WHEN DO YOU PULL AWAY FROM A RELATIONSHIP?
You think and feel you found happiness. You both fit. You both are too excited. But as you begin to settle down and discover things that rather overwhelm you and can't seem to make it work, you begin to feel the shudder of doubts and skepticism. But deep inside of you and your heart, you know you have a spark of love that keeps on getting inflamed now and then. But truth keeps coming at you like it isn't what you expected..Something is evidently wrong. You know that feeling when it is circling around you like dark clouds building up to a destructive force worst than any storms you've ever been into.
The problem is: Not that you don't want to leave, but that it is very difficult to come up with an excuse why you should leave because there are some traits and characteristics that just blow you away.
Measuring up to your expectations are detrimental to any foundation of a good possibility of building up a strong commitment to stay. Yet giving more consideration seems like you're knocking at the gates of hell.
Question is when do you know when it is time for you to cut loose? Scram? Let go and go solo again?
These are very self explanatory questions sometimes but when it is you that is hurting and can't seem to find balance and trust in yourself it is hard. When you fear that the past will come creeping back and haunt you, it is not good. Yet your heart is so stubborn and your mind is going blinder than it ever was, it is very difficult. At least to me.
The truth is, not that you're not happy and content being alone, but admittedly there are so many good parts of this relationship that you've never encountered ever, and just want to stay longer.
Definitely if these issues are resolved (I know they can be resolved as love is truly there) then it would be heaven. Meantime, you're caught in a bam of two extremes where the middle point is hazy.
When do you salvage a relationship and when do you shrug your shoulders and let go?
Thanks for all your read and comments.
Comments (53)
I am aware that all the requirements needed to leave had not occurred yet, just lacking of assurance that it wouldn't repeat itself. Thanks so much
None the less many a tests must be a measure to challenge us before giving up or I'd discredit love and passion on this one.
I opt to take more struggles to fill my doubts.
Then I'd say: it's wort worthy to explore more if only to know the strength I've got.
Thanks love
None the less many a tests must be a measure to challenge us before giving up or I'd discredit love and passion on this one.
I opt to take more struggles to fill my doubts.
Then I'd say: it's wort worthy to explore more if only to know the strength I've got.
Thanks love
Hmm, your blog poses an interesting question. Is this something like Relationship-Interruptus?
Oh well, not sure how to answer here, as I belong to the "Nobody loves me club".. but I wanted to stop by and say "hi" and wish you a good day and night.
Interesting blog!
Love is all too powerful, and whom can refute it, it's here and loving it.
Thanks my friend Calleis
Thanks for the support.
Anyways, thanks again.
I don't think anyone can change a person and we just have to accept someone as they are and also just be ourselves.
I never had problems taking chances and letting someone in my life (and haven't regretted it), but the last while I just do find it wearing, and I am not sure if it's the simple reason that I haven't met anyone I like in a long time or that I'm liking my quiet life too much.
There are always chances worth taking and that sounds like one. I wish you happiness.
The great news with this current is all that I ever wanted to do is up ahead with us doing it together and I do love him more than anything else.
Having said that, I am sure we will make it a very long and wonderful life and love, just that my insecurity of the past being a possibility of coming in to visit us once in a while is creating discomfort and fear with me. But assuredly he expressed that all is going to be for the both of us, regardless as to what we want to do and I am confident at the moment it is this way.
When if ever it will come, I will then, make that needed decision regardless of the inconvenience.
There is nothing like peace, trust and passion that all go together my friend.
Thanks again KN.
Thanks my friend,..