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LIFE – Take it or leave it.
LIFE. Some have it easy and some have it easy-ish, whilst it’s a very trying experience for many, and hell-ish for many more. Many of those who are blessed with an easy life can become so comfortable, that they have no care for those who have a tough life. They tend to lack respect for those who struggle to survive, whilst those who have a hard life can become so angry and resentful, that they have no care for those who have it easy/easier.
You may think that a person (e.g. the poor, the sick, the homeless) who seems to accept whatever happens to him/her as being lazy or foolish for not doing anything about it, whilst you may view the person who is constantly hustling/fighting for “betterment” (e.g. a roadside vendor, a farmer, a car salesman) as being note-worthy, but who’s to say that either state of being is BETTER than the other?
Taking whatever live sends our way – blessings and testings – can be beneficial, but it depends upon how we respond to what we are sent. Our personal view or frame of mind determines what we value about the experiences that we have. Accepting things as they come with an attitude of gratitude usually means that we’re easy going, and are also thankful for the good AND the not-so-good, but fighting to get what we want doesn’t have to mean that we are greedy or ungrateful. The former is about being contented, whilst the latter is about being ambitious.
Some things that LIFE throws at us are easier to deal with than others, so sometimes we have to fight in order to get the outcomes that we want. That’s LIFE!
Is it better to take whatever LIFE sends your way, or should we fight to get what we want out of it?
You may think that a person (e.g. the poor, the sick, the homeless) who seems to accept whatever happens to him/her as being lazy or foolish for not doing anything about it, whilst you may view the person who is constantly hustling/fighting for “betterment” (e.g. a roadside vendor, a farmer, a car salesman) as being note-worthy, but who’s to say that either state of being is BETTER than the other?
Taking whatever live sends our way – blessings and testings – can be beneficial, but it depends upon how we respond to what we are sent. Our personal view or frame of mind determines what we value about the experiences that we have. Accepting things as they come with an attitude of gratitude usually means that we’re easy going, and are also thankful for the good AND the not-so-good, but fighting to get what we want doesn’t have to mean that we are greedy or ungrateful. The former is about being contented, whilst the latter is about being ambitious.
Some things that LIFE throws at us are easier to deal with than others, so sometimes we have to fight in order to get the outcomes that we want. That’s LIFE!
Is it better to take whatever LIFE sends your way, or should we fight to get what we want out of it?
AGING - a Blessing, or a Curse?
“Indeed, You have made my days as handbreadths, And my age is as nothing
before You”. (Ps 39:5)
“Wisdom is with aged men, and with length of days, understanding”. (Job
12:12)
A few years ago, I remarked to one of my girlfriends that my body may be aging, but my eyes and mind still ‘see’ and ‘think’ with the same youthfulness as when I was in my twenties and thirties. Not that maturity and life’s many experiences haven't had (and continue to have) its impact on the quality of my thought processes, but it is as though my mind has not really caught up with the ‘physical’ aging that is taking place. Due to 'good genes' and hair colour (dye), I manage to look a bit younger than I actually am, but my body’s sometimes unanticipated and unexplained pains always let me know just how OLD I am becoming.
What are some of the issues associated with aging?
Including ‘unanticipated and unexplained pains, and slowness’, one can add:
-Uncertainty about one’s ability to manage future expenses;
-Concern about the future care of one’s children/dependants;
-Fear of being alone;
-Health issues such as cancer, heart problems and Alzheimer’s/Memory loss; and
-Death itself.
But aging does offer some benefits. “Reeeally?” is what you might be thinking about now, right? Well, from my perspective, “Yes, it reeeally does”. 
As I have aged, my experiences in life have caused my level of wisdom and understanding to increase, my confusion and anxiety about my past mistakes and future challenges to subside, and my dedication to God and value for life to become more fervent.
No, I haven’t figured it all out. I still may make foolish mistakes, and I can sometimes become very anxious about my future regarding issues like generating enough income to meet health needs, food, home maintenance bills and so on. Also, my dedication and zeal may wane from time to time causing me to want to give up the fight.
But I can’t stop aging, nor can I dictate the future. The only way I can keep myself from freaking out is to deal with each day as it comes, trusting God for His divine Grace and Mercy to take me through to the end – whatever aging may bring.
Aging may be a curse, but it can also be a blessing.
before You”. (Ps 39:5)
“Wisdom is with aged men, and with length of days, understanding”. (Job
12:12)
A few years ago, I remarked to one of my girlfriends that my body may be aging, but my eyes and mind still ‘see’ and ‘think’ with the same youthfulness as when I was in my twenties and thirties. Not that maturity and life’s many experiences haven't had (and continue to have) its impact on the quality of my thought processes, but it is as though my mind has not really caught up with the ‘physical’ aging that is taking place. Due to 'good genes' and hair colour (dye), I manage to look a bit younger than I actually am, but my body’s sometimes unanticipated and unexplained pains always let me know just how OLD I am becoming.
What are some of the issues associated with aging?
Including ‘unanticipated and unexplained pains, and slowness’, one can add:
-Uncertainty about one’s ability to manage future expenses;
-Concern about the future care of one’s children/dependants;
-Fear of being alone;
-Health issues such as cancer, heart problems and Alzheimer’s/Memory loss; and
-Death itself.
But aging does offer some benefits. “Reeeally?” is what you might be thinking about now, right?
Well, from my perspective, “Yes, it reeeally does”. As I have aged, my experiences in life have caused my level of wisdom and understanding to increase, my confusion and anxiety about my past mistakes and future challenges to subside, and my dedication to God and value for life to become more fervent.
No, I haven’t figured it all out. I still may make foolish mistakes, and I can sometimes become very anxious about my future regarding issues like generating enough income to meet health needs, food, home maintenance bills and so on. Also, my dedication and zeal may wane from time to time causing me to want to give up the fight.
But I can’t stop aging, nor can I dictate the future. The only way I can keep myself from freaking out is to deal with each day as it comes, trusting God for His divine Grace and Mercy to take me through to the end – whatever aging may bring.
Aging may be a curse, but it can also be a blessing.
The Justice Phase
Indictments are expected to drop soon re. the illegal targeting and spying(and subsequent Special Counsel) of the Trump campaign.
There's many candidates for who will be indicted, but who do you think will be the 1st?
My guess is Joe Pientka
There's many candidates for who will be indicted, but who do you think will be the 1st?
My guess is Joe Pientka
online today!
Let's see if we can't get that to work...
I had a boss who inverted the can/can't statement. I'm sure he learned it from someone.
To me, it always sounded like a statement of failure. Why would you 'not' want something to work?
"Let's see if we can't get that to work..."
No boss, let's see if we CAN get that to work!
To me, it always sounded like a statement of failure. Why would you 'not' want something to work?
"Let's see if we can't get that to work..."
No boss, let's see if we CAN get that to work!
‘Missed’ Intentions and Misinterpretations.
Recently, bcjenny posted a blog about a 4 year old who speaks 7 languages. Jenny stated that she had “…read about some people who speak 15 languages…” and “…always wondered don't they get some mixed up?” Don’t they? Maybe. Maybe not.
The English language, all by itself, can sometimes get just that – mixed up. So much so, that a person could speak words/phrases/sentences with one particular intention, but somehow end up with a meaning (or meanings) that implies another intention. And this may be based solely on another’s perspective/focus and interpretation. Sometimes, we could miss the point.
It is amazing the way in which, whilst typing, the structure and content of a somewhat simply sentence, can affect overall intention and interpretation. But more than that, is what happens to the accuracy of that interpretation if even one word or punctuation mark was missed during the reading of it. Often, small words like “not”, “and”, don't, “or” and “but” are missed when some of us read/skim/scan too quickly. That can then cause us to mis-interpret what the intention of the writer was, leading us to give responses that are irrelevant, indifferent, or rude, etc. Add to that the lack of appropriate punctuation, and the reader can become quite confused.
In life (and on CS) these things happen, so instead of assuming the worst about a person’s intentions, maybe give him/her the benefit of the doubt. One could either wait or ask for clarity on the subject before responding, and if one’s response wasn’t what was meant, then it’s okay to apologise and amend what was said. After all, MOST of us are here to share with others, learn from others and make friendships. So let’s not become foes over a ‘missed’ intention.
The English language, all by itself, can sometimes get just that – mixed up. So much so, that a person could speak words/phrases/sentences with one particular intention, but somehow end up with a meaning (or meanings) that implies another intention. And this may be based solely on another’s perspective/focus and interpretation. Sometimes, we could miss the point.
It is amazing the way in which, whilst typing, the structure and content of a somewhat simply sentence, can affect overall intention and interpretation. But more than that, is what happens to the accuracy of that interpretation if even one word or punctuation mark was missed during the reading of it. Often, small words like “not”, “and”, don't, “or” and “but” are missed when some of us read/skim/scan too quickly. That can then cause us to mis-interpret what the intention of the writer was, leading us to give responses that are irrelevant, indifferent, or rude, etc. Add to that the lack of appropriate punctuation, and the reader can become quite confused.
In life (and on CS) these things happen, so instead of assuming the worst about a person’s intentions, maybe give him/her the benefit of the doubt. One could either wait or ask for clarity on the subject before responding, and if one’s response wasn’t what was meant, then it’s okay to apologise and amend what was said. After all, MOST of us are here to share with others, learn from others and make friendships. So let’s not become foes over a ‘missed’ intention.
Some things I’ve learnt along the way…(pt. 4)
Over the last 20-30 years or so, I’ve had some ‘eye-opening/mind-changing’ revelations about myself and my life. Some of those revelations are about my relationship with myself, with my immediate family, with ‘ex’ friends and with an ‘ex’ husband – and are very personal. Others were revealed to me through observations, mistakes and other challenges that I experienced along the way.
Just after we were wed, my husband informed me that I was no longer an “Independent” woman. That thought actually made me feel sad, and even brought tears to my eyes. However, I was already married and resolved to make it work. After all, why should being inter-dependant be a bad thing? I tried, but it was difficult to let go of my independent nature; I was so accustomed to making my own decisions that I still did so frequently and automatically. And he was displeased. Then I became co-dependant which was unhealthy; I became ‘clingy’, and that only made things worse (for us both).
When our marriage ended and I had regained control over myself and the few things that I still owned, I felt that I had become alive again. It was as though I had been holding in my breath before, but could now breathe out. It had nothing to do with finances because I had none, had no full-time work and was completing the final year of my second Bachelors degree. That marriage experience has caused me to have a ‘fear’ of what marrying a second time may do to me in my fierce need to remain independent.
*Letting go of one’s Independence to become co/interdependent, can be difficult for someone who’s very attached to it.
I’m not a perfectionist, but I don’t like myself when I make foolish mistakes or wrong assumptions/presumptions. I expect better of myself, yet don’t always do better. Then I feel very disappointed and, based upon the nature of my error/faux pas, would ‘stew’ over it for days, months and even years. Introspection helps me work through a lot, but Over-thinking seems to be my ‘kryptonite’. I’ve looked back on my life and feel sure that I “dropped the ball” too many times.
However, realizing that there is no profit in ’beating-up’ myself about such things slowly came to me, and I’m working on changing that…daily. I often have to engage in “self-speak” and remind myself that what’s done is done; fix what I can and move on. Take better care of ‘me’, and don’t punish myself unnecessarily. I am what I am…’imperfect’.
*I have to accept myself, and learn to love me (flaws and all).
Just after we were wed, my husband informed me that I was no longer an “Independent” woman. That thought actually made me feel sad, and even brought tears to my eyes. However, I was already married and resolved to make it work. After all, why should being inter-dependant be a bad thing? I tried, but it was difficult to let go of my independent nature; I was so accustomed to making my own decisions that I still did so frequently and automatically. And he was displeased. Then I became co-dependant which was unhealthy; I became ‘clingy’, and that only made things worse (for us both).
When our marriage ended and I had regained control over myself and the few things that I still owned, I felt that I had become alive again. It was as though I had been holding in my breath before, but could now breathe out. It had nothing to do with finances because I had none, had no full-time work and was completing the final year of my second Bachelors degree. That marriage experience has caused me to have a ‘fear’ of what marrying a second time may do to me in my fierce need to remain independent.
*Letting go of one’s Independence to become co/interdependent, can be difficult for someone who’s very attached to it.
I’m not a perfectionist, but I don’t like myself when I make foolish mistakes or wrong assumptions/presumptions. I expect better of myself, yet don’t always do better. Then I feel very disappointed and, based upon the nature of my error/faux pas, would ‘stew’ over it for days, months and even years. Introspection helps me work through a lot, but Over-thinking seems to be my ‘kryptonite’. I’ve looked back on my life and feel sure that I “dropped the ball” too many times.
However, realizing that there is no profit in ’beating-up’ myself about such things slowly came to me, and I’m working on changing that…daily. I often have to engage in “self-speak” and remind myself that what’s done is done; fix what I can and move on. Take better care of ‘me’, and don’t punish myself unnecessarily. I am what I am…’imperfect’.
*I have to accept myself, and learn to love me (flaws and all).
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