So well said, Smitten! It is a very scary process to "turn around" and look at ourselves. We know that once we shine a light on those aspects of ourselves the ones we have been taught are unacceptable, we will have to do something to change; change the aspects or change the lack of acceptance toward them. Change is not easy and is often very uncomfortable.
There is a big world out there and the playpen feels so safe. It is what we know and if we climb out we may get hurt.
Your blog holds all of the answers to your questions. "you can have better" but do you "really want better". You are worthy of being loved by someone amazing! Don't settle.
A woman who has not asked for anything can not be rejected. Everything on your profile, by your own admission, is a lie. I am just poking fun. Are you a spy, secret service, or a super hero?
So was the last knight. His sword was mighty. As was his ability to wield it. But then he was not so intimidated by a 47 year old woman. He knew the exquisite skill that only comes with experience.
He was not YMCA yoga but yes he has the only sword that I have polished (with jojoba) in many years. Alas, his armor was too thick so now he must polish his own sword.
That's a great idea, Shanri! I used to get together with some women and we would make Soul Collages (there is a book about it out there). We cut card stock paper to be about the size of a postcard and we took pictures from magazines and such and made collages on these cards that represent certain things. For instance if you were to make a card that represented fear, you would look for pictures that matched that representation. It is fun and a great way to gain insight into you! Plus it's cheap and creative and social.
I've no need to defend Astrology, Tarot or any of the other 2000+ year practices that you debunk yet, I would wager, have no knowledge of. You are living exactly the life you want to live. And if that means having relationships with crazy women, I defend your right to do that to the death. Whatever works for you.
I must say, the relationship that I have recently exited has been such an experience of learning about myself. It was not a crazy psycho relationship but one that showed me via him (as the mirror) where I still needed to heal and what I still needed to see. There has been some drama and emotionality through it all, but it was an amazing journey! I have just grown in ways in which he is not able or willing to join me. And I am not willing to go back so we must move on.
So Thaddeus, you choose to stay when the going gets rough, you choose to try to help a woman correct the perceived flaws you see in her, you choose to end the relationship when your attempts to change her fail. Still sounds like it's all you and the choices you make.
And these fatal flaws really never showed themselves before you became seriously involved? Or did you see them right away and think, "oh that's okay, I will just change her as we go here".
We all do it to a certain extent. The first blush of "love" is so hot and we want it to work out so badly.
It is true. We all harbor opinions. It is unfortunate that some opinions limit us and keep us from savoring the best of life and all in it.
I permanently deleted that blog. If there is a way that you know of to retrieve the comments I would be happy to know and then forward it to you. It was quite lengthy and as I am not one to fiddle too much with my writing, I doubt I could duplicate it.
Suffice it to say that when a man is able to stand in his strength a woman will worship that strength in him and give him the kind of love that can only be imagined. If a man has been damaged by all the women telling him he needs to be emotionally sensitive like her, then there are two energies constantly changing, emoting with no one holding the space.
I don't know if that makes sense to you but it is the short version of what I wrote.
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RE: We all wear many masks..........
So well said, Smitten! It is a very scary process to "turn around" and look at ourselves. We know that once we shine a light on those aspects of ourselves the ones we have been taught are unacceptable, we will have to do something to change; change the aspects or change the lack of acceptance toward them. Change is not easy and is often very uncomfortable.There is a big world out there and the playpen feels so safe. It is what we know and if we climb out we may get hurt.