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My most recent relationship failed after 4 days of being together. I think what I did wrong was…nothing. At this point I have learned enough from dating to know what not to do. I’m over it. If a man doesn’t want to invest his time into me then he’s not worth it. I’m back with a vengeance. Lol not really. It just sounded cool to say. I’m back with a cool air. Keep it low key they say. You don’t want to be high maintenance now they say. Guess what? I do not care. I know I’m not high maintenance. If I appear any way at any given moment it was just how I was feeling at that moment. I’m so tired of not being able to be myself. That’s all I feel relationships are. Gotta be someone else to hook em’. No I do not. I highly disagree. You get to the point where you date so much that being alone takes on a whole new meaning. In a sense that you can have peace and freedom…and happiness. It’s possible and I’m not going to let anyone tell me differently.

I get joy now doing things for myself. The last 5 days my resting heart rate has lowered from pushing myself in the gym daily. I signed up for a CPR course on Friday so that I can advance professionally. I’m doing things that are important to my mental health and growth. It’s a real challenge just to keep the environment around me clean. It’s a daily struggle. I get a sense of fulfillment when I actually do keep it clean. I may not be where everyone else is in life but feeling my own sense of achievement is what’s important to me. I don’t compare anymore. I can’t. It gets me down every time.

Oh and I have long flowing mermaid hair again. Very happy about that. And there are no knots. Lol. Having hair this long can get stinking difficult.

I am appalled at how far ads are going.
And I thought: "I don`t feel like a prude or old fashioned, but WOW... Is nothing or anything private any more? Nothing is left to cover a person.
( I see things as small as a band aid barely covering someone`s back-side)....why bother?!
Are commercial ad companies starving??? Seeing an ad of a girl shaving much too close to her crouch, is mostly not something people are anxious to look at. Soon, we may see everything & it won`t matter, when nothing is sacred (well maybe some men who want to see much more, or doesn`t care what shows....& anything goes!!
I was taught to cover my "privates", when I was young, & taught mu 5 kids the same....You have to value what your body is for. It taught me to have the best part of me be special & not shown. The institution of being less covered, is -anything goes as long as there is money in it. Nessie G.

after a while on this site.

Whatever is going on in your life will pass, it may pass like a kidney stone but it will pass.

Well, today is turning out so much better than planned.

First of all, the world did not end over night, so that's a good start. My
electricity is flowing nicely, thank you very much, and my internet signal
is a as strong as my dog's breath.......yow

Now I'm fully prepped to wait for the materials that I ordered in town
yesterday. They promised to be here about mid day......yeah, right.

It never happens. I end up blowing the whole day and getting so damn
frustrated I can't think straight. I've had deliveries as late as 8:30 in the
evening and worse, the next day........

But, you won't believe this, they've already come and gone. And better?
The order was COMPLETE.....

Now, to even improve on that, because I planned on the day being a total
write off, that didn't get written off, I noticed on my day planner that today
is Tuesday. I had emotionally written the day off and thought that it was
already Wednesday........so I win a whole extra new day.

Time is something that you just can't buy. And I just got a whole day for
free.........

Problem is, I don't know what to do with it yet..........

I think that many people enjoy being miserable. They go thru life trying to find people that are more miserable than they are so they can feel better about themselves. They tend to resent those that are content or joyful in life.

Compliments to them, puts them defensive because they think there is an ulterior motive. Twisted people twist honest comments to mean some very strange things.

They go home and wonder "Whats wrong with my shoes?" "I need my hair redone" or "OMG, I used too much/too little eye-shadow today" or worse.
Oh, if we only lived in a world where things were taken at face value.

Misery is a result of depression. Everyone deals with depression at some point in their lives. The depression is a self-sustaining misery that is inside and can only be stopped by yourself. It is created and maintained only by you.

People are bombarded during their lifetimes with ideas based on delusions. We are told by society, friends and family how life is supposed to be lived. We are told how we should feel about things and what is supposed to be important. When we do not live up to the expectations placed upon us we feel we have failed in some way.

Life is just life, nothing more.
Your life is an accumulation of things you have experienced, feel and believe. It is yours and yours only.
My life is not the same as your life and that is normal. What is important to you may not be important to me and vice-versa. You are either alive or you are not.

Depression comes when what we expect from life is not want we encounter in life. Others tell you what to expect in life. When those expectations do not happen it is a let down. When you tell yourself what to expect in life you are setting yourself up for misery because life is just life. Misery leads to depression which leads to misery which deepens the depression.

There are ways to cope with misery and cope is what you must do to master yourself.
The most important thing to know is that you are the only one that lives/lived your life. Nobody on this planet has more experience being you than you. Recognize the things you tell yourself that are initiated by others. Ask yourself if you really like this or despise that or is it because that is what other people have told you to do?
Embrace your strengths and identify your shortcomings and either do something about them or accept them as they are. Don't be who you are expected to be, be who you really are.

A man once told me that to find a woman you have to act like a man. Well, I thought about it for a moment and replied..."I AM a man". What makes me a man? His reply was that I should watch football and be a tough guy. Well, I don't like those kind of sports and I don't force my beliefs on anyone let alone demand anything of them. I am a male and I have played the Manly Man game to the point I lost myself for a bit. I learned to just be me and not worry about how others think of me. I find that people like the me I am, as I am, naturally without those forced delusions.

Anytime you are deluded into being something you are not you will get depressed because it is more difficult to maintain a lie than to be honest. Those failures that come with maintaining a deception add to your inner misery causing discomfort. All of it is caused by you, yourself and the failure of being deceptive to yourself.
If you understand yourself and own your own feelings and desires you can live in an honest state of mind.

My depression almost killed me years ago. I was ready to just end this misery anyway I could. I sought assistance and learned the things I needed to learn. I have been stripping away delusional thinking ever since. Delusions of society. Delusions of other people and my own self-sustaining delusions. It is a work in progress and I may never be able to see reality clearly but I am making steady progress.

I love me. Without me - there is nothing.

who are we to judge the look of a person they could be an angel changing us??

We must live in the real world and not in a virtual world

What If :We Took Internet TOO Seriously? Time to blow your mind

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