Dating for the undatables
Gathered here and there are a bunch of diverse intelligent and not so intelligent beings, some are good looking most are not, some are just an outline of a presumed gender.I’ve been here a while and have seen a glut of prospects, met quite a few and exchanged bodily fluids with a fair few, I’ve seen the tumbleweeds blowing through this place like a deserted town too.
I know that many people who used to grace our blogs do visit incognito, maybe just to laugh at us or perhaps check out a crush, who knows.
I’ve talked to many, most seem to fade away after a few messages, some have stood the test of time and chats are daily occurrences.
So what’s the problem? Apart from a few lucky souls most of us remain in stasis, not moving forward at all, Is it age barriers?, Is it geographical anomalies?, or is it lack of commitment?
I’d say that most here don’t want someone, they need someone, but their needs are very different to what others need, some may just want a bloke with money, some men just need a cleaner or mommy figure, but each one of us has something special to offer a potential mate, I don’t think that we probably know what we do have that will appeal to a mate, only by messaging and talking will we find out.
So we are undateables on paper but in real life we probably are very datable, most of us have been on our own for many years and have our quirks, so only by messaging, talking and actually being proactive will we make progress, sitting back and waiting for someone to message us is a waste of time.
Message someone, talk to your crush, time's limited, none of us will live forever.
Comments (58)
1. I don't consider myself an undatable. More like a datable who just hasn't found the right person
2. Need v. Want. I don't need a person. I am pretty self-sufficient. But want? Yes. I want somebody to share my life with. To enjoy life with, to have fun with. To be with. That is a want, not a need.
Point 2, I agree!
Emmy, Guess the above is for you too.
I prefer coconut oil
Just a thought,
Emmy, Strawberries, now that's interesting!
Neither molly
But now and again i search profiles ---write an into and nuthin
dont mind being on my own and see many on forums and blogs just the same.
It is those that never come on blogs i e=mailed but nope no luck
The problem is that our material needs are met by the state and industry and our deeper ends are neglected by the insecure and juvenile. They're liable to end up alone in a place like this with a simulated friendship circle that doesn't tend to anybody's needs precisely because they undervalue their need for the people around them including lovers.
For example soldiers after WWI all leaned on each other and they wrote some of the most beautiful poetry in the history of mankind. Contrast this with how people sound in today's nanny state and fast-food culture of instant gratification.
However.... the virtual world is not for me as far as dating is concerned. What you see is often not what you get!
I´ve just given up and prefer to concentrate on my local friends.
Emmy, Noted , Not rich or gagging for it, where's my list?
Kn, Socially inept and unrealistic sounds about right, not everyone is, lots are.
Reddy, Awww keep trying, someone somewhere will reply, many men dig trees and scones, I know I do.
Ches, Well said, I also think that quite often advice is taken as criticism and anything that appears to make us seem sensitive is overlooked, perhaps the snowflake generation will enjoy that more.
daniela, Yes I think we are all datable in real life, this virtual world can be far too virtual.
I never even checked out a profile
This year, or rather this month, I not only checked out a profile, but wrote to him
He answered me back, thanks but no thanks
I thought, hmm, he is too nice to let go, so I didn't accept the no thanks part
We're still chatting
I think it's like the song, The Gambler, - '
You've got to know when to hold 'em; know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away and know know when to run'
Sometimes, you have got to take that chance if there is a possibility of happiness for both
Life is a gamble.
You either are a flah, or you flah someone
And yes, Cork is the People's Republic of Cork (in our head at least
ahem..."Ungowesifazane omuhle kakhulu onomkhuba ojulile wase-Ireland" is a saying from my culture.
Red, Ever thought of dressing like a biker chick when you go to the gym?
well, I do want and need a man...my work schedule is tight and complicated but managed to spend fun time with a man from time to time
GG, Yes Ive seen the TV show the undateables, However they do a lot better than some of us.Its also great you meet real men for dates, and of course Health and Safety is a must, Irons left on are the cause of many fires in the home.