Being lonely kind of sucks..

That feeling you have, when nobody wants to spend time with you. When nobody reaches out to you just to ask "How are you?" That feeling of being lost and alone when everyone else around you and online are in relationships.

Yes - the feeling of being alone, and it sucks - so much!

Who or what do I have? In honest: Not much. I have my video games, my movies, my music and endless scrolling on Tinder/Bumble/OKCupid/other dating apps, random conversations on Twitter/Facebook/Instagram and the occasional message from a few friends.

I want to feel loved as well. I want what other people have, relationship wise. Money doesn't interest me, neither does social status. I just want someone to confide in. Someone to spend hours talking to.

I do try to meet new people, but 99% of the people I meet are scammers. The 1% who aren't scammers, well the conversation dies out pretty quickly. No response on my messages. I once started a conversation with someone, and after a few days, the conversation just.. died.. I didn't say or do anything that warranted the conversation to end, so I am not entirely sure why it ended. Maybe she decided that it wasn't really going anywhere? Or maybe she just decided "nah, not for me.."

At this rate, I am absolutely sure that I will end up alone forever. It's a bit of a frightening thought, because I am the type of person that just want to find someone to settle down with.
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There's not a lot I can do about that other than say, hello wave
Hey buddy,
I know that we don't think alike but if my mood was like yours, feeling all lonely unwanted etc I'd just phone a decent escort to come around and have a chat. No sex just talk, and you will be amazed how much better that human one on one chat/contact will make you feel. If you a real naughty guy it will end naughty, who cares anyway. laugh
Of course you are not me and all I can recommend is for you to join a club of sorts. Choose one that is in your interests BUT it MUST be a real life club (not online) that you actually go to with your books or coins etc. You might meet someone there you like cos you already have something in common like the books, coins or whatever. Anyway it's not cool feeling the way you described. Good luck bud.
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Adult education classes, in person, in things you're interested in. Maybe technology or foreign languages.

It can't be overstated how attractive some women find proficiency.


Look for ways to be around women, in person.
If you're touch starved get a massage.
In the meantime, the hottest hobby you can legally pursue is
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I don't think he wants to give his virginity to any lady of the night. scold
Nothing puts off women more than a man who exudes desperation, women are more attracted to men who display confidence. In my experience.

Your post reeks of total desperation and self-loathing, you need to get a hobby that allows you to excel and thereby builds your confidence and self-worth.

Remember many men have sisters, so don't limit yourself to joining predominately female clubs.

Model boat/car/aeroplane construction
Radio control hobbies
Amature Radio, you would need to learn and take an exam to get a licence, so lots of access to many people.
Evening classes
Photography
Programming (computer games)
The list is endless

The final advice is to delete this blog as it will have a bad effect on any possible meetings up.

Regarding confidence:-

Think of someone who you find very confident, then put yourself in their shoes in a particular scenario, and just "borrow" his confidence, believe me, this works and gradually your own confidence will build up and become the new confident Philip.

I taught public speaking for decades, impossible to count the number of students, there were so many who lacked the confidence to speak to a group of 5, but after following the above advice they confidently gave speeches to audiences of over 500 made up of students, teachers and judges.

Believe in yourself and anything is possible.
Join some kind of club. It really doesn't matter what kind as long as it's something women like also. Hiking, photography, whatever. Don't rely on a dating site to meet someone. Most likely you'll only meet nutcases that can't find anyone either.
personally in my experience on dating sites is not good. I believe most even the brand name ones are nothing more than making $$$$ and I'm not even counting the scammers and like you the women I've met on most sites including this one are scammers or part of a network. hey it's all about the $$$ it seems I'm convinced now the only real way to meet that special person is to do it the old school way and that's in person and even that's a risk alot of times
You know of course what you can do with the scold

Are you implying that 'ladies of the night' are bad people?
If you read my comment you would have seen, AND UNDERSTOOD, I said: "I'd (meaning ME) just phone a decent escort to come around and have a chat. No sex, just talk, and you will be amazed how much better that human one on one chat/contact will make you feel.

I know you might mean well but your comment could encourage the poor guy to carry on living the rest of his life as a wanker. scold and there are enough of 'those' around. Just look at the blogger/s from Australia.
The second part of my comment was meant as advice to him and if he is wise he would take it.
Just wanted to add that some persons, male and female (plus maybe the 100's of insecure transgenders) actually find pleasure in wallowing in self pity. JMO.dunno
Some of the loneliest people are the ones in relationships.

Don't depend on anyone else for happiness.

Yeah it's nice to have someone to do things with, to cuddle with. Remember you don't need another person to do nice things with and you can cuddle your pet or wrap your arms around yourself, unless you're a t-rex.
What is working and has worked for me is getting a job where I meet and talk to lots of people. My loneliness is probably different than yours but it's the only advice I can give you. One more thing... Online does not count as meeting a person. Good Luck.
If you want someone to love you, you have to love yourself. Accept who you are and be the best you that you can be, the right one will come along. When you make it obvious that you need someone, that can be a bit of a turnoff, it indicates clinginess. Do your thing, respect who you see in the mirror, realize you only need you, and things will pan out. Relationships are meant to be a shared thing, not being dependent on the other.
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