I must apologize for not saying this was not about myself. And if something like this ever happened to me, and my mate refused counseling, he would be kicked to the curb in warp speed.
I have a few friends, adults, that do full contact fighting...no safety gear at all. It is hard for me to watch to be honest. I have had to excuse myself and go outside at one point. It's a rough thing, but some love to do it!
Your husband or wife of 8 years with children, out the blue announces to you they want a divorce. When you make the suggestion about going to seek counseling before getting a divorce, your significant other quickly says they do not want counseling and are not happy with you. 6 months later your ex is calling you up because they have discovered the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.
Would you take them back and give them another chance? Or would you tell them no thank you and continue trying to build a new life for yourself without them?
I think age is just a number sometimes. I think it depends on the level of maturity someone has and the different type(s) of life experiences one has gone through. That is what helps shape a person into who they are at times.
A little boy comes down to breakfast. Since they live on a farm, his mother asks if he had done his chores.
"Not yet," said the little boy.
His mother tells him no breakfast till the chores are done. Well, he's a little pissed off, so he goes to feed the chickens, and he kicks a chicken. He goes to feed the cows, and he kicks a cow. He goes to feed the pigs, and he kicks a pig. He goes back in for breakfast, and his mother gives him a bowl of dry cereal.
"How come I don't get any eggs and bacon? Why don't I have any milk in my cereal?" he asks.
Well,' his mother says,
'I saw you kick a chicken, so you don't get any eggs for a week. I saw you kick the pig, so you don't get any bacon for a week either. I also saw you kick the cow, so for a week you aren't getting any milk."
Just then, his father comes down for breakfast and kicks the cat halfway across the kitchen. The little boy looks up at his mother and with a smile says:
You and your mate are the proud new parents of a beautiful set of twins. But there is a problem. They are Siamese twins joined at the head and share a little of the same brain. The physician/surgeon assures you that he can seperate the two, but he cannot quarantee that they will both survive the surgery. What decision do you think you would make if faced with this situation?
Dealing with someone who has a serious eating disorder can be heartbreaking at times. It affects men, women, children...and is no respector of persons. Unless the person really wants help and obtains it, it can end in a devastation for all involved. It not only affects the person with the disorder but everyone involved in their life as well. Good luck with your friend and I wish him, as well as you, the very best.
RE: Do you think that age matters in a relationship?
Thank you for that info. I have never heard it before.