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RE: what did you think of the world cup?

Sorry did not mean watched live - That would've been a very expensive exercise!!! Watched on telly and in fan parks and went to the one match live. I do feel very fortunate to have been part of it. It really was a fantastic, probably once-in-a-lifetime experience having it here!!!!

RE: what did you think of the world cup?

LUCKY you!!! We saw television coverage and it looked like one HUGE party...........

RE: is this the real deal ??

Just go with the flow and enjoy every minute! It definitely does happen that one can feel comfortable with a relative stranger..... Although it takes time to really get to know someone and that is when you'll know whether it is the real deal. It bodes well that he is willing to drive that far and prepared to go at a pace you are comfortable with! I think you should just enjoy the process!!!

RE: what did you think of the world cup?

I've loved every minute! Watched every single match.... Went to see the Brazil vs Netherlands quarter final, which was fantastic! The whole vibe here has been incredible and I feel quite bereft now it is all over. I'm going to miss having all the interesting tourists from all over the world all dressed up in their fan gear... At least my team won!!!! YAY!!! GO SPAIN!!!!!

RE: positive thought of the week...

Thank you! A lovely saying to start off the week....

RE: how would you impress your date?

I have no idea what you're talking about. Have you taken offence because I mentioned it is nice to occasionally surprise one's partner with nice lingerie? What is wrong with teasing your partner - keeping the spice alive? When you mentioned trying other ways I didn't shoot you down.... My feeling is trying anything within limits obviously to keep that element of excitement, is perfectly acceptable. I did not mean to infer that I have done that often or do that all the time currently like some bloody great black widow spider. I don't even HAVE a partner and haven't for a while! I find it quite amazing when people leap to conclusions and then sit in judgment....

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Aaaaaw....

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Yes we know that....

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Yes you're right, and it is confusing! I guess we just have to use our common sense and do what works....

RE: how would you impress your date?

I seem to have offended you in some way as you are being just a wee bit rude. Oh well... Don't have time to worry about it as we're off to watch the world cup final (on telly).

RE: how would you impress your date?

A change is as good as a holiday, as they say!

RE: Cultural Relations

Well we are very much an outdoor culture.... but such a mish mash of people.

Think it would have to be a braai (barbeque) with boerewors (spicy sausage), chops, chicken kebabs and pap (mielie meal) covered in a spicy tomato and onion sauce. Served with a variety of salads. Washed down buy good SA red wine. Followed by a light dessert like pavlova with fresh cream and fresh fruit like sliced mango, kiwi fruit, granadilla, strawberries. Hot filter coffee. Bob's your auntie!!!!

RE: how would you impress your date?

No.... I don't always date the same type of men over and over! That sounds VERY boring. I didn't mean to infer that I do this all the time.... but it does work sometimes! Clearly not for you???

RE: moving on

Yes you're right. Glad you've survived and learnt to do the splits!!!!!

RE: how would you impress your date?

Ain't that the truth!!! But I think blocking the TV if you ARE naked is okay, as long as his favourite sport isn't on!!!!

RE: moving on

You don't say how long you've been on your own? I know it varies, but it's taken me a while (about 3 years) to get to the point I am at now, where I feel ready for a long-term relationship again. To me, it isn't about regrets or guilt, it's about accepting your part in the relationship's demise, and learning from it. To do that, I think you need some time on your own to gain perspective (apart from also having a bit of fun)!!! When you're ready, I'm sure the right person will turn up!

RE: Can anyone answer me this question?

You're a wee bit far away Chris!!!!

RE: Is any marriage doomed...

It is lovely to hear about long lasting relationships like yours! Interesting that in previous generations they were much more prevalent. These days, few people hang in there for the long haul. I won't say you are lucky, because clearly you both made the relationship what it was, but you are lucky to have found each other!!! We don't all get that chance!

RE: Hi from Sunny South africa

Yes it is in winter, apart from the Durban stadium on the east coast!!!!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Yes, well put!

RE: Things Pet Owners Must Endure

Yummy yummy yummy I've got love in my tummy......

RE: Women's Liberation....Was it worth the trouble? For the Ladies

Women like you have my greatest admiration!!!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Awwwww shame!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Yes I know what you mean! I guess it takes some of the pressure off. But, I think as I mentioned initially, my take is that men do get bored if they aren't allowed to do some of the chasing... A bit of a cat and mouse game.... If the mouse just allows itself to be captured, there ain't no fun in it for the cat!!!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Just wanted to add... In relationships, I think the maxim: Let there be space in your togetherness (Kahlil Gibran) is a worthy one to keep in mind!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Good point!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

Well put Ginger!!! That's my take on it, but thought perhaps I was a bit old fashioned in that respect.....

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

....trying to make sure you don't step on any toes in the process!!!

RE: Things Pet Owners Must Endure

Ha ha!!! I can relate. I have a cat (Gucci) whom I must confess I do NOT like very much... He kills birds, brings them inside and EATS them - leaves feathers and gory bits everywhere. I have been known to chase him with a mole wriggling around in his mouth around the garden in my pj's! We also used to have miniature sausage dogs (wieners as the Americans call them) who loved to chase cows, sheep, horses, squirrels - you name it! We were once on a walk and they bolted after some sheep - had them cornered at the edge of a cliff before we managed to bring them under control. I was expecting to hear a shot any minute!

Of course, your cat probably thinks he's bringing in a wonderful gift for his wonderful owner!!!!!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

In my humble experience, anything that comes too easy (pun intended) is not valued as much as something that takes a bit more time... Our roles as men and women are no longer clearly defined, but I think men still enjoy "hunting", doing the pursuing, to a certain point obviously. In some of the teen workshops I do the boys complain that the girls pursue them relentlessly, and it is a huge turnoff. How do you men feel about being pursued? And what do the women feel about doing the pursuing in a new relationship?