HOW CAN A WOMAN ASK A GUY OUT
I see nice men all the time, in the supermarket, on the street, at another table in a restaurant, I just wish I had the courage to talk to them, I wish I knew what I could say I wish I could tell if he was available, and how to let him know that I am available.There is a tradition in Tahiti where men and women wear a flower in the ear on a particular side to indicate whether they are available or not.. I am wondering if we could find a way to adapt this wonderful idea to our own way of dressing........
Imagine the time it could save , how many men do I look at in my own age bracket and wonder if they are married. Do men do the same with me? .We fear rejection sometimes so just rocking up to a guy and saying something like oh hi , I like the look of you how about a coffee sometime ? .well a woman just would be scared the guy might take it the wrong way and translate it into something different, so not an option really . Could we invent a badge we can wear of international standard so men can see we are single, we can see they are single ( of course there will be cheaters ) but could it work , what do you think people a badge that says I'M SINGLE AND LOOKING share your thoughts please.
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If he's interested, that should spark at least a conversation, unless he's particularly dense.
Anyway, I ever did investigation about this here
Good luck for you!
Summer
Your charm definitely irresistible! {smile} I hope the men see the same things in you.
Summer
I hope so!!! ...
I can't imagine walking around with a badge on me that states SINGLE or still looking or available....
Anyway, back to being in high school, - look at the person, blink an eye and that was the give away code. When I was in my twenties, look at the person and give him the coolest smile with a quick look at him every now then, -
Now in my forties (am not actually looking for a partner) so I give away my big smile to anyone as a sign of friendliness...
do they look like they slept in their cloths?
do they look scurffy and unkept ?
do they need a shave?
any of these look like they are single ,
well dressed and clean and tidy
For example, "I really like the shirt that you are wearing….its really upbeat. Did you pick it yourself or do you go shopping with your partner?"
As he answers and talks to you,e you will find out whether he is available and single
Don't let it get to you that you would be the one to initiate conversation…..many people would like to initiate conversation but simply don't know how. Good Luck Saskia
Sadly, I'm in the same boat as you - I'm a little shy about asking a girl out. In fact, come to think of it, the last time I asked a lady out was... 1997 or 1998. It was a Friday.
That probably explains why I'm on this site.
A very good blog.
In my business, I need to be able to approach men and women, so I learnt how to approach. I learnt to do it in such a way that if they are married, their wives can take no exception, and if they are not, they don't read more into it, other than a business proposition.
The problem is that I got so used to using a business approach, and also I don't know if I would have the 'intestinal fortitude' to make a first approach
God Bless us All
One good way of introducing yourself in a chance encounter is to accidentally on purpose bump into someone preferably making that person drop something that way you can make the excuse to invite the person out for a drink or meal as a way of apologizing.
Of course you could have a few “business” cards made up that can be discretely slipped in a persons pocket or bag that has your phone number on saying …. “We just bumped into each other… call me”. A photo would also help so the person remembers who they have just bumped into.
There is one very important aspect in turning a chance encounter into a date and that is make the person feel comfortable. If a person feels threatened or vulnerable…. Then you have blown your chances.
but sadly seems this sweet tradition not avalaible in modern times like today.
we are too shy showing to people that we are single. and it happens to me very often. Sitting alone on the table while other tables seems very happy couples. I felt ackward and I felt people laughed at me ( even maybe what I thought is incorrect)
Yeah but once I approached a guy and pretend to borrow lighter.
and gave him compliment that he was so good at the stage ( he performed on the stage singing and playing guitar).
but it has nice reaction from him.
we've started date in the next week.
but sadly seems this sweet tradition not avalaible in modern times like today.
we are too shy showing to people that we are single. and it happens to me very often. Sitting alone on the table while other tables seems very happy couples. I felt ackward and I felt people laughed at me ( even maybe what I thought is incorrect)
Yeah but once I approached a guy and pretend to borrow lighter.
and gave him compliment that he was so good at the stage ( he performed on the stage singing and playing guitar).
but it has nice reaction from him.
we've started date in the next week.
Me and a friend was at town. At the table next to us was 3girls, i liked one of them and our eyes had met once allready. I said to my friend, i kinda need an invitation and then I make the move. I continued: the invitation is looks from her to me.
Within half an hour i had got the invite needed, she had given me the look a few times. So i stood up, walked the two meters, sat down next to her and asked: "how old are you?" and when she said 29 i asked "are you single?". She repiled: "i am...ehh... are you always this stright forward?", on which i replied: "i have waisted too much time and opportunetys in my life".
I gave her my number that she noted on her phone.
She never called, but i'm happy i did it. Cos now i feel i will dare it again. I only need one success.
you know all the places where men are where you live and places you enjoy to go, you only need to place yourself as the center of attention that draws them to you, then once you have their attention you force them to look you in the eyes, if they look away 9 out of 10 times they aren't interested, if they look deep into your eyes without breaking eye contact they definitely are interested.
another trick i learned, is while sitting alone at a restaurant or lounge, watch for the eyes and look right at whoever's interested, then ignore them...every now and then look over at them and at the moment they look to see if your looking, quickly look away
I assure you at some point they will confront you
really none of this is rocket science, the problem has always been selecting the right choice, or availability of the right choice and having that opportunity to pursue and how well you play the game
him.just like angel come to you suddenly,because of this don't look and wast your time with men not yours.Your work every day you must be very beautiful,and put confidence that you're already
beautiful woman.A beauty of woman hit men like reflection of class.
Ya it's the same way for men. Well at lest this one.. When I see someone and most time I don't ask because like you I don't like rejection I don't know anyone that does. When I have ask someone out for coffee or just to get to know them... some how thy think coffee means will you marry me.. And I can still see the dust trail from them running for the hills. Guess there is not too many woman that can handle a Cowboy.. So I would say go for it and try.. If you are like I am then your sick to death of the ( what if's) Don't take it to hart if someone said no thank's, It may not be you at all.. I don't know if this helps or not...
Good luck
and smile your beautiful ;)
Great blog!
I'm thinking maybe a badge isn't really what we need here. How about a great big "S" and make it a bright color like say, scarlet!
Sweet a Scarlet "S" to tell that they are single!
Should work huh?
Cheers! LOL!
I don't do that...But here The girls look eyes to eyes and they understand each other
Fear of rejection is somethingb we build up within ourself.. If we really think about it.. How bad is a no? How would we react ourselves when we are taken and someone asks us out?