It doesn't take bravery to walk away from something that isn't fun. As kids, if we were bored, we'd go seeking fun elsewhere. Once puberty hit we began to listen to the people around us, to invest energy in paranoia about what everyone else was up to... people started to invest in drama instead of enjoying the process like when we were kids.
Somewhere along the way, we made living serious and worrisome & we lost the ability to play. Somewhere along the way, someone started telling everyone we had to completely grow up. Now there are a bunch of paranoid people, trying to keep up with the Jones' of life instead of just having fun.
I don't see it as bravery if it's something a 3 year old does on instinct... but then again, I still use my local playground.
Research has shown that young children can’t see the intimate couple since children don’t have memories associated with such scenarios. What they will see are the nine dolphins. This is a test to determine if you already have a corrupted mind. If it’s hard for you to find the dolphins within 5 seconds, your mind is indeed corrupted.
Now I know you will all being trying to find those dolphins, so....
Maybe because once we meet face to face, the illusions are all taken away & the reality of that person is exposed for what it is. No longer is a protective filtering process via words or onomatopoeia being used, but instead it's face value time. Face it, no one will be able to fully expose themselves as the flawed human that they are, until all pretenses are dropped and both parties are checking out the "vibe" in person.
Look at it this way... if you are watching a black & white TV, your mind fills in the details about how things truly look. Flip on the colours and you may discover things are very different than how you imagined them to be.
It should not be a matter of how long you've been single that defines if you feel like starting the hunt... but perhaps if it is in your nature to be the aggressor.
If you only lead the courtship because you've been single for 5 years, it may send out a bit of the wrong signal. If your persona is one of being a tad demur... and then you begin being a hunter, once you have your prey you may resort to your original disposition. This may prove disappointing for them, as they saw you as a more lively aggressor.
Then again, perhaps being the initiator might spark some inner power in you & open new channels for experiences. Only you will be able to answer this puzzle.
Being a fitness trainer myself, yes I do like a well built man. That can vary from lean and fit to bodybuilder. I've dated all the variations, even chubby guys. I know who works for me by how well they keep up or surpass me. I find a fit man is mid range muscular, not to slender & able to run at least 5 miles. Now if he can cut as long as I can... game on.
I think I would give Shot a sliding arm miter saw & a set solar power panels big enough to land a ship on... but transparent enough to let the sun shine through the windows.
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RE: Comfort eating......
Cookies, coffee, french fries and the souls of online bullies...but I like to keep things healthy.