Morning all...well i had my first cup of coffee with a big dose of "good mood"...so i had no choice but to start laughing first thing this morning....and apparently i am to start my day off with some tunes that should keep me... ...all day long...
Well I can't say i know the answer for sure to the first part...I do try very hard to at least acknowledge every message i get...even if there is no interest there...
I don't think the second part of your question is fair...not everyone feels the need to be on this site "daily" like some of us..and there could be all kinds of reasons that they have not been online in some time...I don't think that warrants a removal of their profile...at least those ones have not responded to you because they have not received your message as yet...
I do open all my mail, but sometimes its takes me a bit before i can answer them all...that doesn't mean i'm ignoring them...i just haven't gotten to it as yet..."life" happens and i get busy...I also get a minimum of a page of messages and flowers to answer everyday..
..."A Captain of a vessel at sea is responsible for every soul on board his boat."...
Absolutely!! Which is why his decision has to stand...
Ultimately all the people that casts votes are not the one answerable for all those lives (or to the ocean liner) just the captain....
How do you think it would appear if he stood before all those people...as CAPTAIN of the ship, and said...well i let everyone help me decide...so i should not be the only one here standing trial...does that sound like he should have had a position of authority in the first place???
This just reminds me of "politicians"...where the are happy to enjoy the status of authority...but always passing the buck when something goes wrong...never taking responsibility for their actions...
It is never an easy decision to make when someone is in authority and responsible for the well being of others...you cannot please everyone...
However...I would have found him "not guilty"...
There is a reason someone is chosen to be the "leader"..and all decisions and responsibility ultimately lies on their shoulder..regardless of the input of the "team"...and therefore I would say that regardless of the outcome the person in charge made a decision, as was his duty, and all others needed to respect that whether they agreed or not...
If it was a right/wrong decision...he is the one that has to live with the decision he made...not an easy feat at all...
Just wondering how does one decide what is "priority" for them??
Is it based on "others" "yourself" or on a "time schedule"...How do you decide in a situation where your focus should be and how did you come to that conclusion??
And how did you justify the other things that did not make the list of priorities for you that day...or do you feel the need to justify it at all??
I had not driven far in 10 years (long story why), but take it from me i never left Ajax...period...and this is from someone who drove to most of the states in the US....
Then i met someone who lived in Cambridge...that is 2 hours away from me by highway....we were just friends when we met which is why where he lived made no difference to me....then one day i decided i really needed to see my friend...to be with him....and I got into my car and drove to Cambridge...after 10 years of never leaving Ajax...
so you see...when it means "something" to you...there really is no limit as to what you will do for another person you care about...
But wouldn't the "dragged on drama" only occur if a person allows it to??
I mean people are going to talk..things are going to be taken out of context..and sides will be taken in a relationship breakup...I guess it can be expected...and though some of it may be painful, and hurtful...you do have to reach a point where you kind of throw your hands up and say...you know what...I no longer have to justify myself...that is the "drama" i'm talking about...is that what you mean Bobby??...or is there something else?
Hey Bobby....I have always disliked when i saw that people said the didn't want "baggage"...because i have always viewed it not so much as "baggage" as i have "life"...and life happens...
I have in the past made the comment that "baggage" is unresolved issues that is carried over...and I like what Angela said..when it prevents a person from having a "healthy" new relationship...and thought i have said it...and believed it...I don't think I truly understood it...
We all have "pasts"..that's a given...and because i waited almost 6 years to be ready to "date"...i just naturally assumed the majority of people, but closure to their past and move on...
Just wondering what other people's opinion is on this Bobby, and how they arrived at their conclusion...
I don't know if i would say there is necessarily a "set" time for when the chatting should stop and a meeting takes place...I would think that it becomes a "natural feeling" when its time for that..
I do know however that an "ongoing" chat without a "meeting" looming somewhere in the near future is a killer on even the best online relationships...JMO
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...all day long...
RE: Whitby Party Photo's
For all the guys flowering me about my "smile"...if i'd known that's what you wanted to see in my profile pics...i would have put one up sooner!!!