How to Avoid a Miserable Relationship

Many people, men and women alike, know what it feels like to be in a miserable relationship. Unfortunately, a relationship will usually turn into something that is committed and long term before you realize what the other person is truly like. After people escape from a miserable relationship, they want to make sure they never date the wrong type of person again. However, not many people know how to avoid the wrong type of person. Here are some tips that can help you avoid another terrible relationship.

Learn from past mistakes.

Always be aware of your past relationship mistakes. If your last relationship was a bad relationship, then you should have a general idea of what type of person you want to avoid. You should raise your standards since your last relationship and adjust it to exclude certain types of people. Your standards should be based off of personality, style, and interests.

It may be hard to know if a person you just met fits your standards of an ideal date. Don't let first impressions stand in the way of your judgment. Give a person you just met a reasonable chance to show you what kind of person he or she is.

You may not know what kind of person you are dating until the third or fourth date. However, it is around this time that a relationship may become exclusive and committed. Before you commit to anything, be sure you know what kind of person you are dating. Keeping in mind what you learned in previous bad relationships, you should know how your partner would react in certain situations and what they would be willing to compromise for you. If you are unsure of how your partner would react in various situations, you should not take the relationship to the next step.

Spend time with your date.

Often times, people rush into long-term relationships without first spending an adequate amount of time with their partner. You should never commit to a relationship with someone you do not completely know. You can avoid a bad relationship if you spend time with your partner in between date nights.

If your partner has a busy schedule, be creative with ways to spend time together. If your partner makes up poor excuses why he or she can not spend time with you, reconsider the entire relationship. People who make poor excuses early in a relationship are not ready for a long-term relationship.

Get to know your partner's friends.

This is probably the best tip. If your partner's friends cheat on their partners, have bad tempers, or they are people you do not want to be associated with, you may want to reconsider your relationship. Since people typically only spend time with other like-minded people, your partner's friends can tell you what kind of person your partner is when he or she is away from you.

Also, your partner may have great friends, but they may warn you of your partner's bad behaviors and habits. If they are generally concerned for your well-being and not just jealous of your relationship, you should consider what they are willing to tell you. However, make sure you can prove anything they tell you before you accuse your partner of something he has done or continues to do.

No one wants to be in a miserable relationship. Before you make any long-term commitments, make very careful decisions. Many bad relationships happen because a person made hasty decisions or was ignorant of obvious signs in front of him or her.