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Don't Call Me...I'll Call You...

I agree with Jan...if people meet on a "dating" site...the intention is not to make another great friend...and again as Jan said, its usually the guys that back off because they're not interested in "friendship"...

Don't Call Me...I'll Call You...

What kind of "chemistry" can there be "online"?

Conversing allows you to connect to someone for sure...but on a different level wouldn't you say?

RE: What is the sweetest thing a partner has ever done for you?

signed the divorce papers and left quietly!


***Can't believe the amount of people that had that as their first thought!

Don't Call Me...I'll Call You...

If you have great conversation with someone, whether it be online, the phone or any other such device, and connect on THAT level...and then have the opportunity to finally meet in person, and the "spark" is just not there...

no fireworks, no tingles, no chemistry....nothing!

Do you tell that person right at that first meeting....

Do you wait until you go home and send a message...

Do you go out a few more times, hoping that some divine intervention will happen and the spark will finally arrive....

How do you handle this type of situation? (and i know we've ALL been there at one time or another if you're really "internet" dating...and not just trolling!)

Gift Cards or Presents?

I am not advocating either..but

Isn't it better to give a gift card to a store you know they like and let them choose the gift, than to spend your time shopping and giving them a gift that will probably end up "recycled"...

Recycled Gifts

well seeing as its "gift wrapped" and "humbly offered"...

Season's Greeting ~~~OR~~~Christmas

When December 25th comes around will you be wishing people:\

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays or Seasons Greetings

What does this time of year mean to you and how does that affect your answer?

Recycled Gifts

With the state of the economy the way it is currently...has "recycling" gifts become any more acceptable to you?

Gift Cards or Presents?

Well its that time of the year....most people have done their shopping by now...what will you be giving more of to your friends, family, spouses and children this year?

Gift Cards or Wrapped Presents

Children Come First....Was it necessary to say so?

That's unfortunate for you that this is the only type of woman you have come across...

When i answered "yes" to being a mom (having kids) that's exactly what i meant...didn't think there was any need to expand on that...

Children Come First....Was it necessary to say so?

Hi cherry...Nice to see you too doll,,...

Children Come First....Was it necessary to say so?

I have met and dated men who have also come to respect my stand on parenting...and how important my children are to me...but i never had to tell them that...its what they saw in our interaction...

Children Come First....Was it necessary to say so?

Anyone that has children knows that it goes without saying that the "children will come first"...how do you feel when you see someone's profile that felt the need to put that there? Does it deter you in anyway from contacting them?

I tend to categorize them as:

A) they will be spending more time with the children in close proximity than alone time with me....

B) "my children come first" may also mean "above my own wants, needs, desires...." (in reference to themself)

And please...though i do not think there is anything at all wrong with placing your children in priority as far as your life goes....why are you dating if you potentially have no time to devote to a relationship??

So you want a "Fit/Athletic" Woman huh?....

I like reading the profiles of men...both on this site and on another...I find it more entertaining than some novels i read...

I especially like the ones where they are looking for "fit/athletic" women, who play tennis, squash...etc etc....but at the same time want a "normal" woman to spend the rest of their life with...

I'll tell you right now i think i'm a "normal" woman...however most of my running comes from running errands, running the kids to and from school and practices, running to the grocery and running the laundry up and down the stairs....however the grocery thing doubles as my weight training...I'm impressed with how many bags i can cart into the house at one time...
I do like to eat healthy...but that is assuming i had time to eat at all..."fast food" to me is anything i can walk around the house eating while i do my housecleaning....

I'm no slouch by any means...I hope my pics reflect that...and I do make time for myself...and the people in my life....

But what really is this "normal" woman they are looking for?

The "Chemistry" of Attraction....

..."Well that's my excuse for being on the *Womanly* side now.."...

I was like that growing up...they called me "Skinny Minnie" at school...I pretended it was ok, but i hated it...

I do actually love my "rubenesque" figure now...and have actually convinced men who formerly thought they loved "slim/slender" women, that what they really loved was nice soft bellies to lay their head on...soft bodies to cuddle up to,....

The "Chemistry" of Attraction....

Eupho this man i'm speaking...Gawd i've picked my teeth with things bigger than him....he combed his hair like Darrin Stevens on Bewitched (side part and Brylcream)...was extremely shy, and almost 10 years younger than I....but i tell you when i got within two feet of him....my hormones were in a rage...All I wanted was to rip his clothes off and have my "wikked" way with him...

P.S. He was NOT shy in bed...and was a willing pupil...

Yes...but do you Need me...

I think that is the key Flower...both scenarios that you've listed

Either while growing up its how they "earned" their place in the family (by being the "fixer" or "giver") so now its all they know to do...

Or by "fixing" others...it substitutes for what they think is "wrong" with themselves...

RE: What is faith and how would you define it?

Wow!...that was awesome!

The "Chemistry" of Attraction....

I remember having an 8 yr relationship with someone....and when i pointed out to my friends who i was attracted to,....they all looked at me like i had lost my mind entirely!

Under the (mistaken) impression that i could have anyone I wanted, they had no idea why "this" was the one i "wanted"....I could never explain to them that I really couldn't help myself...and frankly i don't think he could either....

I actually had to move away to break off with this man....

The "Chemistry" of Attraction....

Have you ever been attracted to someone who you NEVER thought you would find attractive?

They are not someone you would have at first glance thought "WOW!!", they don't fit the bill as what you thought is the "ideal" partner (and i'm not talking the "bad boy" "wild girl" syndrome here)....but when you come within 2 feet of them your "body" just reacts to being within the same space as theirs?

Perhaps its their voice, their scent...their "whatever"....but all you know is that your own body goes into overdrive...and you haven't even looked at their "face" yet?

How do you account for this??

Yes...but do you Need me...

That's an excellent term "emotional vampires"

Their "need" to fix others (whether its the person themself, their life etc etc) is what drives them...they mistake their own "need" to fix as love, and expect the other person to interpret all they did for them as "loving them"....

Now that being said....any theories on why they equate their need to "fix" (or be useful in a relationship) for love?

Yes...but do you Need me...

I think Solitaire was the closest to what i was thinking when i wrote the question....

That to some needing them equals loving them....and the more they need you...the more you feel loved

Essentially these relationships are based on one person needing to "fix" the other...and once the "fixing" is done...they no longer feel needed and/or loved...and moves on to finding someone who once again "needs" them....

Any thoughts on this?

RE: What does a man wholly smitten do about distance...

Mark...I am in no way telling you what i think you should do....but just for a moment i'm going to play on the "other" team....and answer your question as it was posed....

..."The catch is that I have three children, whom I loves with every fibre of my being and whom I will not deprive of their biological mothers at any cost."...

When i first read that line, to me you had answered your own question...you said at NO COST would you deprive your children of being with their mother - I'm thinking that means relocating them - so unless their mother is planning to move to wherever you will be going....like i said...to me the question itself that you asked, is answered

That being said...if you do believe that God guides your life into the direction He wants it...then you would have to also believe that if this person is, as you said, a "potential gift from God", then he would not put her into your life and not provide a "way" to her....
Sometimes that path is not very clear, sometimes its full of obstacles and pot holes...but be assured he has already sent you the means of how to bypass those...you just have to find it. Nothing worth having always comes easy, perhaps its why we cherish it the most in the end...

What if you viewed your situation from someone else's eyes...what advice would you give them?
If you look at the whole big picture clearly....you will see you already have your answer....

This of course is only my opinion....

Good luck in whatever your decision is....

Yes...but do you Need me...

Just curious as to whether anyone here feels that a good portion of the relationship they were/are in is out of "need" rather than love...

And when i say "need" i don't mean you needing them....but rather your wanting them to "need" you...

Relationships are founded on all different emotional aspects....need is one of them...but what i'm questioning is who here feels they have to feel "needed" by their partner to actually feel "loved"....

RE: Do U belive in Dating online?

I agree....they are both the same, and you are just as likely to come across idiots online as you are in the "real world"...

The only difference in online dating as far as i can see is that you are more likely to "approach" people, because of the sense of "security" you feel sitting behind your keyboard and screen...and you don't have to dress up to go "searching",....

I have dated men i have met "online"...one relationship lasted a year...and it was a wonderful experience....the fact that it did not last has nothing to do with HOW i met him...

RE: Jesus...half man half god, or just man?

I am also of the mind that Jesus was God in the flesh...he lived among man as a man

There is 30 years of his life unaccounted for in the bible...but the bible was not his biography so it stands to reason that the "common everyday" things he did was not written about.

Even "IF" he did get married and have children as the book the DaVinci code theorizes....I don't see how that changes who HE was or what he accomplished in his lifetime here on Earth.

The foundation of religion is based on "faith"...you either believe or you don't....and God never said we could not question him...he in fact said in his word "Come and let us reason..."

RE: What Do You Do?

I have an agreement with my boss...I do very little...and he pays me very little....


Ok...the truth is I work for the Disney Corp. here in Canada in management.....but the other answer sounded so much more exciting...

Supporting Your Troops....or the War???

...anyone who knows me K knows that due to those dirty looks I now have a flag attached to my car window that says support our troops....

Dear Santa....Tell my ex....

Supporting Your Troops....or the War???

Believe me K when i put the decal on....i most certainly was NOT thinking of the war....just the men and women who are fighting for the rights of OTHERS to have freedom....

I do not advocate war...never have...but i'm a realist as well...war happens...

I just sometimes wonder if those people that give me dirty looks because they think by supporting the troops i am supporting the war know how that freedom of choice they are expressing was come by....