Chalk it up to "experience"....not all of them are going to have a great outcome...not all of them will be an instant hit...but not all of them will be the same either...
As far as this person goes...he has your number...he knows how to reach you...that's enough effort on your part...the ball is in his court...but if i were you i wouldn't sit around "waiting"...
We are going to be hit with a snowstorm this week...it has started in Hamilton already (which is to the west of where i live) and they are expecting 55cm of snow...and its headed down this way...
I really am having a hard time with this....because the "reasons" being given here are sound...and well said...
I guess a part of me (who has experienced it) think of all those who have lost loved ones in "accidents" and who would have given anything to have them...and then i compare it to those who would so willing give up their lives...just because they can...
I have already had my say in this subject on the other thread about the right to committing suicide...I haven't changed my mind...however one thing i'd like to add here...because of the wording posted here...
"...A 30-year-old terminally ill woman is to launch a legal battle to force doctors to allow her to die..."
The word "force" is mentioned...and isn't that what it is?? Forcing others to do what YOU want?...you may have the right to say you want to die...but what are you asking others to compromise to fulfill YOUR right?...where is their "right" in this whole scenario...and not just the doctors..but you are forcing others to accept the fact that you have decided that you have the right to die, regardless of how they may feel...just because you're the "ill" one and in a position to manipulate them??
Some men feel that if their "girlfriend" goes out with the girls...she's automatically cheating...or looking... Or if you get into an argument with them, instead of believing it will blow over and you both will talk about it...the relationship is over...
Sometimes i still am...but obviously not enough to let it go....
Clay has had to be patient with me...loving and understanding...and it has payed off because i have been able to take "steps" with him that a year ago i would not have even thought of...
Speaking from experience....its hard to break "habits"...and women like that are "conditioned" to believe we have to "earn" any type of affection and respect...if its handed to us it is unfamiliar and because we are "waiting for the other shoe to drop" we tend to put up a wall between ourselves and whomever is trying to "love" us....
With patience...and time...we can change...but its like any other "habit"...it takes time...and do not think for one moment we don't want what is being handed to us...its just that we are so afraid to reach out and take it...
I almost gave in to my urge for instant gratification today....but regretted it almost immediately...
so now i have to add to my original post about this comment that sometimes the person you want to "get back at" means more to you than the instant gratification....and the regret "tomorrow" may be too late....
It was a "reality check" for me for sure!! So happy i'm still willing to "learn"...
I have to agree with those that said that a gift of help is no gift at all unless it comes from the heart...
My "ex" would help me in a moment if i needed him, as would i help him...however..he knows that i do try to be independant but sometimes we all need a helping hand...
I was born in San Fernando, Trinidad West Indies...small village called Ste Madeleine... Came to Canada and have lived in Ontario since i was 4
First time i saw snow i had no clue what happened to God's pillow that all those feathers came loose....my sister and I (she was 5) we ate snow until we were sick...
Why would you just assume that it was YOU that did something??
If you think you're insecure....this man may have it worse...
I don't know if i would consider it "insecurity" anymore...if that were the case then there is alot of "insecure" people on here... I think its more that we have all experienced circumstances at this stage than we could never have imagined when we were much younger...it has just taught us to be more wary about "relationships"..perhaps a little more fearful of behaviours at one time we would have just "blown off"...or not even given a second thought to...
Perhaps when i was younger i may not have considered this....however the older i get the more i realize that i can't leave very much up to "chance"...my life is too short to leave it up to the whim of others (men in this case)....so yes i would have no problem asking a man out...however..some habits die hard...I would have to know that there was some "interest" shown there first...
My "ex" is German...very....and since my name happens to be German when i met them for the first time I know I was certainly not what they were expecting...
However...I became the daughter they never had...and my two girls, mixed as they are...are their whole world...
I have to say that my "ex" had taken a firm stand on that...they would either accept me...or lose him...and he is their only child...so given the opportunity people will find the colour of one's skin does not make them any more/less human than the next person...and frankly after their "stiff" way of living...being part of a west indian family made them loosen up and really start to LIVE!!!
We don't need a reason to party...we just have to all be in the same room!!!
Part of the "excitement" of this relationship is the fact that it is "forbidden fruit"... Soulmate?? in someone else's spouse?...well that's a new one for me...does the wife know that her "soulmate" does double duty on the "soulmate committee"??
Does a relationship started and based on lies and deceipt ever really stand a chance?...Will this man not wonder what will this "soulmate" do IF he doesn't measure up to her expectations down the road somewhere...perhaps if another "soulmate" makes an appearance...because obviously from what you say here "soulmates" are whoever takes your fancy at the moment...
I am always amused at the reasons people will come up with to justify CHEATING...because that's really all this is...wrap it up however you want..its still CHEATING at the end of the day...
I guess some people are content to be other peoples "dirty little secret" as long as they are "soulmates"...
I think the statistics are in all probability accurate....just slightly higher - leaning towards the dishonest side....
I do think that dishonest is a broad term for what you actually come across with regards to "internet" dating...because its not always to the extreme...sometimes they are genuine in who they are, but have been dishonest about small things such as age and appearance...
"Dishonesty" exists when meeting men not only on the internet, however the internet does provide more of a sense of "anonymity" for such people (men and women) so they feel more confident in projecting themself "bigger than life"....of course that is short lived if they're ever going to meet someone face to face...
All i could think of is that "TrimSpa" might as well close their doors now...she was the spokesperson for thier diet pills...they'll never get anyone to believe that their product had nothing to do with her collapse and untimely death...
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