5 Habits Of Relationship-Smart Women
Relationships aren't easy, but there are certain habits that can result in happier and more successful relationships. If you know them and apply them, you may find better luck in the dating world. The following are five habits of relationship smart women.
1. Relationship smart women aren't clingy
Wanting to spend time with the person you're dating is normal, but being clingy or needy for his attention may scare him away. If you want to be with him all the time, he might think that you have no life of your own. You should continue to see your friends, involve yourself in your hobbies, and enjoy alone time. Relationship smart women know that no matter how much a man likes her, he will still need time to himself and to hang out with his friends.
2. Relationship smart women remind men they're wanted
Women want to be told they are wanted, how beautiful they look, and that they're special. It's important to remember that men want to hear similar things. It's easy to forget that men have feelings as well. Remind the man you're dating that you love spending time with him and that you appreciate what he does. Let him know he looks good when you see him. Hearing these things will make him feel good and that should be a goal for every relationship.
3. Relationship women don't let themselves go
Becoming comfortable in your relationship is good, but you should never become so comfortable that you stop taking care of yourself. Don't stop going to the gym or ditch your healthy eating habits. Don't decide that now that you have a boyfriend you don't need to wear nice clothes or pretty makeup. Relationship smart women know that doing these things for herself is the first priority. They want to continue looking and feeling good for herself as well as the man she's dating.
4. Relationship smart women are supportive
Support is an important part of relationships. Relationship women support the man they are dating or married to in the goals and dreams. They encourage them to continue on when things get tough. When you are with a man who has goals, you don't want to dominate all of his time. Give him space to work on his goals and he will appreciate you more for it. Knowing that the woman in his life believes in him and his goals for his life will build him up and also bring you closer as a couple. He will feel safe enough to confide in you about his hopes and dreams.
5. Relationship smart women spot warning signs
When you are dating someone new it's important that you be able to spot warning signs and deal with them accordingly. Don't ignore traits and behaviors that make you uneasy in hopes that they will go away or that you'll get used to them. Red flags should be taken seriously. You aren't obligated to continue with someone if they aren't what you are looking for. Seeing only the good in someone isn't always beneficial in a relationship because you only waste your time and his when you ignore the things that will eventually arise.
Being relationship smart doesn't mean relationships will be perfect or finding the one will be quick and painless. It does mean that you are more aware of how men like to be treated and will make better choices about who you date.
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Wondering who writes stuff like that… Ah, yes, staff does.
Your relationship is, or should be, the most important thing in your life. Therefore, take a moment or two each day, simply to reflect on how good it is, reminding yourself what is needed from you, to keep it happy, stable, and going the way it should. Wake up in a morning, remember all this, if you are together, hug each other, and even if you are not yet living together, think of hugging your partner and whisper, or shout if you prefer, Thank You Universe! Be grateful for what you have, and remind yourselves of how good your lives together are. This is the most important single thing you can do in your day.
You see, after twenty nine years, I found myself busy with the alligators. I forgot to cuddle her in a morning and be grateful for all the wonderful things we had. I forgot, that she too needed support. I forgot to thank her and be grateful for all she did for us. I forgot. And gradually she slipped away. I was grateful it all ended amicably, with no acrimony and that we parted friends, but even so, I couldn't see it had been my fault. I dropped the ball! It was me who forgot and of course a relationship is unsustainable if one of you has to carry it alone!
It was not until another fourteen years later, when we no longer had a place in each others lives, that I finally understood. And now I walk along the river bank where we once walked together, and I pass the secluded places where not that many years ago we made love in the grass, under the sunshine, basking in the warmth of a love which by that time had endured better than twenty five years.
Eventually it became clear to me, there were no alligators, there was no swamp, I had no commission to drain it, it was all simply a warped perception. What I did have however, was a very small obligation. That obligation was to never forget what a beautiful thing is was that we had! To never forget it needed just a little nurturing, to never forget to carry my part of it, to never forget to say I love you, well done, or thank you for being a part of my life.
So yes, it is important to understand how to make a relationship work but it is more important that you never forget that you know how or forger that small obligation. I can only say Thank You Universe, for giving me the opportunity to learn that important lesson.