I've had people offer to send me a picture on my email if i give them my email address...if i don't want to correspond with them because they have no pic...why would i give a total stranger my email address??
Sorry I missed this thread Cherie...this is awesome...and i am so happy for you...
Someone else said it...it is an inspiration to us all...that time and distance plays no part when your destiny intertwined with someone has already been determined....
..." think it's sometimes a game but I also think it involves other things. People take too much for granted. I can't speak for how women do, but I know that with some men, it's all about the thrill of the chase or whatever it is. Once he "gets" you, his ego has been fed and then he moves on to his next "conquest."..."
Been exposed to this one more times than i care to count...sure does make "moving on" harder hmmmm...
And in this instance "this guy" gets the woman the "last guy" created...
..."I settled because I was too impatient to wait, because I thought I couldn't do any better, or for a number of reasons, and I was absolutey MISERABLE. "....
Been there done that...and no one to blame but myself..
It wasn't like these subjects came up to be "discussed" I don't care to discuss these things until the "relationship" has progressed a little further...but it was just "thrown in" to another conversation...and like i said...as much as you are thinking this person seems really great for me...i can picture a life with them..etc etc...those things come up...and you find yourself just thinking...hmmmmm...can't see how we will make this work...
and as well while just "making conversation"..things come out and inside i'm thinking this person has way too many "issues" to deal with first before adding something else to their already full plate (beginning a new relationship i mean)...
When it happened for the "first" time...(first that she knows i suppose) they had agreed to go to marriage counselling...she's the one that turned the car around and came home (cancelled the appt) to me that says she's not ready to "deal" with it...or couldn't..or whatever...but i do think what it said in loud and clear words to him, is that she was going to "put up with it"...and once you give over in those areas..they cannot be retrieved at a later date...
For example...my neighbour whom i have been "best friends" with for the past 7 years and watched her go through confronting women because she thought they were "after her husband" (and yes she had every reason to believe that...it was true..), however she never dealt with the problem "at hand"...which was HER HUSBAND...so in effect, in my opinion, she taught him that no matter how much he cheated she would "forgive and forget"...
And because it has gotten worse over the years...I am no longer her "best friend" because to make her happy (and comfortable) I never step inside her house, never call over there...and stay out of the "range" of her husband...because she felt he was attracted to me..
BTW...I think JeanC and Lutz (Schmorbraten) would make a great match...two very intelligent minds and great looks that would compliment each other...just an observation!
Thank you for your honesty...and its not so much that i don't believe in "second chances"...but i also believe that men and women get the partners "they create"...
If you teach a man that he can repeatedly hurt you and you will take him back...then isn't that the "relationship" you end up with?
I mean this goes for all situations not just relationships...but i'm sure you understand what i mean...
To be honest i never had this problem...i loved my mother in law very much right up until the day she died...and still miss her presence in my life and in that of my girls...so my "ex" never had this problem...
Was just curious how a man would really handle this situation...
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RE: i want to post a pic on my profile but........
I've had people offer to send me a picture on my email if i give them my email address...if i don't want to correspond with them because they have no pic...why would i give a total stranger my email address??