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Oh, not this,...
... Potus pen instant amnesty ain't flying. So glad O. man bad was able to get some 300 new judges at various levels into orofice. Often for life. Not to mention 3 new Associate J's on the Scotus. Policy changes via courts can go both ways. Even murderous ones. R v. W, much?
And amazingly, just one of his many important well kept promises. And He was as far from a Swamp expert, as a Potus can get. Not too shabby. For a moron.
Senator Dr. Paul is on fire as well. Our Maine Senator Susie looks not so, but really, she's playing the lefties like a fiddle. As did the Turtle, on the filibuster. And Texas now still able to deport criminal illegal immigrants. Much more. Other states. HR 1, HR 350. Changes in corrupt election policy at the State level, as well.
Like a red neck fiddle. The sleeping middle America has smelled the coffee, and is waking up. Delicious. That's what harassment and persecution does. Not to mention stolen erections.
Stay tuned. How nice that things go back and forth in democracies. In one party states---never surprises.
And amazingly, just one of his many important well kept promises. And He was as far from a Swamp expert, as a Potus can get. Not too shabby. For a moron.
Senator Dr. Paul is on fire as well. Our Maine Senator Susie looks not so, but really, she's playing the lefties like a fiddle. As did the Turtle, on the filibuster. And Texas now still able to deport criminal illegal immigrants. Much more. Other states. HR 1, HR 350. Changes in corrupt election policy at the State level, as well.
Like a red neck fiddle. The sleeping middle America has smelled the coffee, and is waking up. Delicious. That's what harassment and persecution does. Not to mention stolen erections.
Stay tuned. How nice that things go back and forth in democracies. In one party states---never surprises.
Argument
Ever felt like you’re losing out in arguments?
Well, get ready as I’m about to reveal 10 cool tips from psychology that can help you.
These are real techniques that anyone can learn and apply.
1. Understand the Other Person’s Perspective
The first and possibly most important psychological trick to get the upper hand in any argument is empathy.
Understanding their perspective doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but it can help you see why they feel the way they do.
Ask yourself: “Why might they feel this way? What experiences or beliefs could be influencing their point of view?”
2. Stay Cool and Collected
Ever heard the saying, “keep your cool while others lose theirs”?
This is crucial when you’re in an argument.
If you lose your temper, you’re likely to say things you’ll regret later.
Deep breaths can help.
3. Use ‘I’ Statements Rather Than ‘You’ Statements
Here’s a simple yet powerful switch that can make all the difference in an argument. Instead of starting your sentences with ‘you’, which can come off as accusatory and put the other person on the defensive, use ‘I’ statements.
For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try saying, “I feel like I’m not being heard when I speak.”
4. Listen More Than You Speak
It might seem counterintuitive, but sometimes, the best way to win an argument is to listen more than you speak.
When we’re engaged in a heated discussion, our natural instinct is often to defend our position and make sure our voice is heard. But here’s the thing: If we’re too busy talking, we might miss out on understanding the other person’s point of view.
5. Seek to Understand, Not Just to Win
This one is more about your mindset going into an argument. If your sole aim is to win at all costs, you might end up winning the battle but losing the war. That’s because a victory won by bulldozing the other person can damage your relationship in the long run.
In essence, arguing doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game where one person wins and the other loses. Instead, it can be an opportunity for both parties to learn, grow and come to a mutual understanding.
6. Avoid Absolutes
When you’re in the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get carried away and start using absolute terms like “always” and “never.” But absolutes can make the other person feel attacked and defensive, which can escalate the argument instead of resolving it.
7. Admit When You’re Wrong
No one likes to be wrong. But let’s face it, we all mess up sometimes – it’s part of being human. The problem is, when we’re in an argument, our pride often gets in the way of admitting our mistakes. We dig in our heels and defend our stance, even when we know deep down that we’re in the wrong.
Here’s the truth: Stubbornly sticking to your guns when you’re clearly wrong doesn’t make you look strong or smart – it just makes you look, well, stubborn. And it won’t get you any closer to resolving the argument.
8. Use Silence Strategically
Silence is a powerful tool in an argument that many of us often overlook. When used correctly, it can shift the dynamics of the conversation and even put you in control.
When you’re silent, it forces the other person to fill the void, often causing them to reveal more about their thoughts and feelings. This can give you more insights into their perspective and provide you with valuable information that you can use to shape your arguments.
9. Focus on the Issue, Not the Person
In the heat of an argument, it can be easy to start attacking the person instead of addressing the real issue at hand.
But personal attacks only lead to hurt feelings and more conflict, not resolution.
10. Know When to Walk Away
Let’s be honest: not every argument is worth having.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to simply walk.Link: Mindful living
Well, get ready as I’m about to reveal 10 cool tips from psychology that can help you.
These are real techniques that anyone can learn and apply.
1. Understand the Other Person’s Perspective
The first and possibly most important psychological trick to get the upper hand in any argument is empathy.
Understanding their perspective doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but it can help you see why they feel the way they do.
Ask yourself: “Why might they feel this way? What experiences or beliefs could be influencing their point of view?”
2. Stay Cool and Collected
Ever heard the saying, “keep your cool while others lose theirs”?
This is crucial when you’re in an argument.
If you lose your temper, you’re likely to say things you’ll regret later.
Deep breaths can help.
3. Use ‘I’ Statements Rather Than ‘You’ Statements
Here’s a simple yet powerful switch that can make all the difference in an argument. Instead of starting your sentences with ‘you’, which can come off as accusatory and put the other person on the defensive, use ‘I’ statements.
For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try saying, “I feel like I’m not being heard when I speak.”
4. Listen More Than You Speak
It might seem counterintuitive, but sometimes, the best way to win an argument is to listen more than you speak.
When we’re engaged in a heated discussion, our natural instinct is often to defend our position and make sure our voice is heard. But here’s the thing: If we’re too busy talking, we might miss out on understanding the other person’s point of view.
5. Seek to Understand, Not Just to Win
This one is more about your mindset going into an argument. If your sole aim is to win at all costs, you might end up winning the battle but losing the war. That’s because a victory won by bulldozing the other person can damage your relationship in the long run.
In essence, arguing doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game where one person wins and the other loses. Instead, it can be an opportunity for both parties to learn, grow and come to a mutual understanding.
6. Avoid Absolutes
When you’re in the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get carried away and start using absolute terms like “always” and “never.” But absolutes can make the other person feel attacked and defensive, which can escalate the argument instead of resolving it.
7. Admit When You’re Wrong
No one likes to be wrong. But let’s face it, we all mess up sometimes – it’s part of being human. The problem is, when we’re in an argument, our pride often gets in the way of admitting our mistakes. We dig in our heels and defend our stance, even when we know deep down that we’re in the wrong.
Here’s the truth: Stubbornly sticking to your guns when you’re clearly wrong doesn’t make you look strong or smart – it just makes you look, well, stubborn. And it won’t get you any closer to resolving the argument.
8. Use Silence Strategically
Silence is a powerful tool in an argument that many of us often overlook. When used correctly, it can shift the dynamics of the conversation and even put you in control.
When you’re silent, it forces the other person to fill the void, often causing them to reveal more about their thoughts and feelings. This can give you more insights into their perspective and provide you with valuable information that you can use to shape your arguments.
9. Focus on the Issue, Not the Person
In the heat of an argument, it can be easy to start attacking the person instead of addressing the real issue at hand.
But personal attacks only lead to hurt feelings and more conflict, not resolution.
10. Know When to Walk Away
Let’s be honest: not every argument is worth having.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to simply walk.Link: Mindful living
My blog preferences...why should I?
Blogging means a public meeting or interaction... so it's different from personal interaction.
But yes, your views/viewpoints can be expressed and that's all
Now I come to the point: My preferences, that is, why should I blog?
Not to impose my version but to incorporate the opposite views, if relevant, if irrelevant, then to ignore, but also to refute the rubbish.
I wish it to be a better world.
But yes, your views/viewpoints can be expressed and that's all
Now I come to the point: My preferences, that is, why should I blog?
Not to impose my version but to incorporate the opposite views, if relevant, if irrelevant, then to ignore, but also to refute the rubbish.
I wish it to be a better world.
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Some musings, on how it probably was pulled off....
...As I've said, forget about the small stuff. Hanging chads and so on. Turning away the odd voter who hasn't voted yet. Only 500 votes in question enough for a consideration by the SCOTUS. Only one (Florida) State. No,no,no.
In the age of IT, with voting equipment that is fully accessible, even from an off site location, many teens in their mom's basement could easily hack on in. If they can hack the Pentagon, well, and even major corporate headquarters. Much easier for someone with a machine official shop manual. And for a company corporate tech, well, a piece of cake.
But strategery was also involved, to make things far less suspicious.
So, also no need to alter votes everywhere, in fact, this is unadvised. Merely select the half dozen counties, in so many swing States, each with a major city of a million or so. Make over half of these predominantly negro in population. So in the unlikely case of being detected, all can cry RACISM.
Now, round midnight, with Red Man Bad far in the lead, it's then known just how much fiddling is needed, to come out with ten or twenty thousand more votes for sniffy, creepy, real racist, lunchbox Uncle Joe.
Then the fun work begins. Sure, the whole thing could be arranges by some clever hip keystrokes. And with unmarked vans arriving to election central sights in the wee hours. With access to monitoring personnel illegally barred.
No, the GOP/Dem local voting ratios are first gleaned from public records, so as to better mimic trends, while still assuring narrowly massaged victories for the crooks' side.
And I don't even know what I'm talking about. Just imagination, and inbred sociopathy.
In the age of IT, with voting equipment that is fully accessible, even from an off site location, many teens in their mom's basement could easily hack on in. If they can hack the Pentagon, well, and even major corporate headquarters. Much easier for someone with a machine official shop manual. And for a company corporate tech, well, a piece of cake.
But strategery was also involved, to make things far less suspicious.
So, also no need to alter votes everywhere, in fact, this is unadvised. Merely select the half dozen counties, in so many swing States, each with a major city of a million or so. Make over half of these predominantly negro in population. So in the unlikely case of being detected, all can cry RACISM.
Now, round midnight, with Red Man Bad far in the lead, it's then known just how much fiddling is needed, to come out with ten or twenty thousand more votes for sniffy, creepy, real racist, lunchbox Uncle Joe.
Then the fun work begins. Sure, the whole thing could be arranges by some clever hip keystrokes. And with unmarked vans arriving to election central sights in the wee hours. With access to monitoring personnel illegally barred.
No, the GOP/Dem local voting ratios are first gleaned from public records, so as to better mimic trends, while still assuring narrowly massaged victories for the crooks' side.
And I don't even know what I'm talking about. Just imagination, and inbred sociopathy.
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Be happy, enjoy life,...
...and avoid surrender, as much as possible. State your truth, but try to keep those wits about you, when doing so..
And when you see others not doing so, allow them enough respect, to hang on their own petard.
Thanks for the occasional help.
And when you see others not doing so, allow them enough respect, to hang on their own petard.
Thanks for the occasional help.
.18..[ . addenda.
...we are moving from Serlings key of Imagination
..into Rumsfelds known Unknowns of knowledge
In a vain attempt at killing Parkinson & his Paradox.
..it takes sum practice, but in 1,000 more daze..
..you will eventually catch on...) ..or die...
50 song memoir. ) Magnetic fields
..10,000 reasons. ) .red Man.
C. . Mental Funeral. | Autopsy.
.2. Live bullet. ) .bob Seger & silver bullet band.
1. He's dead, Jim. ) .the country Doctor.
..a. r. ) Odessey & Oracle. ) Zombies.
Part 2. Parkinson still standing...
... before & After Science. ) Enos.
..the Sciences. ) .sleep.
C. .book of dreams. ) S Miller band
.2...dream police. ) . cheap trick
1. .this Time Long ago. ) .guess who [ ?
.a. r. ) Here I dreamt eYe was an Architect.) Dec.
..into Rumsfelds known Unknowns of knowledge
In a vain attempt at killing Parkinson & his Paradox.
..it takes sum practice, but in 1,000 more daze..
..you will eventually catch on...) ..or die...
50 song memoir. ) Magnetic fields
..10,000 reasons. ) .red Man.
C. . Mental Funeral. | Autopsy.
.2. Live bullet. ) .bob Seger & silver bullet band.
1. He's dead, Jim. ) .the country Doctor.
..a. r. ) Odessey & Oracle. ) Zombies.
Part 2. Parkinson still standing...
... before & After Science. ) Enos.
..the Sciences. ) .sleep.
C. .book of dreams. ) S Miller band
.2...dream police. ) . cheap trick
1. .this Time Long ago. ) .guess who [ ?
.a. r. ) Here I dreamt eYe was an Architect.) Dec.
.r a n g e. } . . . 19.
..reading time stamps for the First day of 2nd grade.
..[ .from the preferred Strong Dictionary, 1890.® . ]
4101. Why ? *
3671...the edge | extremity.
0430. .who [ ? ! .) ..who knows why..) . standby..
.....
.4101.*.note the R to L phonics, yod hay wa...
.3267...yaaz. ) . fierce.
0834...Asher [ 7....a.) . straight. .b.) .level...c.) G O.
.d.) who....e.) . which...f.) .what ..g.) where.
Just one of several reasons to learn Hebrew @ speed. It also satisfies the September directive;
" Get Ready to read words the fast Way."..
..who knows where time goes ? ) Fairport Conv.
.b.) ..this Was. ) .Tull.
C. ..how soon is Now ? ) . Smiths
2. Now.) .maxwell
1. .yhwh .} U 2 ..| .who was & is and is there.
..also ran. ) .who are the brain police ? - zappa
..[ .from the preferred Strong Dictionary, 1890.® . ]
4101. Why ? *
3671...the edge | extremity.
0430. .who [ ? ! .) ..who knows why..) . standby..
.....
.4101.*.note the R to L phonics, yod hay wa...
.3267...yaaz. ) . fierce.
0834...Asher [ 7....a.) . straight. .b.) .level...c.) G O.
.d.) who....e.) . which...f.) .what ..g.) where.
Just one of several reasons to learn Hebrew @ speed. It also satisfies the September directive;
" Get Ready to read words the fast Way."..
..who knows where time goes ? ) Fairport Conv.
.b.) ..this Was. ) .Tull.
C. ..how soon is Now ? ) . Smiths
2. Now.) .maxwell
1. .yhwh .} U 2 ..| .who was & is and is there.
..also ran. ) .who are the brain police ? - zappa
Profile Photo - A Matter Of Debate
I have witnessed the Debate here on CS , over NOT Having a Photo on Profile , so many times ...
I really wonder , the people who make it a matter of debate , do they even think about it logically before starting to make it such a big deal !!!
After all , it's just about Personal Choice on a dating site like this CS...
If someone Feels Good to Show their Photo Publicly , that's Fine...
And If someone Don't Want to Show it Publicly , that's Also Should be Fine ...
No One Should Question or Complain about the Personal Choice anyway ...
This type of sites , where it's NOT NECESSARY , to mention your Full Official Address , Contact Details , Identification Number or even your Official Name , PUBLICLY ON THE PROFILE , then there is NO reason to put your Personal Photo PUBLICLY ON THE PROFILE as well..
Because , just like other Personal Information mentioned , your Photo is also a very crucial part of your BASIC PRIVACY & SAFETY matters ...
And specially in a site , where is NO GUARANTY to make your Photo Secure after uploading Publicly , as in here on CS , I have noticed before many times , when peoples' photo was Morphed and Posted openly on Public Forum Without their advance Permission , I find it's EXTREMELY UNFAIR for the SITE AOUTHORITY to ask the members to put their Personal Photo Publicly ...
Certainly , to Identify and to Decide a Potential Date , Appearance plays a vital role..
But
That DOES NOT MEAN that you SHOULD SHOW YOUR PHOTO PUBLICLY TO ALL THE COMPLETE STRANGERS WHEN THERE IS NO SAFEGUARD PROVIDED BY THE WEBSITE ...
You can always share your Photo Privately with Someone Specific when it comes to Select a Date Online...
The Choice to Share your Photo Privately with the ones you are willing to , is Always There ...
And for just Profile Decoration , the SITE MUST be flexible enough to ALLOW any OTHER types of DECENT IMAGES (like Nature , Art , Qouatation etc.) In the place of Profile Picture ...
Just make sure , NO One Uses FAKE PHOTO (Borrowed From Someone Else
) as a Profile Pic ...
Yes .. It's good to have an option to post Pictures on Profiles .. But Just As Optional , Not as Obligation ...
I really wonder , the people who make it a matter of debate , do they even think about it logically before starting to make it such a big deal !!!
After all , it's just about Personal Choice on a dating site like this CS...
If someone Feels Good to Show their Photo Publicly , that's Fine...
And If someone Don't Want to Show it Publicly , that's Also Should be Fine ...
No One Should Question or Complain about the Personal Choice anyway ...
This type of sites , where it's NOT NECESSARY , to mention your Full Official Address , Contact Details , Identification Number or even your Official Name , PUBLICLY ON THE PROFILE , then there is NO reason to put your Personal Photo PUBLICLY ON THE PROFILE as well..
Because , just like other Personal Information mentioned , your Photo is also a very crucial part of your BASIC PRIVACY & SAFETY matters ...
And specially in a site , where is NO GUARANTY to make your Photo Secure after uploading Publicly , as in here on CS , I have noticed before many times , when peoples' photo was Morphed and Posted openly on Public Forum Without their advance Permission , I find it's EXTREMELY UNFAIR for the SITE AOUTHORITY to ask the members to put their Personal Photo Publicly ...
Certainly , to Identify and to Decide a Potential Date , Appearance plays a vital role..
But
That DOES NOT MEAN that you SHOULD SHOW YOUR PHOTO PUBLICLY TO ALL THE COMPLETE STRANGERS WHEN THERE IS NO SAFEGUARD PROVIDED BY THE WEBSITE ...
You can always share your Photo Privately with Someone Specific when it comes to Select a Date Online...
The Choice to Share your Photo Privately with the ones you are willing to , is Always There ...
And for just Profile Decoration , the SITE MUST be flexible enough to ALLOW any OTHER types of DECENT IMAGES (like Nature , Art , Qouatation etc.) In the place of Profile Picture ...
Just make sure , NO One Uses FAKE PHOTO (Borrowed From Someone Else
) as a Profile Pic ... Yes .. It's good to have an option to post Pictures on Profiles .. But Just As Optional , Not as Obligation ...
She didn't follow my latest design... oops!
A designer I worked with a few years ago took an assignment in a foreign country. I didn't ask, but the pay must have been enough for her to pack up and relocate. She contacted me with a request to do the design for her younger sister's bathroom renovation. I said yes and to my surprise, the sister already started some of the demolition, ordered custom glass doors and was getting bids from a few contractors.
The goal was to enlarge the bathroom by taking the wall out to the adjacent closet. Okay, I get it... where do you plan to relocate the closet? They had no idea.
Since it wasn't a bearing wall, she was okay with taking a few feet from the living room in order to enlarge the bedroom in compensation for enlarging the bathroom.
I took measurements, asked 30 questions and came up with a design... It was totally different than what was in her or her sisters heads.
She said she was 'blown away' I was able to make everything fit. She loved it.
My statement was "Thanks, but it's only the first round concept. We need to confirm if what I'm suggesting is doable. Plumbing, electrical and air conditioning duct work will need to be moved."
One of the requests was to locate the main wall more toward the living room from where I showed. The problem there was the custom glass door was in production and no changes could be accepted. That means the opening for the door has to be shifted a few feet. It's an exterior wall and expensive to relocate.
I resubmitted drawings showing the enlargement/revisions while she got a price from the contractor and was going in the direction of "Let's do it" but her older sister said, wait... this needs more thought. I agreed, since my dimensions were only concept and they knew I had to return to remeasure and get exact sizes.
On Tuesday, the younger sister said she made a decision and wanted to get started right-away. I couldn't go yesterday, but made it a point to go there today.
Thinking they would start in a week or two, I was surprised to find all the demolition was done. The contractor tore up the place. The floor tile was gone, all the interior partitions removed, gutted electrical and a/c duct work hanging from the ceiling.
The "Oh shit" exception: He already built and drywalled the wall between the bedroom and living room according to the OLD SET OF DRAWINGS. The sister wasn't working with the revised set I emailed 2 weeks ago. I spotted this mistake immediately as the revision had the wall about 4 inches from the door casing and I could see it was more than a foot.
I had a set of revised drawings with me as I was going to put my new dimensions on them. Too late for that. I gave that set to the contractor who will move the wall he installed today and will work through the changes to fit the conditions.
Hopefully they won't charge her too much to move the wall, probably a few hundred in labor.
It's a good thing I caught that mistake before all the electrical, a/c and plumbing was done. Otherwise, she would have to accept it the way it was, or pay a few thousand to have the changes made.
The goal was to enlarge the bathroom by taking the wall out to the adjacent closet. Okay, I get it... where do you plan to relocate the closet? They had no idea.
Since it wasn't a bearing wall, she was okay with taking a few feet from the living room in order to enlarge the bedroom in compensation for enlarging the bathroom.
I took measurements, asked 30 questions and came up with a design... It was totally different than what was in her or her sisters heads.
She said she was 'blown away' I was able to make everything fit. She loved it.
My statement was "Thanks, but it's only the first round concept. We need to confirm if what I'm suggesting is doable. Plumbing, electrical and air conditioning duct work will need to be moved."
One of the requests was to locate the main wall more toward the living room from where I showed. The problem there was the custom glass door was in production and no changes could be accepted. That means the opening for the door has to be shifted a few feet. It's an exterior wall and expensive to relocate.
I resubmitted drawings showing the enlargement/revisions while she got a price from the contractor and was going in the direction of "Let's do it" but her older sister said, wait... this needs more thought. I agreed, since my dimensions were only concept and they knew I had to return to remeasure and get exact sizes.
On Tuesday, the younger sister said she made a decision and wanted to get started right-away. I couldn't go yesterday, but made it a point to go there today.
Thinking they would start in a week or two, I was surprised to find all the demolition was done. The contractor tore up the place. The floor tile was gone, all the interior partitions removed, gutted electrical and a/c duct work hanging from the ceiling.
The "Oh shit" exception: He already built and drywalled the wall between the bedroom and living room according to the OLD SET OF DRAWINGS. The sister wasn't working with the revised set I emailed 2 weeks ago. I spotted this mistake immediately as the revision had the wall about 4 inches from the door casing and I could see it was more than a foot.
I had a set of revised drawings with me as I was going to put my new dimensions on them. Too late for that. I gave that set to the contractor who will move the wall he installed today and will work through the changes to fit the conditions.
Hopefully they won't charge her too much to move the wall, probably a few hundred in labor.
It's a good thing I caught that mistake before all the electrical, a/c and plumbing was done. Otherwise, she would have to accept it the way it was, or pay a few thousand to have the changes made.
So finally... historic win of the farmers protesting for 378 days...
The joker had to agree to their demands. The government sent the official letter to the five member committee constituted by the SKM (a body of the farmers). The farmers are still apprehensive whether the government would implement the written submissions. So they have called off the agitation suspending the movement. They will take stock of the developments on 21st. of January and review the decision before taking the final call of ending the movement.
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