in response to everyones answers, to everyones advice and help, all i am seeing in your reply to them all is
negativity
it looks like you are relishing the attention, even tho its not good attention, the way a child will do something they know is not allowed, but will do it anyway, just for a reaction
why ask a question ......... that you have already answered for yourself?? in your own way?
to ask a man to be there for you, altho you are not willing to get out of this situation NOW, is being a player
you are playing with anothers emotions.....
you are playing with your childrens emotions, whether you can see it or not
you are playing with your partners emotions, even tho there is no love lost
any guy who " is there for you" is having his emotions played with
and most of all, you are abusing your own emotions
i did a quick online search of places in your area and i found a whole lot of them
there is NO excuse to stay where you are, or to stay in the situation you are in
to say you are staying for the sake of the children, just does not make sense
if you thought of the sake of the children, you would go
FOR THE CHILDRENS SAKE ...........GO MAKE A LIFE FOR YOU AND THEM
i know you appreciate blunt talking, cos we have talked privately before, so i will be blunt here, and repeat again to you
sort out this before you look for someone new
its hard enough a guy taking on a woman with so many issues as you have to deal with, let alone, take into account the situation of a sick child and other children
yes if a guy truly loves you he will take on all this, but this special guy, whoever he is, needs a stable partner first and foremost, and you are no way near stable at the moment
its a big problem isnt it ?? for ppl of faith who agree with arranged marriage, and their children, who grow up with more modern ideas, questioning the very foundations that are laid long before they were born
its easy for us, who have the privilage to marry by choice to talk about it negatively, but i think i go by the rule that ........ if you believe in it, then its right for you
if you are questioning it, then you are questioning your own faith, and while thats not wrong in itself, as i think we all should have questions about our faith, its from the questions that we learn
i really feel for anyone who has to put themselves thru such a dilemma, if someone does not agree with arranged marriage, but love their family enough to go through with it ...... what a personal sacrifice that is
and we then judge the parents .......thinking ........ how can they put a beloved child thru this, but the very culture and upbringing the parents have had , dictate how they act with their own children, they honestly think they are acting in their childs best interest
a cemetary came into place around victorian times, when churchyards, or graveyards became overcrowded, simply put ~~places had to be found where the dead could be buried, as the churchyards were running out of room
in graveyards, more and more ppl were getting buried on top of each other, but of course eventually room ran out
burials were under control of the church from about the 7th century
the victorians built the first cemetaries in the 1900's and the victorians had to travel away from their church, or area to bury thier dead, it took a long time for burials at unhallowed ground, to be accepted, beginning with a church service, then travel to such places, that is why, in the uk at least, graveyards are in the church grounds, and cemetaries are mainly found on the outskirts or suburbs
but bear in mind, because of the problem of not enough room to bury the dead, new sites were found and places of prayer and worship were built inside cemetaries, there were purpose built cemetaries complete with churches, usually " free" churches where a minister does not reside, but the one of our choice and religion will come to say the service.......... so are these special built places complete with new houses of worship called graveyards or cemetaries??
even special catholic, anglican, jewish etc etc church and yards were built to cater only for funerals, but never hold a sunday service, or usual church services
so i would say maybe in days of old there was a difference in the useage of the word, but today it means the same thing
Dominatrix Forum Posts (1,065)
RE: I am deleting my profile.
oh fgsyou ask for advice OPENLY
ppl give it with good intentions OPENLY
and you dont like it
so leave??
come on now
make lemonade from the lemon
and in place of leaving cs..........leave the life of abouse you have