making the first move
So I know this shy guy, 40 or so, a fellow writer, who has been fantasizing about meeting a woman who will pick him up and make him happy.Now a woman who has been a friend for a while is being a bit flirty, AND has made an arrangement which means socially they will now be bumping into each other on a regular basis. He's delighted - but not sure how to react. He's very shy. He also wants her in charge, how does he show he's interested, and yet still have her setting the pace?
I personally will reach out once or twice but if the guy ignores it, that's it, for me. Not risking rejection. But if both of them are too shy to take a risk ....
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Because he's shy he's always dated shy women and nothing exciting, he says, has ever happened to him as a result
Tell him to write everything down and send it to her.
She'll either bite or not.
He nearly died on the spot at the very thought. If she was horrified - if she told all their mutual friends his other writing name -
That is his only hope.
If he won't show her his past writings, tell him to write a new scenario based on his fantasies.
If she likes it, she'll go for it.
But I will suggest that - she does read his conventional books, he could try a gently shaded one, ask her to proofread it as a Completely New Departure and give him an opinion ...
by George I think you've got it
Funny how it's always so much easier to sort other people's problems out
Anyway I think Molly's solved this particular guy's problem.
so if I vanish again I'm not being rude
I won't try again - bedtime in vanland.
You know, I'm a shy guy. See --
Anyways, one time when I made the first move on a lady, she got all upset with me and said, "Hey! Don't go grabbing my behind like that. That's not nice. Don't you have any manners."
Then she added, "You should kindly ask me first, then I'll let you grab all you like."
Are they actors in a period drama ?
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