The_Kansan Forum Posts (3,395)
(Been working on the landscaping.)
Jackson (my editor wife) and I still rib each other about typos we each made when we first started corresponding.
ME!!! ME, me, me, me ME! And now that I've found her (right here on CS!) I ain't ever gonna' let her go!!!!
in a vice, and then secured it tightly and removed the handle. Next she picked up an old carpenter's saw.
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RE: minor children involved? appropriate time to blend households?
While I agree with pretty much everything that has been previously stated here, let me tell you my own story;My <former> stepson is now 21 and serving in Iraq. His mother and I had been highschool sweethearts, but had moved away and each married other people. We got back together when we were both on the rebound from failed first marriages and our 'courtship' was brief and intense and she and the boys (he has a brother 4 years older than him) moved into my home after a few months and we were married a couple of months later. The marriage lasted 7 years and ended a few months after 'Marc' moved to Oregon to live with his biological father so he could attend highschool in a larger town with more opportunities.
'Marc' and I got back in touch, via phone, a couple of years ago and I found out in early January that, when he comes back from his tour of duty, he wants - after a visit to Tennessee - to move back to Kansas, the state he considers "home." When I mentioned that I knew of a "fixer-upper" place in Walker that he could have "really cheap," he told me that when he thinks of "home" it's my old place in Walker that he dreams of. When I told him that the elm tree seedling we planted in the yard when he was 10 as part of Arbor Day was now 20 feet tall, he got misty eyed and said something about "I wonder how long it'll be before I could hang a tire swing from it, like you did with the Mulberry tree?"
Long and short - My marriage to his mother - though definitely not a mistake - was ill fated from the beginning because she never really loved anyone but herself. 'Marc' knows this and even apologized once for his mother's behaviour. (accepted but not necessary) And - even though his mother and I "rushed" things - 'Marc' has turned out to be a fine and respectable young man. And at the risk of patting myself on the back, I'd like to think that I had quite a bit to do with it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometimes children can benefit from having a 'step-parent'. Especially if that parent is polite and respectful and capable of teaching those and other qualities to the children. 'Marc' told me, back last fall, that "Ya know... I call my dad, "Dad" and I call you by your name... But it feels kinda backwards that way..."