My heart goes out to you Jade...I can't imagine living in such turmoil...and as much as i hate to say it now (given what you have said..and the hurt you must still be feeling)...from the first time you "took him back"...you "taught" him a behaviour...that's all i'm going to say because its all that pertains to my original thought on this thread...
You have suffered far more than you should have...
Darcie...I know that you're pregnant...and very young...and that particular combination can be very "trying" on the best of days...
But you posted a thread on Sept 9th...almost word for word to this one...hopefully you would have read the advice that people took the time to post to you...it may have helped...however...i suggest you perhaps read it again...its only been a month since this very same thing happened...
AB.."hunks" is just a "media" word...and just like men like to look at "pretty women"..women like to look at "hunks"...doesn't mean they are the "be all" and "end all" for us...they were just nice eyecandy
Hey Mike...thank you... I am not sure i can comprehend a "relationship" such as yours...long distance still after 10 years...but i can see how it would strengthen the resolve to "let it go"...because really what other option would you have if you want the relationship to continue...
I agree with your answer Lydia..and i think incorporated with Asset's and Alex's answer...together they make THE perfect answer...
I'm not sure about the questioning ourselves to whether or not we expected to much from someone in the first place...why does it always have to boil down to whether "we" (or "I") may have expected too much from someone??
So would you agree then that her "vulnerability" made her "needy"?
I will agree wholeheartedly though that such people are like "sponges" and "black holes"...such a person needs to seek the help they need to become an emotionally healthy person before they can contribute anything positive to a relationship...
Been in a few of those myself...wore myself down trying to be a therapist...and walked away with absolutely "zero" in the way of a "relationship"...my loss...and theirs for sure!!
Thanks Princess....hate when "battle lines" are drawn...because its not a "battle" to establish ground...it should have been a mutual "want"...He wants...I want...what was the problem??...but i certainly didn't "need" him...(not in the sense that we are speaking here)..I merely "wanted" him in my life...
What i "need" are things like food, water, necessities of life..."he" does not fit into that category...I choose to want a man in my life...what is so difficult about that concept????
How many times have you been faced in a situation or circumstance where you are just sooooo ...and your choices have been...
You can either go with the moment, do what will make you "feel better" and get "instant gratification"...but then suffer the "regrets" of your actions "tomorrow" because it was not thought through...
Or you can suffer in silence...stew over it...rant and rave "mentally"...and then deal with it more "rationally" another time...(of course there is always the fact that "another time" the "passion" of the moment has passed, adrenelin is not pumping, and sometimes most of it is forgotten, or does not seem worth your effort anymore...)
Which one do you choose the majority of times? Why?...and what were the circumstances?
I don't think so illuminate...I know Will and he is as fine a man as a woman can want...in every way...I think when she said the "age" thing..thats exactly what she meant..."the age thing"...
Pucks...i may be way out in left field here...but i don't think Will is talking about robbing the cradle himself...i think he's wanting someone to rob his cradle!!
For the information of our American and International friends on here...this is the Thanksgiving long weekend here in Canada..so alot of people are doing the "family thing" this weekend...I had to put mine off until Monday since i am working this whole weekend...
I've birthed 4 children...and I have two of the most beautiful girls...however...I do not want more children...and i am not opposed to meeting someone with children...
I can still have more children and if it happens it happens and i would welcome them and love them...but if i had a choice..the answer would be "no"...
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