Portiea: Okay...I have a question. A girlfriend of mine said she believed men didn't actually care as much about our bodies being 'perfect' as women think they do. So, I want to know if she is right. That is, advertising and our culture have virtually convinced women we need to be thin and nearly perfect....so we diet, and do a lot of other silly and exteme stuff so men will want us. But maybe it is not as important to them as we think. What's the truth???
Ambrose2007: I rather like the idea of taking on a project girl and making her a lot better
Bwahahahaha, a project girl.... Yep, like someone else already said on here, men want to change women for the mere sake of 'tuning', as they always do with their cars.....
AudrysSis: Bwahahahaha, a project girl.... Yep, like someone else already said on here, men want to change women for the mere sake of 'tuning', as they always do with their cars.....
Hey, I happen to be a piano tuner (at least in a former life), so that's only natural for me, Audry.
Ambrose2007: I rather like the idea of taking on a project girl and making her a lot better through assiduous training and counseling. I think trying to change each other can inject a lot of...well, life into a relationship. Certainly can make things interesting and exciting.
RobbieM: Normally anything is acceptable if the woman also owns a brewery where the alcohol is drinkable
I'm easy pleased, a pulse and a coffee icecream is all i require today,I hate cravings when im stuck still, when i move about ill put on 110lbs when i rediscover food
I think what it comes down to is that some people just like a project. They see a person who "could be" their ideal match with a little "improvement" and they set to work on that. The guy who made the comment that it was like tuning up an engine is dead on (my analogy being flipping houses).
But I tell ya what, every girl I've been with has tried to fit me into a box and turn me into something I'm not.
And it hurt like hell when I found out I was just a "failed home improvement project".
So there's no real answer for that question. Sometimes a person just wants a project. If you don't care to be a pet project, don't be with those kinds of people.
Wondering how (Sometimes) a man will fall/chase/pursue a woman in heels skirt.. make up etc..
then sometime after he has 'snagged her' .. isn't happy with the way she dresses any more.. too 'available'.. too attractive to other men?
THEN.. goes off her because she is starting to dress down .. and not look so good any more.. while he is back off oggling the skirts and heels elsewhere..
I never did understand that..
WHen one dresses to please another and not to please themselves, it is being very co-dependent.
I dress to feel comfortable. If you do not like the way I am dressed, do not be seen with me. I would hate for you to feel less than because of how I am dressed..
sxc666: No doubt it is in a lot of circumstances. But I was asking from my point a view about why a guy does it.
I never felt the need to change anyone....I either take them as they are or move on...although...I ask for directions, never complain when I am sick if I will even admit it, and put the toilet seat down. Other than that I am a damn Neanderthal.
woody636: Morning all. (at least here its morning) What makes a man want to marry a women. I think its because she makes him whole. Not sure what it is that causes that but its definitely there! Doesn't feel complete when they're not together.
Good response. But I would like to think that marriage is between two people who are already whole. I don't like to think of it as two halves coming together and completing each other. I don't need someone to "complete" me. I am my own person, he is his own person, and we decide to share our lives together.
froggy1: Good response. But I would like to think that marriage is between two people who are already whole. I don't like to think of it as two halves coming together and completing each other. I don't need someone to "complete" me. I am my own person, he is his own person, and we decide to share our lives together.
Maybe I am overanalyzing ??
I agree with you froggy, wholeheartedly. Didn't mean to imply that neither is a complete person. More like the two of you compliment each other in all ways. Its a wonderful feeling.
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