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Last night I went on a first date with a man I met on line. First off, he did not look anything like his picture. His picture was old and he told me that he had gained 40 lbs. But when he picked me up....let's just say that he gained alot more than 40 lbs. So I set that aside, and tried not to judge him and went out with him for the evening.

I travel more outside the city I live in, so it was rather funny that he knew more about the city I live in than I did. We went to a local bar, where he proceeded to manhandle me. I explained to him that I don't do that on first dates, and I would appreciate if he would respect my space. Because we were in an atmosphere that was rather loud, he felt that he could lean into my ear and talk to me while rubbing my back. And after having a meal, which I stated I was full, felt that he could rub my stomach.

Needless to say, I had a few drinks to try and relax. I started drinking too much and couldn't find my way home....lol. We had left the bar and I was rather unstable, and because I couldn't find my way home, he told me that he could just keep me hostage. Now....being under the influence, that tended to not set well with me...rather, it being a first date, and the fact that he would not respect my space....was actually kind of scary.

He got me home safely and proceeded to try to force a kiss on me. I dodged in every direction, but he was quite forceful. I finally had to pull myself away and tell him no. And then, to top things off, my mom accidently locked me out of the house....lol.

So, it wasn't such a good evening. So just for giggles everyone, could you please comment and tell me what I did wrong.....lol. I want to know why it is that when I tell a man to respect my space he suddenly becomes deaf.

Some recent events in my life have got me thinking about relationships and the reasons behind why they might flourish and then, why they might die. I've come to the conclusion that it is distance that is the number one cause of withering, dying, or dead relationships. Be that distance emotional or physical, separation from the ones you care about will ultimately sever your connection with them. Death of course, is that final and most feared creator of distance.

All of this of course doesn't only apply to romantic relationships. Oftentimes, I've had many friendships terminate because of distance. Whether it was former co-workers or classmates, physical distance creates a breakdown in communication and then everything spirals downward from there. You can always measure the strength of a friendship by how you act when you haven't communicated with that person in a long time. Most of us have friends that we may not see or talk to for months or even years at a time, but when you do, it's like no time has passed at all. That's how you know you have a strong connection with that person.

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and though that may be true, I believe that prolonged absence makes the mind grow harder. By that I mean that the practical side of our brains learn to accept the distance and distracts us from our emotions by concentrating on routine and day to day survival.

Technology is a wonderful gift and tool that we use. I often marvel at the fact that I can talk to people through written word or by voice despite the fact that the listener is hundreds maybe even thousands of miles away. Unfortunately, human beings need to feel a physical presence in order to thrive. I really enjoy talking to distant friends or relatives, but I get so much more out of being in the same physical space with them.

Distance is a crafty killer. At first, you don't think it will be a problem, but then after time, you begin to forget. You realize that you don't actually need to feel the other person's presence because life will go on without them. Distance comes in so many shapes and forms, too and what may seem like a great opportunity is really creator of distance.

There will never be a cure for distance, but perhaps with more awareness, people can prevent distance from happening without their knowledge.


THAT IS ALL

since this is my first time experiencing the CS world of operations i'm inclined to announce my initial intent.

this is, again, my first attempt at a CS type environment to see what comes out of it. in it's own right it may be fruitful or it may be fruitless. only time can tell that.

my initial intent of my blogging however is to voice my thoughts and opinions and see how they correspond or contrast with those of the rest of the world.

also i plan to explore the world i've been brought into to get to know this now distant world i find myself in.

having said that i wish you all a good day and i hope to receive your incite in my future blogs to come or an email greeting just to say hi. whichever you like most! ;)

Even if we are at the same perpose..
We can't find eachother..
Maybe we found eachother but we did not like eachother..
Maybe we like eachother but we don't match to eachother..
Maybe we match to eachother but we don't understand eachother..
so...Just only being at dating site is worth..

Survey

If you want, fill out this survey and copy it and e-mail it to me. I’ll then fill this same survey out and send it to you. Enjoy.

Do you?

1. Think we could be friends?

2. Have any interest in becoming friends with me?

3. Think you’re my type?

4. Like to go out a lot or stay in more often?

5. Prefer dinner and a movie or bar and party?

6. Have any pets?

7. Have any children?

8. Live within 200 miles of me?

9. Think I’m attractive?

10. Like sports?

11. Drink?

12. Smoke?

13. Do drugs?

14. Go to school?

15. Have a job?

Would you?

1. Want to hang out if we got to know each other?

2. Be looking for more than just friends?

3. Drive to come see me?

4. Want me to drive to see you?

5. Meet halfway in the middle to meet?

Are you?

1. Smart?

2. Funny?

3. Shy?

4. Bitchy?

5. Sexy?

6. Wild?

7. Laid-back?

8. Creative?

9. Athletic?

10. Artistic/Musical?

Have you?

1. Been outside the country?

2. Been to a baseball game?

3. Dated someone you met online?

4. Been to a concert before?

5. Ever been in jail?

Now you can tell me anything else about you that you would like me know. Feel free to contact me anytime. I am always looking to me meet new people. Enjoy.

Two butterflies were in love.........

One day, they decided to play Hide n Seek.......

During the play.....
Boy Butterfly - "A small game within us"
Girl Butterfly - "OK"
Boy Butterfly - "The one who sits in this flower tomorrow early in the morning.....that one loves the other one more....."
Girl Butterfly - "OK"

Next morning, the boy butterfly waits for the flower to open so that he can sit before the girl butterfly does......

Finally, the flower opened.....

What did he see.....?????........

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The girl butterfly had died inside the flower.....

She stayed there all night......so that early in the morning......as soon as she sees him.......she can fly to him and tell him how much she loved him........

This is true LOVE....

Life is LOVE.......
WHEN U LOVE ANY ONE LOVE TRULY

Recently I was chatting with a woman from here. We seemed to hit it off and I have to admit, it was very pleasant. We talked for hours, 7 the first night, 12 the next day. Eventually flirting began and then it became more. Long story short, on the third day she told me she was falling in love with me. I didn't see that coming and was uncomfortable with her saying it. I also felt confused and wondered if had led her on or if there was something wrong with her? But if something was wrong with her I would have noticed something during all those hours of chat. I saw no flags and don't believe she was a scammer. The feelings were real and after I didnt respond by telling her I loved her to, she started just saying "I love you" the way someone will do when they want to hear you say it back. This was more uncomfortable and I began to pull back. Finally I had to hit the ignore button and get away for a couple of days. When I talked to her again today and tried to explain myself she said ugly hurtful things as if she were a woman scorned. This whole thing lasted less than a week and ended as fast as it began. I feel bad about hurting her and feel responsible. Looking back I think I should have seen the extreme emotions showing so fast as a flag and pulled away faster than I did.

I guess, like everything else, this is a learning process. That will not happen again.

If this is a dating site?? Why do I find many women with profiles on here saying "I'm not looking anymore, I have found my true love"..... If you have? Good for you .... Then get your profile off the site. And spend time with your man, Instead of being on the internet... Is This a dating site? Or is just a site for Insecure women who need a moral boost every day? You tell Me!!

I like witch craft & gothic thing etc alssi like flims & tv sen & musci too. I love to be in the garden gardenig and i like animals too also like to read books wen i can.

Seven months ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. It was too far gone, terminal, and the doctor's wanted to try massive chemo and radiation treatments.

I have always shied away from man-made medicines. Too many of these drugs fix one problem only to cause other problems. On top of that, I had witnessed what these treatments do to patients first hand from beloved family members that have since passed.

I have been studying homeopathic medicine for 10 yrs., but the doctors disagreed and would not work with me on this so I was forced to quit my job of 10yrs.+ and collect my retirement to live on while I set about healing myself through herbal medicine.

I am now completely healed and have been told by the doctor that my body now needs to rest and gain strength. I didn't realize that it takes your body a year to heal and strengthen after cancer.

Here is my dilemma - When a man shows an interest in me that I find interesting, he eventually asks what I do for a living. When I tell him I am not working right now, I am either told that I am not getting a free ride from him or he simply never contacts me again.

I have been independent and worked since I was 15 yrs. old. I did not have a free ride during 28 yrs. of marriage and am still on my own 5 yrs. after my divorce.

I actually avoid many men on this site because their profiles state they want an independent woman who can provide for herself. And frankly, I'm tired of being insulted and hurt.

So, once again, we are dealing with restrictions on love based, this time, on materialism. How many wonderful women have you missed out on, men, because they weren't working or making enough money to suit you?

Well, men, you may think I'm not worthy of you because I am not working, but it is those of you that think that way that are not worthy of me or other women like me.