One Simple Rule to Make You Everyone’s Favorite Person
When it comes to your social life, are you not feeling the love? Does it seem like everyone would rather hang out with anyone else but you? Believe it or not there is one simple rule to follow about the human mind that has the ability to change your social life and love life forever. This powerful fact is that everyone loves to talk about themselves!It may seem like something to roll your eyes at—how could something that seems so obvious help you in any way?—but it really is that simple; all you have to do is learn how to use this rule and manipulate this fact to your advantage and you are sure to be everybody's favorite person at work, at home and in any social situation!
Have you ever been at a party or on a date and you just can't get a word in sideways because the other person you are with just won't put a sock in it? When you weren't given the chance to speak, did you come out of the situation with positive or negative feelings about the other person? The odds are that in a situation like this, you came out feeling angry, annoyed and flustered, and not at all excited to see thatarrogant chatterbox again. You realize what a bad first impression they made on you, and you start to wonder if they even know it, or if they're too focused on themselves to even care!
What about the opposite situation? Have you ever been on a date or in a social setting with a person that asks a lot of questions and seems generally interested in you, your opinions and your life? After a delightful night of shared conversation where you get to talk about your favorite things, you leave feeling happy, refreshed and full of confidence and excitement, all of which you will attribute to the person who made you feel this way. When we experience certain emotions around a certain person, we naturally tend to associate that person with these feelings and emotions. When someone shows interest in you, it makes your feel good about yourself, happy, liked and important, and gives you the impression that this is definitely a fabulous person to hang out with.
If you have struggled throughout your life with being able to create good impressions on people due to shyness or poor social skills, the only thing you need to remember from now on is this simple rule; prompt your conversation partners to talk positively about themselves! If you've never been good in social situations, either by talking too much or talking about subject matter that is too negative, your whole world can change by following this golden rule. Even if you're too shy to hold a conversation, this is still the perfect solution for you! All you have to do is ask someone about their favorite food, animal, past time, or hobby is and why, and odds are you're in for an earful, as well as a happy conversation partner! One of the best types of question to ask is a question that will allow the other person to brag about him or herself without feeling guilty. If you know that a certain person does charity, ask about it! It's not vain for this person to talk about how awesome they are if youasked them about it in the first place!
So go ahead and RSVP to that party you're invited to, or accept that blind date you're so nervous about, because now that you're equipped with a secret weapon that's sure to have everyone under your spell, you just can't lose!