MY SON, My Second Personal Blog

Part of my changing is going through all the things that were so prevalent in my youth relative to societal customs, values and mores. All the rigorous if not meticulous and conscientious control of my growing is now being looked at and inspected as though it is being examined for me to win a big draw in life. As if the result of this introspective and painstaking moments I am spending will give me the chance to change my life and relive it to the direction of the most advantageous way for me to get ahead in the next thirty years of my future. (that is if I get lucky to live that long)

In reality, I don't have any regrets, having been the youngest college professor during my time in my beloved birth country speak volumes that I had to initiate radical customary and cultural changes in order to have achieved and materialized my dreams given the economic and political and socio cultural situation of my country when I was young and even today. Being one of the poorest country in the world.

But this blog is not all about this or me. What it is, is the fact that I am now retired from the working capital of the world and I have all the luxury of time thinking and rethinking about what I should do, now, and better yet, what would I do now based on my past for the next 30 years of my life.

While I have a very clear cut understanding that room for mistakes on this coming months of my life is very narrow if not absolutely with zero ground as my economic venture collapsed with the global meltdown.

So having said that, I do have to look at all the angles on venturing this new chapter of life. Only I have compartmentalized it and the first thing is to look at my children and this is about my ONLY ONE AND BELOVED SON.

Here is what I have decided. First I have to wean away from my four lovely children aged from 22 to 30. Three of whom have a family of their own and the youngest, my only son, is still living in lala land. He has a good job let me tell you that, but having denied himself the portals of exclusive and elite schools of which would have been his direction, just went down the drain. He is the most intelligent of all my kids and of his classmates from Catholic School and yet it is the same intelligence that has shaped his critical and borderline hatred for the society for which he wants to change. He does know all the ills of the world and has a very good idea on how to fix it, but he is so hopelessly perched on the mind set that this world with the way humanity is today is completely crippled and no amount of change can make it better.

We oppose a lot in many ways. He possesses all the elements that I have questioned during my time. He knows all about the philosophies of Karl Marx, Engel, Thomas Aquinas, and all the prominent political stalwarts of change and yet remain undecided and worse disdainful about the possibility of contributing in the world's shape for better direction.

So where am I going? My question is, do you have any child whom you put so much trust that they know what they are doing, but in reality worry so much about them because he is a picture of conflicting puzzles and questions you have never encountered in your life?

By the way his heroes are Gandhi, Isaac Newton and Albert Enstein. Right now he works as a security at a major department store and have become the employee of the month on his third month. Saved the company so much money for initiating policies that no manager has ever heard before.

All I want from you all is to share me your feelings, your positions, and your ideas should you have any child like mine. Otherwise, any ideas and or opinions or contributions are all appreciated..

Thank you all.
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Considering the noble expectations that our children are the only future of this world and humanity, isn't our job, as parents to guide and be strong in providing them our support relative to their role as such?

I am not insisting any of my ideas to either of them and believe me, they are very independent and very strong on their commitment to experience life in their own terms and honestly, I can say that I am so happy with how they turned out,(three girls) but my son is lately occupying the best portion of my mind thinking about him and his future.

Thank you all so much.
Perhaps he is challenging u, because he loves u of course, just breathing freely where u cannot follow or have not been.

Perhaps u should view "Into the Wild" and I hope there won't be such an ending. hug
Hi lindsy

I read what you wrote, very interesting. I have no children, so I can't tell you about those feelings. 3 years ago, I lost my apartment with the meltdown. Today, I'm on my feet again, I bought a house and living in a different city, but still in Florida. We cannot predict our future or someone else's future.
All we can do is make changes, for good or bad, we have no control on how those changes will work, just wait and see.
heart wings
Hi Lindsy,

I can see, you're a great mother to your son and all your kids, and you are just being the wonderful caring mother that you are, by being so concerned about your son, but from your blog, it is also very clear that your son is greatly intelligent, trying to accomplish or make changes he sees as good for all.

Like everyone, he will learn lessons from any mistakes and find much successes too.

To sum it all up, he sounds like a great kid, and Im sure he will be okay, and as for you, well, nothing wrong with being concerned about him, afterall, he is your son.. you love him, he loves you.. and You only want the best and much happiness for him.

Good and interesting blog. Thanks for sharing with us all.

I wish you a bright happy day. hug cool
Thank you so much my friend. Your confirmation that it is very normal and okay and yes, I am looking at the depth of all the possibilities and it feels like I am diving into the chasms of inconsistency and assurance considering how I grew up and waded the current of undesirable claw of misguided steps. The difference now is that choices are so full of great variance and yes you are right, one act and it can define the up or down side of life.

The question is, my ex is now turning the tide against me, that I spoiled him so much but I do admit I went overboard and I am a little guilty. Yet I know and we all know that is not completely the case. In fact I am telling him whatever venture he decides is only for him to decide and as such free to look at it his own way.

Yes he is very strong and very erudite in the picture of the world..

Thanks my friend..
Guadal, my dearest friend. Have you read my response on the last one?

and yes, I do believe he loves me so much as he knows, love is very strong to all of us and it glued us for long, and hope to be forever.

He is not ambitious in a way as I would have projected. He is rather so laid back and so distant from all the words of the current leaders of the world. I told him, "IT IS NOT ENOUGH THAT YOU KNOW AND AWARE THAT THE WORLD IS SICK, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO OFFER A WAY TO MAKE IT BETTER."

And i reminded him about the oppressive control of England to the new world then, and the same revolutionary thinkers, did motivate themselves to change the path of which led to the very lack of freedom and the result is this good country.

He sai: "WHY ONLY US? WHY ONLY THE US? WHY NOT THE WHOLE WORLD?" But remained blank with answers..

Thanks my dear Guadal.
Manny thank you so much. While it may not ever be personal to you as to how life is with parents and children, I am sure you are aware of some political correctness in this direction considering how vocal you are with Malala? And this my friend is a light that can direct us to the future of our world.

Our participation in the ventures and thoughts of our children, now and even those that will yet to come.

Thanks my friend..
I don't worry about my children. I pray for them. And I give them advice when they ask for it.

There is absolutely nothing we, as parents, can do to make them do what we think they should do so I don't worry about them. After all, when they become adults they're on their own.

BUT!!! Their mother worries so much about them that they sometimes stay away from her calls and they tell her to back off. Because when they're 40 (they're twins) they're adults!!!

Your son is 22. It sounds like he has set alot on his table. It also appears like he's stretching his wings so just let him.
My dear friend and fellow Californian, how are you my dear Robert? Hope all is fine with you, too.

Yes I believe that he is just making all the planning in his head. He was so set to go to the force, but given his disdain about the policies played out today, I believe he is more standing to what he believes in and then initiate his move when he is ready.

I do share pretty much time talking to each other and this I am so grateful. He takes time to share me his mind and being so disciplined in many ways.

Very respectful and very reserved. he doesn't talk much even to his sisters, and they so respect him to the point of almost adoring him..

But I am just so anxious and youth passing away sometimes is scary Robert.

But I will rest and just trust like you said that he knows what he is doing..

Thanks my dear Robert..
LJ,

"my ex is now turning the tide against me,
that I spoiled him so much"

I'm sure your Sons character is testimony to the value of his worth and not the labels placed on him.. dunno
And by
"The value of his worth" I infer only, Perhaps he is not significantly challenged to the best of his abilities. It seems to me to be the cause of a lot of depression in the world. thumbs up
boys will be boys just have faith in what you've shown him and he will surely take the right path in life.
In fact I kind of thought of that and that is why I am a little consumed with some sort of questions where it got deviated because he would have qualified to to go the best schools where the inference of limitless challenges would have rooted on the principles these walls of education would have directed him.

But he, too is aware that you too, can created knowledge without going to pay superficial money for the achievement of such an education. Ultimately he claims that all a person needs is a guidance of which you now can get for free, thanks to our revolutionary development of communication and information hoards of ideas..

Thanks Non. Now the question based on your observation of which I share is what is the next step? He does listen to me, but whether he values what I say or not is beside the point..

Thanks my friend..
FROM SIMMO (my beautiful lovely wonderful boyfriend)

as parents we can only teach our children right from wrong when old enough we have to trust that they will make the right choices in life.
a beautiful young sixteen year old lass (my daughter) once told me dad how can we learn from our mistakes if you don't let us make them
A very definite margin between men and women Ed. Thank you so much.

I am very proud to tell you, though, that he doesn't ever or non of my children wants to stay away from me, in fact all of them want me to distribute my time and live with them from time to time. I believe, I have given them enough examples upon which to derive their own system to approach life. My ex and I showed them our best way and we do feel they recognize the benefit of that as a confirmation of this is coming to my house every weekend, specially now that they feel I will be moving permanently here in beautiful Minnesota where my fiance lives.

Thanks Ed.
Thanks my dear Leah and yes, how true that is, boys will be boys, At least I convinced him never to be on a motorcycle as we have given him one when he was only seven but accidents and fatalities of them bikers is so high and I told him, I will die with heart attack knowing he is riding them bikes and boy he never said anything but after that when high school he never insisted on buying another one and this I am so grateful..

Love him so much Leah..
I'm off for a game of soccer with my sons now LJ. Talk later wave
TO THE BIKERS RIDE BABY RIDE COME PICK ME UP YOU ROCKhead banger GUADAL SHUT UP
rolling on the floor laughing
SIMMO AND LEAH, what a great revelation and CONGRATULATIONS TO THE BOTH OF YOU my dear friends. My prayers and happiness for the both of you.

Yes love is in the air and I am so happy for the both of you.

Thanks Leah.

FROM SIMMO (my beautiful lovely wonderful boyfriend)

as parents we can only teach our children right from wrong when old enough we have to trust that they will make the right choices in life.
a beautiful young sixteen year old lass (my daughter) once told me dad how can we learn from our mistakes if you don't let us make them,

Yes, Simmo, but like Non said, all it takes is one turn to change direction in life. But having both balance of support and independence is truly the ingredients that we can embrace to make them have a unique and personal experience on their own. Yes indeed.. As we wean them, they are free to go and spread their wings but before that, yes, if we have done our best, it will turn out to be just that on their own. As experience is the best teacher.

Thanks again Simmo..
Guadal, yes indeed my friend. What a way of saying it. The extremes of extremes. Avalanche of pooo. A very negative way of expecting things to happen and is it because on how the big projection of the negative things in life now my friend?

Tiene nino o nina?

Gracias mi amigo. Como es tiempo en la Alemanya?
Say hi for me to John and Luke and have fun my friend. Remember picture them, and take care of the memory...intact in your mind and in an albu.

Talk to you later my friend.
Leah when love blooms, the air is filled with scents that can delight even the darkest chasms of our negative thoughts. So enjoy and don't listen to our unique and eccentric good friend of mind.

Guadal, be good now, will you? Send flowers to the new couple.

I am so absolutely thrilled my dear dear friend Leah. let's go for lunch.

I too, am in love Leah, and my heart, body and soul can't contain it. It is so beautiful and so wonderful..

Thanks again. My love is from here your place and I will soon be changing all my info.

Love you both Leah..Say hi to Simmo.. bouquet bouquet gift gift teddybear teddybear
i already worry about my unborn child. how the kid is going to survive in this sick world?
Aj, I AM SO STUNNED with your response. And AJ that is exactly what my son said? "OUR GREATEST GIFT IS TO STOP PROCREATION?"

I am so not into this AG but look at that..
Regardless of time and place AJ, parenting is not for everyone, either by biological and or by choice and that is alright. But what is wrong is if we take on the role and yet remain irresponsible and ignorant about the efforts necessary to provide guidance with these youths and young ones. We do owe it to our world and humanity to give the best we can to show them the way. There is no other way.

In the world today, per my observation, is not equipped with the skills and or interest in knowing what is the difference between raising a child properly and just live them like pigs.

I have seen the difference AJ. I do know that no matter how good we think as responsible parents do our best to educate and guide them, STILL THEY WONT TURN TO BE WHO WE THINK THEY SHOULD BE, but that is the risk we have to accept.
AJ on your last comment of having to selfishly take the back seat,. I believe that, too, is a choice, although people like John Lennon, Gandhi and Mandela are all underrated with the effort they put up for this world to change..

Thanks and also on the joy we as parents enjoy with all the smiles and gibberish we have with our kids? Nothing like it AJ so just be ready when your time comes.

Thanks AJ
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You can bake a cake but they won't all rise or meet your expectations. That does not stop you from trying to bake the best you can.
Regardless you enjoy the fruits of your Labour.
Acceptance is a key ingredient of enjoyment.
Interference is the key to resentment.
While I'm no brainwave, I know how to use the subconscious to achieve outcomes.
There's more than one way to skin a cat. (Saying)
Thanks Jarred
lind
You don't have to worry about your son...mistakes are part of the package deal...parent or child...but sounds like he is just that a twenty-two year old with some ideas...he is smart and will like most change his mind and set out to become what he needs to be...wine
Yes my friend, I'm confident he'll settle with what he wants in life that hopefully will serve humanity

How's life treating you my friend.
lind
I am getting old...lol...my aches and pains...to much heavy work...need to get a massage!!sigh laugh
My dear didn't mean to ignore you but please do get your therapy

Love you my friend.
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