug.
Another parameter...you know there are some other people interested in you...but they are in a relationship, married...and have never come out and said anything...but you know their behavior around you speaks volumes. They are people you are attracted to....
So...how do you do the dance here
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When Art was meeting my mom for the first time, he asked, “Do you think I can call your mom “Mom”?”
Without a beat I answered, “Of course honey…..if you don’t mind being chased with a meat cleaver!!”
Art is a couple of years older than both my parents. I don’t think the age difference is that much of a big deal for any of us.
Forget age if you want her and she wants you. Is my advice.
Age do matter.... i am always
little uncomfortable...
(anyone even 2 years less
than me)
definitely.... not possible
for marriage.
maybe... my traditional
upbringing.....
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When Art was meeting my mom for the first time, he asked, “Do you think I can call your mom “Mom”?”
Without a beat I answered, “Of course honey…..if you don’t mind being chased with a meat cleaver!!”
Art is a couple of years older than both my parents. I don’t think the age difference is that much of a big deal for any of us.
You want a one time fling? Then go for it. A relationship? Think with the head on your shoulders.
I say maturity counts. I prefer my man to be older than me.
He can teach me something or two. They say with age comes wisdom.
My initial thought was that age was just a number...and it is. But with her being so young, she may not realize what life has to offer her yet. I am no prize, that is for sure.
I agree with you...Mimi and Art are perfect. You can tell they are so happy together.
I have deep admiration for her for her coming out and saying what she did.
Unfortunately, I do agree with you. A man is a very visual creature...and finding a partner attractive is paramount.
However, I don't know. Kindness is a very tough virtue to find these days...and she is very kind.
I appreciate your words.
What the hell,
is that a country song.
I'd pick you up
If you find yourself (mentally) still searching after she enter (in that way),
then best let it go. Cos it's about the responsibility not only for your own happiness
but someone elses as well. Cool.
Friday afternoon, I picked her up at the station and we went to dinner. She said she liked me and wanted to spend the night. During the meal, her phone rang and it was her husband checking up on her. The story of 'going through a divorce' most likely was a lie... I figured she was looking for her next meal ticket.
After dinner, I dropped her off at her girlfriend's place. Sunday morning she called to ask if I would take her to the train station. I did and while waiting for the train she sat in my lap and I had my nose pressed to her silky black hair.
The train arrived and I said goodbye thinking I'm lucky to have turned down her offer as the one night could have put me in a world-of-pain for both my heart and wallet.
For a few years after, I would see her profile close and reopen with new photos and a new location. For a girl who had no job or money the photo backgrounds on yachts and around luxury cars was what I suspected all along.
I don't know about that. Although, I did once find the woman of my nightmares. YIKES!
Yeah, if I had a Forklift 'cause she was a bit heavy for me. I think it's all those darn Artificially flavored, imitation hamburgers she'd been getting from the mini-mart - gas station - liquor store - video rental - fix a flat tire - place.
No, she wasn't 16 years old. She was old enough to be off Enfamil, but on Ensure with adult diapers.
She was 60 years old, and and she was no spring chicken.
Although, she did claim to be half innocent.
Very well put and I appreciate you sharing your opinion with me.
Yes...it is more than just about me.
Your advice is very well taken.
Very interesting story. You got lucky her phone rang during dinner.
It sounds like she was some sort of thrill seeker looking to be catered to in life. I feel bad for her husband. Hopefully, it is an ex-husband by now. Although, I guess, people have open relationships now days.
But still lucky for you, I agree...it would have been bad for your wallet and heart.
Around where I am from, it is a very small community. Everyone knows each other....well, I guess everyone knows each other's public persona. There are some things that happen around here that do surprise people. I guess, I don't want to be on that next surprise list.
Attractive types are married
and
Non-attractive is single
So there's " qualifiers" for the single, she is very kind/mature
None about the married ones letting know on the sly?
Oops, you're attracted.
Boing!
forbidden fruit
Wiktionary tells me this old-fashioned expression is 'From nelly, Nelly Duff, rhyming slang for puff (of breath = life).'
Anyway…if you’re not attracted to her not sure why you’re going out with her then. You do you Johnny. Thanks because you’re making it known to me that men may go out with me just because and I don’t want that. I want them to be attracted to me.
How's her loan forgiveness working out, from what I understood they called a loan extension, and did not eradicate any of the debt or interest.
there are many reasons for myself as to why i wouldn't. one simple one will work. if they are around the same age or younger than my oldest daughter, there is nothing there for me that i should bother with.
And certainly don't take advantage of you're young lady friend, just because you can
That aside, how do Johny