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Jan 31, 2016 8:30 AM CST release him or hold him ?
mayangcollins21
mayangcollins21mayangcollins21Sukabumi, West Java Indonesia2 Threads 17 Posts
I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice
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Jan 31, 2016 8:49 AM CST release him or hold him ?
Dreamcatcher99
Dreamcatcher99Dreamcatcher99Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia5 Threads 1 Polls 1,074 Posts
Hi Mayang wave

I'm probably the last person that should be giving you any advice coz when it comes to broken heart matters, I'm no better in dealing with it. sigh

Only thing I know is if he doesn't want to be in contact with me anymore, it's best to move on albeit it's easier to say than done. sad flower
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Jan 31, 2016 9:03 AM CST release him or hold him ?
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


I wouldn't worry too much about it, besides, you'll have bigger & better things to worry about in years to come.sad flower
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Jan 31, 2016 9:06 AM CST release him or hold him ?
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada28 Threads 1 Polls 6,976 Posts
wave Boyfriend in the real sense?, or an acquaintance on the
Internet?
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Jan 31, 2016 9:21 AM CST release him or hold him ?
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
Not going to give you advice cause that is something as an adult you will have to make that decision for yourself and not depend on others to make for you.

I told my son the same thing when he became an adult that once he became an adult he was on his own.
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Jan 31, 2016 9:39 AM CST release him or hold him ?
serena123
serena123serena123durban, KwaZulu-Natal South Africa44 Threads 2 Polls 2,821 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


If he's jealous and doesn't trust you now..it will just get worse..leave him hug
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Jan 31, 2016 10:03 AM CST release him or hold him ?
tomcatwarne
tomcatwarnetomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK289 Threads 7 Polls 17,106 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


I can see why you're after a visa and meal ticket, but it seems he doesn't want youdunno
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Jan 31, 2016 11:02 AM CST release him or hold him ?
uptall
uptalluptallQuiet village..., Durham, England UK57 Threads 1 Polls 12,860 Posts
tomcatwarne: I can see why you're after a visa and meal ticket, but it seems he doesn't want you



So cynical Tom!!
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Jan 31, 2016 11:03 AM CST release him or hold him ?
tomcatwarne
tomcatwarnetomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK289 Threads 7 Polls 17,106 Posts
uptall: So cynical Tom!!


That was looking on the bright side.grin
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Jan 31, 2016 11:17 AM CST release him or hold him ?
uptall
uptalluptallQuiet village..., Durham, England UK57 Threads 1 Polls 12,860 Posts
tomcatwarne: That was looking on the bright side.


Foggy down there is it?laugh
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Jan 31, 2016 11:28 AM CST release him or hold him ?
onlyoneheart
onlyoneheartonlyoneheartunknown, Arkansas USA38 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


Hello mayangcollins21. I am very sorry you are experiencing this. I have gone through something like this before.. I was innocent. Come to find out he was the one who cheated and more than once. I was in my 20's at this time (I am 46 now).

He either found someone else and he is too cowardly to say, therefor using that backwards conscience thing to help himself feel better.

OR

He really thinks you to be unfaithful.

The fact that he will not even talk about it is suspicious to me. How many times have you tried? You seem to be the only one hurting in this situation. He doesn't seem to care. Anyone who can turn it off to that degree and will not even discuss it, not giving you a chance.. does not deserve you.

Walking away from someone you love can hurt a lot, its depths are measured according to how much you feel for them. Sometimes I have felt like I was literally dying inside and no one could help me yet somehow I survived.. :)

The best advice I ever received was from an older woman.. she said "Is it his love for you that keeps you or your love for him"
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Jan 31, 2016 11:28 AM CST release him or hold him ?
Swami
SwamiSwamiVienna, Austria3 Threads 94 Posts
I say that is not working between you two. No trust, no future.
For trust are not enough the words. Is needed more....Think about it.
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Feb 1, 2016 12:56 AM CST release him or hold him ?
serene56
serene56serene56Myplace, New South Wales Australia543 Threads 10 Polls 27,957 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice



If you did cheat on him, let him go.

In fact it appears he already has.
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Feb 1, 2016 1:16 AM CST release him or hold him ?
sophiasummer
sophiasummersophiasummerNorthland, New Zealand112 Threads 6,528 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


Hes over you love.
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Feb 1, 2016 1:24 AM CST release him or hold him ?
your a grown woman. think for yourself...instead of asking strangers....blunt but true........wave
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Feb 1, 2016 1:54 AM CST release him or hold him ?
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice
no worries , i do trust u ,add me on whatsapp , just dont ask me anything grin rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 1, 2016 2:09 AM CST release him or hold him ?
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


He already walked away. handshake
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Feb 1, 2016 4:21 AM CST release him or hold him ?
kaetchenvonhn
kaetchenvonhnkaetchenvonhnNeckarsulm, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany452 Posts
mayangcollins21: I have canadian boyfriend who not trust me anymore, he prefer to not talk to me than have to ask me what actually happened, He seem more trust a guy who said that i'm cheating him,seem he give up and wanna leave me for that guy,now He even don't wanna see me,many times I text him,call him but he never respond,many times I tried to talk with him but still no change, what should I do? Should I release him , let him go? or what?
please give me advice


Tut tut. That's a red code. He left you for another guy. Let him go.
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Feb 4, 2016 5:08 PM CST release him or hold him ?
Len05
Len05Len05Antwerp, Antwerpen Belgium33 Threads 11 Polls 972 Posts
at 23y old you should involve yourself with such issues
plenty fish out there
Especially with 1000 miles in between.
who cares
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Feb 11, 2016 2:29 AM CST release him or hold him ?
mayangcollins21
mayangcollins21mayangcollins21Sukabumi, West Java Indonesia2 Threads 17 Posts
hi everyone :)
yea now i release him
I figured out that him the 1 who cheat on me
He said he doesnt talk to me cause he's very busy
but he having vacation in vietnam for visit another girl
so sad huh

I was the 1 who feel guilty but in fact I'm the victim
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