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Dreams Becoming Reality
For a long time ive wanted to go to india. Its strange how certain places in the world have such a calling for us even though weve never even been there.
So i asked my guides (in my head, not craziness
) if going to india was the right thing to do then send me some way of making enough money to get there. sooo, today i get a phonecall offering me a full time job. And everything else for the rest of the day just seemed to fall into place 
The universe works in mysterious ways, but good ways at that
So i asked my guides (in my head, not craziness
) if going to india was the right thing to do then send me some way of making enough money to get there. sooo, today i get a phonecall offering me a full time job. And everything else for the rest of the day just seemed to fall into place The universe works in mysterious ways, but good ways at that
Tomorrow Will Always Come
Step forward and never look back.
Start the journey, release the pain.
You have found a better love,
But our memories will remain.
You must let go of the anchor,
And let the wind fill your sails.
The adventure will begin
Because time never fails.
Yes, tomorrow will always come,
For it cares not for our sorrows.
We have only the past and present.
We can't beg, steal or borrow.
And though you leave my arms,
You will never leave my heart.
For we share the same soul
In a universe apart.
Start the journey, release the pain.
You have found a better love,
But our memories will remain.
You must let go of the anchor,
And let the wind fill your sails.
The adventure will begin
Because time never fails.
Yes, tomorrow will always come,
For it cares not for our sorrows.
We have only the past and present.
We can't beg, steal or borrow.
And though you leave my arms,
You will never leave my heart.
For we share the same soul
In a universe apart.
MY FRIEND
When I joined CS, probably like most of us, I was looking for that special someone, my soulmate. But in the process I'm meeting people in the same boat as myself. Because we have that in common we share experiences we've had online, both good and bad, and have become friends. I'm enjoying this unexpected pleasure because a few weeks ago I didn't know anyone on here. Now I have friends I care a great deal for. I really didn't see this coming. And although I'd still like to meet my mate, it somehow doesn't seem as pressing a concern. I'm happy to spend time with my friends on here.
Also just a thought, Have you ever thought that it is easier to tell a friend who lives in another state or country things you wouldn't tell someone in your own area? It seems that way to me.. Yep, this is pretty cool
Dan
Also just a thought, Have you ever thought that it is easier to tell a friend who lives in another state or country things you wouldn't tell someone in your own area? It seems that way to me.. Yep, this is pretty cool
Dan
you are not going to get everything you want
AS I LISTEN TO MOST OF THE FEMALES ON THIS LINE, I HAVE REALIZED WHY MOST OF YOU ARE STILL SINGLE OR STILL LOOKING FOR THAT SPECIAL PERSON. FIRST OF ALL YOU WOMEN NEED TO LOOSEN UP ON THE KIND OF MAN YOU WANT. YOU WANT A PERFECT GUY WHEN IF YOU CHECK YOURSELF OUT, YOU'RE NOT PERFECT EITHER. YOU SAY A GUY MUST HAVE THIS AND HAVE THAT (not being specific because we all have our preferences) but when you state what you are looking for make sure you can offer the same........NOT COMMING DOWN ON YOU BUT I'M JUST SAYING...... MAKE YOU SAY HHHMMMMM
The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing
It doesn’t interest me how old you are
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love, for your dreams
for the adventure of being alive
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon
I want to know if you have touched
the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own, without moving to hide it
or fade it or fix it
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy
fill you to the tips of your fingers
and toes without cautioning us
to be careful, be realistic
remember the limitations of being human
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true
I want to know if you can disappoint another
to be true to yourself
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty every day
and if you can source your own life from its presence
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon ”Yes”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live
or how much money you have
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done to feed the children
It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here
I want to know if you will stand
in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back
It doesn’t interest me where or what
or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside
when all else falls away
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company
you keeping the empty moments
(Oriah Mountain Dreamer)
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing
It doesn’t interest me how old you are
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love, for your dreams
for the adventure of being alive
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon
I want to know if you have touched
the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own, without moving to hide it
or fade it or fix it
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy
fill you to the tips of your fingers
and toes without cautioning us
to be careful, be realistic
remember the limitations of being human
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true
I want to know if you can disappoint another
to be true to yourself
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty every day
and if you can source your own life from its presence
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon ”Yes”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live
or how much money you have
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done to feed the children
It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here
I want to know if you will stand
in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back
It doesn’t interest me where or what
or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside
when all else falls away
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company
you keeping the empty moments
(Oriah Mountain Dreamer)
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Get Your “Om” On...
Overloaded with work, groceries, laundry, car pool and 150 other obligations? We get it. But if you think your schedule is too jam-packed to accommodate some downtime, think again. “People say, ‘I’m too busy for antistress techniques,’ but when you practice relaxation, you become more efficient at all your other tasks,” says Bruce Rabin, MD, Ph.D., medical director of the Healthy Lifestyle Program at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. “By investing in yourself, you actually create more time for yourself.”
So take ten to get Zen every day using the tension tamers below. You’ll feel calmer, think more clearly, have the blues less often and just enjoy life more.
Breathe right The way you take in O2 can directly influence your physical -- and mental -- tension levels. Shallow breathing (from your chest) actually causes shorter, more restless brain waves, while deeper breathing (from your abdomen), causes longer, slower brain waves that make you feel relaxed and calm. Deepen your breathing with this Healthy Lifestyle Program exercise: Place one hand over your belly button and one on your chest. Inhale, counting to 4 very slowly, making sure to feel more movement in your belly than your chest. As you exhale, count backwards from four very slowly. Repeat three to four times.
Create a giggle box “There’s an area of the brain that becomes active when you think something is funny, and it’s wired to the brain’s stress area,” Rabin says. “When you activate the humor area, you suppress the stress area.” Keep sidesplitting ideas at the ready by thinking of things that make you laugh and placing them in an imaginary box in your mind. When stress strikes, open the box and access a giggle.
Strike a pose The cobra pose not only boosts your back strength and enhances flexibility, according to California-based yoga instructor Stacey Lei Krauss, but it also melts tension right where it lives -- in your upper back, neck and shoulders. Begin lying face down on the ground with your hands by your sides. Bend your arms and press your palms down, underneath your shoulders. Press down on your hands and straighten your arms. Your hips should stay relaxed as you slowly shift your gaze upward and arch your back. Hold the position for a count of five, and then slowly lower down. Repeat three times.
Pick a perfect mantra Whether it’s “All will be well,” “God loves me,” “I’m in control” or “Every little thing is gonna be all right,” find a phrase that fortifies you emotionally. Practice saying it, or better yet, chanting it (Gregorian tune optional) when you’re happy. “You’re creating a Pavlovian response so your mind will associate your chant with being calm,” Rabin explains. “Then when you’re tense, think of the chant, and your mind will automatically associate it with the happier time, and you’ll immediately calm down.” There’s no right or wrong chant -- and no singing credentials are required.
Find your sacred space Think of it as an emotional refuge, a place you go to hop off the treadmill that is your life. And it doesn’t have to be a Buddhist shrine in your living room -- or any physical space at all. It can be something you do, like sitting on a plush meditation pillow, lighting a scented candle (try lavender, eucalyptus, bergamot or sandalwood), holding a photo of a beach, a nature scene or any positive memory. The trick is to find the self-soother that works for you. And the more you practice it, the faster you’ll unwind each time.
By Aviva Patz
Overloaded with work, groceries, laundry, car pool and 150 other obligations? We get it. But if you think your schedule is too jam-packed to accommodate some downtime, think again. “People say, ‘I’m too busy for antistress techniques,’ but when you practice relaxation, you become more efficient at all your other tasks,” says Bruce Rabin, MD, Ph.D., medical director of the Healthy Lifestyle Program at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. “By investing in yourself, you actually create more time for yourself.”
So take ten to get Zen every day using the tension tamers below. You’ll feel calmer, think more clearly, have the blues less often and just enjoy life more.
Breathe right The way you take in O2 can directly influence your physical -- and mental -- tension levels. Shallow breathing (from your chest) actually causes shorter, more restless brain waves, while deeper breathing (from your abdomen), causes longer, slower brain waves that make you feel relaxed and calm. Deepen your breathing with this Healthy Lifestyle Program exercise: Place one hand over your belly button and one on your chest. Inhale, counting to 4 very slowly, making sure to feel more movement in your belly than your chest. As you exhale, count backwards from four very slowly. Repeat three to four times.
Create a giggle box “There’s an area of the brain that becomes active when you think something is funny, and it’s wired to the brain’s stress area,” Rabin says. “When you activate the humor area, you suppress the stress area.” Keep sidesplitting ideas at the ready by thinking of things that make you laugh and placing them in an imaginary box in your mind. When stress strikes, open the box and access a giggle.
Strike a pose The cobra pose not only boosts your back strength and enhances flexibility, according to California-based yoga instructor Stacey Lei Krauss, but it also melts tension right where it lives -- in your upper back, neck and shoulders. Begin lying face down on the ground with your hands by your sides. Bend your arms and press your palms down, underneath your shoulders. Press down on your hands and straighten your arms. Your hips should stay relaxed as you slowly shift your gaze upward and arch your back. Hold the position for a count of five, and then slowly lower down. Repeat three times.
Pick a perfect mantra Whether it’s “All will be well,” “God loves me,” “I’m in control” or “Every little thing is gonna be all right,” find a phrase that fortifies you emotionally. Practice saying it, or better yet, chanting it (Gregorian tune optional) when you’re happy. “You’re creating a Pavlovian response so your mind will associate your chant with being calm,” Rabin explains. “Then when you’re tense, think of the chant, and your mind will automatically associate it with the happier time, and you’ll immediately calm down.” There’s no right or wrong chant -- and no singing credentials are required.
Find your sacred space Think of it as an emotional refuge, a place you go to hop off the treadmill that is your life. And it doesn’t have to be a Buddhist shrine in your living room -- or any physical space at all. It can be something you do, like sitting on a plush meditation pillow, lighting a scented candle (try lavender, eucalyptus, bergamot or sandalwood), holding a photo of a beach, a nature scene or any positive memory. The trick is to find the self-soother that works for you. And the more you practice it, the faster you’ll unwind each time.
By Aviva Patz
How to be a good lover? Part 4
Be true to yourself
be honest with yourself, too. Don’t pretend to be someone else in a relationship, it is much more trouble than it’s worth. When I say ‘be honest with yourself’, I mean that if you are unhappy with your lover, don’t deny or repress it. Do something about it. Your happiness is the most important thing.
Be vocal with your praise & show appreciation in as many ways as you can
Be generous with kind words. Everyone needs encouragement, & everyone loves to hear that they are doing things well. Tell people you love them & how much you enjoy having them in your life.
Hyper-love & bunny kisses, [ 23 October 2007 ]
be honest with yourself, too. Don’t pretend to be someone else in a relationship, it is much more trouble than it’s worth. When I say ‘be honest with yourself’, I mean that if you are unhappy with your lover, don’t deny or repress it. Do something about it. Your happiness is the most important thing.
Be vocal with your praise & show appreciation in as many ways as you can
Be generous with kind words. Everyone needs encouragement, & everyone loves to hear that they are doing things well. Tell people you love them & how much you enjoy having them in your life.
Hyper-love & bunny kisses, [ 23 October 2007 ]
How to be a good lover? Part 3
Learn to forgive & move on
Harbouring resentment will make you sick & eventually poison your relationship. People make mistakes; even people with the best of intentions screw up & hurt the people they love sometimes. Recognise that no one is perfect, even your dream lover, & try your best to forgive them if they upset you.
Be able to admit when you are wrong
Your relationship is (hopefully) more important than one of you being right or wrong. Some people are obsessed with always being right, which I think is really a bit of a control issue. If you are wrong about something, be gracious & admit your mistake.
Hyper-love & bunny kisses, [ 23 October 2007 ]
Harbouring resentment will make you sick & eventually poison your relationship. People make mistakes; even people with the best of intentions screw up & hurt the people they love sometimes. Recognise that no one is perfect, even your dream lover, & try your best to forgive them if they upset you.
Be able to admit when you are wrong
Your relationship is (hopefully) more important than one of you being right or wrong. Some people are obsessed with always being right, which I think is really a bit of a control issue. If you are wrong about something, be gracious & admit your mistake.
Hyper-love & bunny kisses, [ 23 October 2007 ]
A Picture Painted On My Heart
Though the time we spent together
Was so short and brief in days.
We have shared a lifetime
You touched my heart in many ways.
We gave of our true selves.
We shared what no one ever sees.
You have painted a picture
On my heart that never leaves.
Love has touched our lives
But a moment of the whole
And I am changed forever
Because I felt your soul.
When life becomes too much
I'll turn the pages in my mind
And I will feel you hold me
Kissing the tears that I have cried.
We can't know what life will bring
But it can never steal away
The melding of our souls
Or keep the memories at bay.
Was so short and brief in days.
We have shared a lifetime
You touched my heart in many ways.
We gave of our true selves.
We shared what no one ever sees.
You have painted a picture
On my heart that never leaves.
Love has touched our lives
But a moment of the whole
And I am changed forever
Because I felt your soul.
When life becomes too much
I'll turn the pages in my mind
And I will feel you hold me
Kissing the tears that I have cried.
We can't know what life will bring
But it can never steal away
The melding of our souls
Or keep the memories at bay.
How to be a good lover? part 2
3.Take responsibility for your own happiness
Being in a relationship does not mean that you are no longer in charge of yourself. If you’re at home & you’re bored & your lover is busy, go out alone! See a friend! Go shopping! Do whatever you like. Your partner does not exist to distract you from your own life or needs, even though sometimes they can be a very welcome diversion! You need to know how to make yourself happy, & keep practising that. Otherwise you run the risk of being codependent.
4. Learn to love your partner in their own language
People show that they love people in different ways. You might show your boyfriend you love him by bringing him little gifts or trinkets, while he might show you he loves you by cooking for you or taking you out to dinner. Ask your partner what would make them feel appreciated, & then listen to what they say. Some people like jewellery while others are content to have someone brush their hair or kiss them first thing in the morning. Being able to speak your partner’s “love language” will make them feel understood & treasured, & will strengthen the bonds between you.
Hyper-love & bunny kisses, [ 23 October 2007 ]
Being in a relationship does not mean that you are no longer in charge of yourself. If you’re at home & you’re bored & your lover is busy, go out alone! See a friend! Go shopping! Do whatever you like. Your partner does not exist to distract you from your own life or needs, even though sometimes they can be a very welcome diversion! You need to know how to make yourself happy, & keep practising that. Otherwise you run the risk of being codependent.
4. Learn to love your partner in their own language
People show that they love people in different ways. You might show your boyfriend you love him by bringing him little gifts or trinkets, while he might show you he loves you by cooking for you or taking you out to dinner. Ask your partner what would make them feel appreciated, & then listen to what they say. Some people like jewellery while others are content to have someone brush their hair or kiss them first thing in the morning. Being able to speak your partner’s “love language” will make them feel understood & treasured, & will strengthen the bonds between you.
Hyper-love & bunny kisses, [ 23 October 2007 ]
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