50+% divorce rate is huge.....especially coming from a very low divorce rate just 20 years ago.
It is a sign that that times are changing.
If one does not grasp what exactly is changing and trying to figure out what is making that change...and you continue on with relationships as you did 20 years ago....one is doomed to be a flip of a coin.
If both people in the relationship are both greatful for each other and had no needs and wants....then...each would fulfill each other by default.
because nobody needed anything and nobody wanted anything...both were greatful for each other.
If I didn't want or need anything from anyone else....I could not rob them of their value...in addition, because I need or want nothing, I would be at minimum in an okay emotional state...perhaps even happy.....
for sure, I would be happy if I was even greatful.
so..if both people in the relationship were that....
I was in a similar position as you. International relationships are very expensive...on top of the traveling, you have legal fees and risks when it comes to citizenship. That is what put things to an end for me in my country. ..signing a contract saying you will be financially responsible for the person you bring in for 10 years, no matter the out come of your relationship. With the divorce rate so high right now, I am not into flipping coins for $180,000.00
We didn't have social media as prevalent as it is today, 20 years ago. Now days, with a little bit of checking, a person can get a rough idea of how somebody is...based off of social media. Of course, not everyone is on social media...but it is a good starting point to figure out who this person is.
If people are looking for long term today, they have to become much more smarter in understanding what makes a long term relationship work. Right now, it is a flip of the coin if it will be long term or not.
...one can assume, it may even be getting worse than 50% divorce rate. I have read in some countries it is closer to 70%.
So the dream of a long term relationship, is fading.
It would be wonderful to become involved with somebody who is already happy on their own, and does not expect the world to be served to them on a gold platter.
Too many wants and needs...I think would start to develop a person into a selfish person, and possibly a person with a hidden self-interest agenda only.
Remember, we are living in a day were it is 50% divorce rate.
What was okay and correct 20 years ago, aint so much today.
Chat...I agree. I believe people become less tolerable of others...especially if they live alone and do not get out and socialize much with others.
They have only had themselves to answer for/to...for so many years....and how many times does yourself do something that goes against how you think things should be?
Yes...I remember when it mean something too. Just 15 minutes ago, the CNN guy mentioned in the next segment, after the break, they will be talking about three different Breaking News stories.
Seriously Jim, I noticed this on MSNBC well before your blog any others' blogs. Everything is Breaking News. Then, I started to watch FOX, same thing there...everything Breaking. Now, I have CNN on, everything is Breaking news.
I just wonder if there is not something psychological behind that sort of labeling by these networks.
Wow SA...thanks for that. I had an aunt who passed away and the children...well, they were adults at the time, thought they were going to get her life insurance benefits....but they were only able to get them if my aunt died of unnatural causes. So, there seems to be a lot of fine print.
I didn't know about the high population of turkey farms by him. I wonder if that is why he has not been on so much lately. He says he has moved...I wonder if he didn't move to Poway? ...but anyway....maybe truly what is going on, maybe he was caught trespassing on the turkey farm late one night.
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There is no doubt....It would be very difficult for two people to be completely without need or want.
....but the lower that level of need or want....and the higher level of greatfulness...
the better chance for true love...
in my opinion