The separation from my first husband was mutul agreement ... We also agreed to be supportive of each other as much as possible so that each of us would be able the rebuild their life and so that our children would not suffer any more than they already were going to!!!
Then after the separation he started acting like a jerk and it grew in intensity until he turned into a complete b*stard whether it affected the children or not!!!
I had the great pleasure of seeing him "squirm" on his seat a few years later when we met up to discuss something to do with the children and I reminded him of his appalling behaviour ...
Absolutely hilarious!!! Thank you ladies and gents AND thank you Sommer!!!
Been peeking at it every now and then in between re-hashing my CV which I had to completely re-type (I lost all my personal files from my old comp ) and sorta di-fuzz as it talked mostly about my "achievements" in the world of education in the UK!!!
Beats listening to the radio while doing something!!!!
For me the learning is not in the detail. It's about growing in a way that allows me and "the other" to be who I am/they are without feeling cramped or judgemental and without feeling threatened by "their stuff". There is no need for both people to be clones of one another in the way they "do things". Just acceptance that they are different and different things "matter" to them or "drive them nuts" and vice-versa. It's about not needing to "controle" every detail and meeting in the middle ... It really does not matter if some things don't get done my way ... (apart from the washing of my clothes!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm a real pain in the backside for that!!)
For me, the lessons are not about specifics, they're about "a way of thinking/feeling" about life generally, about myself and others ...
I don't think that we chose in THIS life time who we come back as ... the choice happens after getting to the other plane ... I din't say the energies didn't get reincarnated as humans ... I said as humans of same age/genders etc ...
Why not change that state of never knowing and say Hi!! I'm Trish!! I noticed you from over there and just HAD to come and speak to you!! It has happened to me a few times and it feels wonderful to be at the receiving end of ...
Yeah!!! They usually become great friends!!!! At least!!!
When Gongman and me met up face to face, from first minute we started talking it felt "normal", "right", no nervousness, no fireworks, just like it had always been and always will be!!!!
The enrgies don't always get reincarnated as people of same ages/genders etc...
Your ex-partner in this life might be your child/brother/father/sister/mother etc in the next!! Or even the stranger you meet up with and THAT time round are able work out you wouldn't get on in spite of the attraction and "recognition" that feeling you already know one another, but you might end best buddies!!!
RE: When you broke up....was it bad??
The separation from my first husband was mutul agreement ... We also agreed to be supportive of each other as much as possible so that each of us would be able the rebuild their life and so that our children would not suffer any more than they already were going to!!!Then after the separation he started acting like a jerk and it grew in intensity until he turned into a complete b*stard whether it affected the children or not!!!
I had the great pleasure of seeing him "squirm" on his seat a few years later when we met up to discuss something to do with the children and I reminded him of his appalling behaviour ...
Things do settle with time ...