People who have been single for too long...
There's a member running around with a faceless photo with only a message. Although its against CS rules for posting a primary image that isn't a face, a high percentage of members here do this. My opinion is you're not seriously looking as guys usually connect with women who have real photos on their profiles.Back to the blog... The message reads:
People who have been single for too long are the hardest to love, because they have become so used to being single, independent, and self-sufficient that it takes something extraordinary to convince them that they need you in their life.
I typed the first line into a search engine and it brought up dozens of examples along with links to psychology sites as everyone has an opinion and diagnosis to the situation of people who are unwilling to change their single status.
A common thread on dating sites. Take a look at some of the topics in the forums section to see what I'm talking about.
I followed a link to one site that was filled with toxic relationship memes and poems. Scary thought someone took the time to collect all those sayings... just sayin'
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And more pathetic that they have time to focus on other people's lives than their own.
Chat, you should ignore these people and blog about something else because they don't deserve any of your time. I think.
I'm easy to love, I'm also a caring, sharing, giving individual.
Now you blog explains why I remain single (maybe the Men want to be single).
I like being single.
I'm not about to become unsingle because other people don't like being single. I'm independent, self-sufficient and I can make decisions for myself. It's called emotional maturity.
The only misgiving I have about the quote is the use of the word 'something', rather than 'someone'. It's objectifying, which isn't emotionally mature.
I am independent and self-sufficient and it has to be someone extraordinary to want him in my life - I don't want just anyone that has been (or tried) everyone else's bed.
I do want someone in my life as it adds something positive.
Great thought. How much positive do you need?
I've done blogs about women who are still waiting for the prince in a white stallion.
Not too many of those around.
Maybe 10 years ago, I met a woman for coffee. She looked better than her photos and I asked if we could have lunch instead of coffee. That turned into 2 hours of conversation and she hugged me in the parking lot as we were leaving. I called to ask for a date and she told me I lived too far away (50 miles) and she wasn't interested.
She's been on and off the same dating site and recently posted new photos.
I'd guess she didn't meet her Mr. Right.
If you were, you would have transcended such a minor thing
I can only talk for myself - I so need compatibility to make it work and there are few guys I could build up a relationship with. If I meet someone where it could work, I will put in the work - as I'm doing at the moment.
They have only had themselves to answer for/to...for so many years....and how many times does yourself do something that goes against how you think things should be?
They don't seem to travel on the same wavelength so she's content being single.
defeatest of the object of being here,
Being harder to love would be purely down to the individuals attitude to finding the right one and their own principles unless those principles change, who knows
Are you an actual real person chat man ?
Obviously you have no clue of how to treat your woman whom your married too.....
We why are you even on a singles site otherwise
Your just another time waster obviously unsatisfied with your life ( woman)
I don't blame her from what everyone else sees
She must be a trophy to you
Go speak your words to the real world and we'll see how long your before you come back to a singles site
If you were, you would have transcended such a minor thing"
"Such a minor thing" as distance? What if you don't have a car and don't want one? Do you want the hassle of renting a car for every meeting? If you do have a car, even a 100-mile round trip will eat up a whole day. And looking ahead, if you all are a real match, someone will have to move. Would you?
daears, your unhealthy obsession with me needs to stop.
Every week you come to one of my blogs making some illogical or negative comments about me then close your profile and hide until you return to repeat it again.
I did all her laundry all along.
She should have bought her life policy instead of mine if she was going to leave ahead of me.
Dang!
My wife supports the music and helicopters but a bag full of socks and closet full of clothes needed to be eliminated, especially since most of the clothes didn't fit. Suits with the tags still on them.
I have often wondered how much of that is natural and how much is conditioning by advertising and demagoguery.
I didn't realize how valuable Freedom is until I became free. I don't have to hide my crazy.
And so people who are comfortable with themselves and those who can't cope with their own company don't 'speak the same language' when it comes to relationships and the values attached to them.
When sharing your life with another is not a need but a choice it changes the stakes. It also makes you less vulnerable because you know that feeling happy is not conditionally attached to a particular person being in your life at all costs. Although if they are in your life it's all the more valuable and enjoyable because you are sharing from choice and desire to honour the person as much as they honour you.