I did not misread your question...and i aplogize if i offended...this is just my own personal view of the situation...and did not mean to imply it is the right/correct view...forgive me...
I do not exist in a world where I "pass the buck" or try to "split" the blame...if a wrong was committed and my child is wrong i do not feel it is my place to advise the "other" parents where the line should be drawn and what amount of responsibility each child should assume...that is their decision...I can only raise and do whats right by my own children....and no it has not always been fair, and yes it can become costly....
What i do know is that my children know that regardless of "who" is to blame...as long as they are present in that company "I" will hold them responsible...they do not have a mind that they share...I made them each individually with a mind of their own...
My mom used to always tell me...
"Tell me who your friends are...and i'll tell you who YOU are"...
I have had men tell me I am both...even though i could not see that...however, one man decided to take the "bull by the horns"...and now he is my lover...
LOL...Renee it seems to me i have more "views" now than i did when i did not have a profile pic showing me with someone else...
The ones that message me with their email and comments such as "wow i'd really like to get to know you"...I know for a fact did not read my profile...and as i said must be quite blind because my profile pics definitely show me with someone...
And yes Clay did read my profile...as did I read his...its what took us almost a year before we actually decided to "make a move"...
I know it sounds like an odd question...but some days I feel just because i have "parent" attached to my name it somehow boils down to the fact that I will be exempt from certain things in life...like love and happiness belong only to the "childless" or "young" people..not parents of children...young or old
All the questions about relocating for someone for example...without a doubt "parents" will say,....well only if its beneficial to my children...without a second thought of what is good for themself...or I would/would not date someone with/without children...just things like that...though there are many other examples...
When you are not in that position...it is easy to say...Oh I would NEVER do that...or... I would move to the ends of the earth for my one true love....
When you are faced with such a decision...it is absolutely nerve wracking...because there is no simple answer...uprooting one's self from all they have become accustomed to...especially those of us that are in our late 30's and over....because usually at that age you have "established" yourself where you are...jobs, homes, families...children, grandchildren....and giving it all up for the "devil you don't know"...
But I still say Ed has the right of it...after its all said and done..."parents" are still people that deserve to have a life...
I absolutely love classical music and the opera....
Il Divo has been my constant for the past couple of months they are brilliant....and not to mention gorgeous as hell...they are claimed to be the "new" four tenors....
I'm with Ed on this one...sometimes we think we are doing the right thing by "living" for our children...I have come to realize that i am a much better parent when i am content and happy in my life...and i guess if i had to relocate...as long as it is within reason...then that's what i would do...
The details i would work out as i went along...life is much too short to pretend at living...and imagining that the "perfect life" is just going to walk up to your front door and present itself...
LOL....if anyone had read Clay's profile they would have noted on their that he had actually said in there that he preferred women that were slim/slender....
i am in no way saying anything is wrong in this......however...
If a person chooses to be/dress outside the norm isn't the manner they choose to express their indiviuality saying "Hey look at me..I'm different"??...and i don't mean in a derogatory way here...
As others here have mentioned, being an individual and expressing that does not always have to take the form of piercings, tattoos, hair or clothing...
I have to admit i sometimes stare...I mean if they are decked out in plaid and platform shoes...with a pink mohawk and Marilyn Manson makeup...isn't that what they wanted me to do...LOOK????
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Dave those pictures are just awesome!!!