This came up in conversation over the holidays...(yep...too much food, too much booze...and nothing else to talk about)...
Do you think you "deserve" to have your parents leave you whatever they own when they pass away? Is it their "duty" to bequeath you their belongings?...or would you be okay if they did something else with it?
What if they decide to do a reverse mortgage and spend the money they had set aside for you (as their children and heirs) would you be upset?
This came up in conversation over the holidays...(yep...too much food, too much booze...and nothing else to talk about)...
Do you think you "deserve" to have your parents leave you whatever they own when they pass away? Is it their "duty" to bequeath you their belongings?...or would you be okay if they did something else with it?
What if they decide to do a reverse mortgage and spend the money they had set aside for you (as their children and heirs) would you be upset?
Geez...can't believe another year has "flown" by...
I still have gifts to wrap...there's no snow so i have no clue what day it is...what month it is...I'm tired...I have to cook a turkey that gave me nightmares last night...I'm so sure its going to get up off the platter and walk away in disgust....Gawd i have to stop eating nuts before i go to sleep.....(*sigh*)
Its the same for me Bailey...I'm the one that decided I wanted out of the marriage...so that's why i'm supposed to carry the guilt i suppose (according to him anyways)... I've used the same argument with him....I love my kids...I love being their mom...I can't be a good mom and function in that capacity when i was constantly miserable and unhappy....and like you i wanted those girls to know what a real loving relationship is all about...not the "room mate" thing their dad and I were doing...
I have told him over and over...I don't want anything other than what is rightfully mine...I will not fight him on anything...I want him to hand over what he thinks i deserve...I was his wife, his companion, I loved his parents and cared for them, I supported him in furthering his career while i gave up mine to be a "mom", and most of all I am his children's mother... I am quite capable of "re-establishing" myself...but i shouldn't have to...and i want him to acknowledge that....(*sigh*)
As much as I have tried to keep our separation very civil...because i don't hate my "ex" I just don't want to be married to him...he has said some pretty hurtful things to me especially in the past year...thing i never thought i would ever hear him say TO ME...
I am always stunned when he says things like..."It would just be so much easier if you fell off the face of the earth..." or.."It would be so much easier if you just dropped dead"...
It cuts right to the heart of me...but i do understand his need to "exact" his pound of flesh...doesn't make his words any less hurtful...but it does make what i need to do that much easier...
Why should my taste appeal any more to my "spouse"/"kids" than they would to my friends Darren?
I would love to shop for my kids...I loved doing that...just to watch their eyes roll up in their head when they opened the perfectly wrapped, perfectly chosen gift I had bought
I myself have found it tiresome to find "room" for all the "gifts" i get that i have no idea what to do with...
And i find it disappointing to see that someone may not appreciate a gift i thought was perfect for them and spent a lot of time looking for...
Even for my own daughter i have now found that it is much easier to give her gift cards and take her shopping than to choose something for her...I obviously have no clue as to what young people wear/like anymore!!
I find gift cards (and some thought had to go into which store to get the card from right???) is a "smart" way of shopping...
I love a good Merlot...however I enjoy white wines the most... any Zinfandel and LePiat D'Or...and this past weekend i drank the most awesome white wine...unfortunately i didn't catch the name...but i'll get it...
You started out the thread with the fact that you were in a car accident and it took the life of your beloved fiance...in that split second all your dreams and hopes of a future with this man was gone...because sometimes we are not given the option of making things "right" or telling someone how much we love them before they are taken away from us... ColdlakePrincess mentioned it...our "tomorrow's are never guaranteed"..not for me, not for you...not for your fiancee...and not for your dad...
Knowing now that each and every day is a gift...do you really want to spend your days hurting over "words"..?
Healing is a sometimes long and slow process...but the journey of a million miles begins with the first step...do what you know is the right thing to do...it will start the healing process...I know...I've been there...
Morning all....can't believe i went to bed at 7:30pm last night!! Funny thing is i believe i had the most incredible "dream"...I came home from work on Saturday night...and walked right into a "fairytale" that lasted all weekend...hmmmm...I'm pretty sure it was a dream....
Any of you ladies ever walked into a room that was lit up with every kind of candle...and a christmas tree just lit up with fairy lights..the perfect glass of wine waiting for you...and absolute quiet....after a long day's work...did YOU think you were in a dream??
..."I think that character is a very important vitue when someone is in a role of power or leadership"....
This is what i'm trying to get at...not the fact that they "shouldn't" have a personal life, but that the fact that the "job" they have chosen for themself came with "strings" and one of those "strings" was to uphold morals and ethic and be a representative of their people and peers and a "role model" to them..
Question:...How many parents out there are pleased that their girls chose "Britney Spears" as a role model?...why?...she is a successful and "talented" (not my own personal opinion by the way)...
It may not have affected their "job performance" per se...what it did affect was the morale of the people...who both these men were "leaders" too...so that is part and package of the job...
King Edward abdicated the throne in 1936 so that he could be with his "lady love"...Charles should have done the same if he could not live under the responsibility of the "Crown"...
Clinton had a duty to uphold when HE ACCEPTED his place as President of the United States (remember he could have opted to live like Joe Citizen and have all the privacy he wanted....)
I agree what people do in private is their own business...but both these men accepted the roles they were to play and needed to play by the rules...
Do not doubt that i don't appreciate the "stress" they live under...but understand what they do they do by choice...stress and all...
I agree that perhaps they were happier "after"...unfortunately they were not in a position to have that "happiness" during their tenure and they had a responsibility to uphold...one for the Presidency and all it stands for (remember they are being watched by the World leaders here....not just the american papparazzi...) and one for the Crown...(same as above)
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Who Deserves It??
This came up in conversation over the holidays...(yep...too much food, too much booze...and nothing else to talk about)...Do you think you "deserve" to have your parents leave you whatever they own when they pass away?
Is it their "duty" to bequeath you their belongings?...or would you be okay if they did something else with it?
What if they decide to do a reverse mortgage and spend the money they had set aside for you (as their children and heirs) would you be upset?