Change your name change your life
And no I don't mean on CS although some of us did and there was a real difference
How much does your name influence your life? When someone gives you a nickname, is it an annoyance or a relief? Lovers give each other pet names - a subconscious desire to change their loved one into a person who belongs only to them.
Slightly worrying when the new lover is called by the pet name given to the ex, mind. "Darling" is one thing, "Squooglemix" may be another.
If your name is, for example, Benjamin, you may introduce yourself as Benjamin, or Ben, or Benny, or Benjy, whichever is your 'happy' name.
When others add their own variations, especially when they've just met you, how irritating is that? It's like they don't even know you and already they're trying to change you. I don't even answer to the name Liz, not because I dislike the name, I simply assume the person is talking to someone else. It is absolutely not me.
I'd love to know if anyone has completely changed their name, even if only for a specific group of people, and noticed a real difference. Believers in numerology insist that changing your name - changing one letter can make the difference - can change your life. I have now been known in real life as Biff for over a year - I like it, and I have certainly changed in some ways, so it made me curious.
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and when in trouble at home, my first AND middle name.
My first name is abbreviated by ones who know me, and its kinda stuck.
As far as names of endearment go, quite partial to "hun" less so of "babe" but don't ever call me "dear"
I'll have to ask Art if he notices a different 'person' responding to each name he chooses
I was christened with four names in all and they are all multi-syllable, when I have to tell my whole name I need to take a breath and have a little sitdown in the middle. They've proved very useful as writing names, though. Some cultures believe the more names you have, the luckier you are, so you and I must both be swimming in luck
I have no idea, what my new name would be.
I like CS one, but the law in Croatia would not allow me. Even Facebook refused it.
So Usha is purely and simply for CS? It's a nice name!
EkEkself ja I had all my various names most of the time, and I've been using Elegsabiff as one of my names for years, starting on Twitter about 8 years ago. It's only since I got to Spain, where I am known as Biff, and introduced to new people as Biff, that it has become the name I hear the most, and it is changing me slowly, I think. For the better, naturallyI'm the sixth Elizabeth in a row on my mother's side so I almost had to break out of the mould
I really hate the keyboard, and I am also lazy typist. Sometimes I don't even understand what I wrote
So Berry is just CS - do you find you are bolder or more outspoken as Berry than you would be under your own name?
(I nearly passed out the first time I Googled my writing name, something like 65000 hits, but turned out mainly because my surname is also a kind of eel with teeth.
I've stuck with my married name purely because it was nice and short, but I added in my family name to remind myself I am, as you say, my own person again
Virtual reality is one dimensional......and, often, humour can be misinterpreted on here without the animation of being in person.....so, sometimes we all end up in knots on here, when it could've easily been sorted in a 3-D world.
I like Berry as a CS name.....and like my own Christian name shortened.
....and, yes.....believe it or not, I was baptized as a baby, and later as a teen, confirmed into the Anglican Church.....although, no-one would notice.....
Thanks. I do have the same problem as you, as also I came from a large family (6), and second I I hated one of my name.
I share my "third first name" with l my other two brothers and every male first cousin - lots of imagination for sure, and to make things worse, they repeat some names in the same generation. Only my name is not repeated in the same generation.
Weird and crazy.
I can usually sidestep the CS land-mines, but not the unnerving guided missiles....
Time for my smoothie.....
Have a good evening....
All three of us had the same initials
Family names have a lot to answer for
However, that, combined with this Economist report I tripped over - here's an informed explanation of the midterms for those who neither knew nor, ever before, cared, what the midterms are. Neither side should relax enough to celebrate. It seems it is still too close to call.
It's more unusual than usual for family names to be used.
I am between two minds about it. It is like losing a tradition.
We had to take a confirmation name as well, so 3 names
I was asking more about the - hang on, going to look it up quickly so I don't sound like a complete numpty -
nope, can't find it. I'd read that a child had the name given by parents until they 'found' their own name.
The closest I can find is about Sitting Bull - copy paste - The son of an esteemed Sioux warrior named Returns-Again, Sitting Bull looked up to his father and desired to follow in his footsteps, but didn't show a particular talent for warfare. As a result he was called "Slow" for his apparent lack of skills.
At the age of 10, however, he killed his first buffalo. Four years later, he fought honorably in a battle against a rival clan. He was named Tatanka-Iyotanka, a Lakota name that describes a buffalo bull sitting on its haunches.
Pity. The idea of the name finding the person really appealed to me, I hoped you'd be able to tell me about it, I'll carry on looking but am beginning to think I was fed a line of fiction.
They were rarely called attractive nanes though
That has made it very difficult for them when trying to find their birth parents.
Ooh that's so sad.
@Biff
My real name has first, middle and "surname". So it's like in most western system, except the surname. It is still my name and not my family name.
I have some nicknames.. Although my real name is better, I love all of them because I love the ones who gave me those nicknames.
And because there aren't that many first names to choose from, people will often use both their first names so that Juan Carlos at the bank isn't confused with Juan Manolo at the garage.
My third name is a family name which I use as my main writing name and the authorities got a bit confused when registering my car, to my absolute delight my car is registered in my writing name and not the surname I use for everything else
They are going to excavate and DNA test a mass grave here shortly. Babies were dumped into tanks, not even buried.
The mothers weren't even told.
You can see why we are not a religious country now.
Almost makes you hope there IS an afterlife, and an extremely angry personage waiting at the Gates.
Heading out