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Let's look back in time.
What was before online dating. Newspaper personal ads, friends/family arranged blind dates, social events, bars, libraries, literally everywhere where people were.
It was very slow. It was usually down to luck. It was very limited in choices. (Usually in a limited geographic location).
Why was it good? It was natural. People met because they were at the same place. They started to talk because probably had some similar interest.
When people chose or accepted the partner they went for the "good enough" option. It was enough if it was slightly better than others. The brain is happy to do a task like this.
These days the Internet gives the false impression of unlimited choice.
Do a search. Not enough results? No problem. Widen your options and voila now you can scroll 30 pages.
And makes you believe it is down to how you choose.
Barry Schwartz wrote a book called "The Paradox of Choice". He says too much choice will be detrimental.
There are couple of problems inside:
1. Because there are so many options you believe there must be a perfect one. This means the weight of your decision is much bigger.
2. When you choose one and it's not flawless you believe other choice would have been better. Which means you will never be satisfied with the choice.
3. Choosing from a big selection is exhausting. Our brain is not made for this.
4. Big number of players mean big competition. It's very easy to feel you are the only one left alone.
5. Anonymity changes the behaviours for lot of people. They would never say things or act the similar way face-to-face as they do online.
You can find many more points if you think.

Solution: I don't know. I believe it's still a very slow game. You have to accept it you either go for just a good enough or wait much much longer. Same as it was before. The difference is you have to cancel all the noise.
Also I don't believe the marriage is about how you choose at the beginning. It's about how much work the partners put in. The marriage is a workshop. (Yes, I know the classic: Men work, women shop...)
But no one can see in years ahead. what works at the beginning might not work in 5 years time. People also change.
The biggest issue is not how you choose but people didn't learn to work on problems. It's better to look out for new partner if there is a problem.... See, how many potential options out there? Just look around on dating sites.....

I am a Chinese girl,am 25 years old,English is not well but am learning,I do not know if you like a Chinese girl,I am 170cm tall from a company as a receptionist never married and no kids.

He is charming, confident,witty and single......
Ladies are thrilled to bits when he comments on their blogs,many are lining up to be on his friend's list, he is indeed a 'prize catch'
Now who can that be...?

I always seem to find out the hard way but if there's one thing I've noticed about them it's that they are way too full on early in the relationship. I have found no other common denominator.

I was struck by the truth of this. Plus I loved the film. So hopefully it will make you laugh too.

I promised myself, no more blogs for a while. PROMISED myself. But I have a particularly busy weekend coming up for once, and a holiday almost immediately afterwards, so you WILL have a break from my incessant blethering.



Feel free to use the blog as a chance to pass on more priceless advice. It's all friendly ammunition in the war between the sexes.

So....I've met up with my mystery man yet again...I haven't drank a drop of alcohol in years....not because of any alcoholism issues, but only because I like to always be clear headed. Well....last night, not so much He had taken me out to a local club where I enjoy singing..ohh my, I think I mixed up every single song I did, was definitely comical lol....and I've told this mystery man a million times, I can't dance....I have two left feet. He finally told me last night, he didn't know what that meant...still getting used to some American expressions ....I've been asked numerous times at this club to dance but I refuse because I'm just horrid on my feet...but last night, we danced. And I will say this, I think it's one step in the right direction towards curing my case of two left feet. There was just him and the music....wasn't sure if it was the alcohol making my head spin, or the company

Hi friends, I'm in a confusion and would appreciate your opinions here.

I have no desire to marry and have kids again, been there, done that...but wants someone special to share some parts of my life with. I'm not looking forward to sharing the same house with that special someone and cuddle everyday. All I want is to have a respectable relationship on part time basis, what I mean by this is that I want to have a separate life, have enough time and space for myself...spend time with that special someone whenever it's convenient for both of us, like seeing each other 3x times a week. A part time relationship but with set rules and with respect to each other. So far no one agrees with what I want.

Does what I want debase the value of a relationship?



Thanks and have a good night/day everyone!

The first thing to remember is that she will be looking for some level of perfection, your profile may give her love butterflies, but when she meets you won’t be the person that she dreamed off...it’s not sods law its reality.

Women over 50 have been there and done that, so don’t try and blind them with self-serving boasts.

She will more than likely have dogs; these dogs are her babies and take precedent over everything else. If she is a cat women be prepared for a unique stench in her home.

They are for the most part looking for a stable partner and want walks on the beach and she will probably be randy as hell, so you may get a leg over but don’t expect a sandwich afterwards.

Be kind about her looks, she will still be beautiful on the inside as well as the outside, but comments about her “Turkey Neck” will result in being blocked or a hefty slap.

They will make excellent companions, but be wary of one who is into daytime TV soaps; to her the characters are real so tread carefully and think before making derogatory comments about the programme.

Be romantic, she will love getting flowers, cards and gifts, and she will repay you with kindness and or baked goods, If she throws a packet of supermarket brand biscuits at you, time to leave, you failed.

So ladies, add some hints and tips for the men...

So that is the new opening line in all my recent personal messages.
Small case i's, capital letters mid sentence and the urge to relocate in the name of love to another country.

Today online dating site for 'MARRIED PEOPLE' Ashley Madison has had their database compromised by hackers.....34 million yes (million) names have been hacked. The hackers are threatening to go public with the names unless Ashley shuts down the site. See we all here can relax, our names aren't in their database......or are they?????